Good morning

Salsa... to put it nicely.. SOSDD means same old stuff different day

Hope everyone is having a wonderful day... I'll try to sneak back in later

Leenie

hello, all,

Lost - ouch! Be careful!

marbear - thinking good thoughts for you today. No-one likes doing that stuff!

Leenie - how goes the job post-merger?

I'm on day three of rigidly sticking to the new diet plan ...feeling pretty good. I know it's only three days, but it's three more days than I've done in a long time! No cravings, no hunger, all in all pretty good. I want to thank you all, again, for being the motivator that made me start this. If all you guys can be this strong, I can too. So thank you!

yeah Havisham you rock!

Good Morning Ladies

All I want to do this morning is go back to bed. I only got about 3 hours sleep, but I have to be in class in about 2 hours so that is out of the question.

My back has been hurting really bad, so I haven't wanted to do anything. Walking or getting on my gazelle hurt so much. I have to call the insurance company to set up my PCP so I can get to the doctors. But for a little temporary relief, yesterday I went to walmart and bought a roll on pain/muscle reliever, some heat wraps and some icy hot. So hopefully that helps until I can get to the doctor.

I have been eating right, which is good. Now I just have to get the exercise in. I was thinking of doing some belly dancing as something different. It firms up your hips, and legs..

On the school front... I got my grades back for the 1st term. A in Business English and an A- in Medical Law and Ethics. Started the 2nd term on Monday and there is so much to learn its scary. My homework literally doubled and any free time I had Mon - Thurs went completely out the window. So I have to find a way to get things done.

I need to find a job, but I seriously don't want to yet. I might go look on Friday. Its the beginning of the Christmas season so I might get lucky. Then again I might wait until I start Term 3 and then go look.

On Friday I broke up with my boyfriend. Finally kicking him out. He has been such a drain on my emotions. I couldn't take it anymore.

Have to run. Going to try and do at least a 15 minute workout before school.

Have a good day ladies.

Wow, purefire, so many things to say "YAY" for....the grades - EXCELLENT! Kicking the boyfriend out, AND having the self awareness to realise that he's an emotional drain. Getting up after only three hours of sleep. I bow to you!

For your back, have you tried Yoga? It's really good for that stuff. I get horrendous sciatica and if I stick to the yoga it really helps. Just a suggestion. Also, the belly dancing is meant to be huge fun, as well as super good for you!

Hope your day goes well!

Good morning to all - hope everyone is having a great Wednesday.

good evening ladies Wow Purefire, you have ALOT going on. Good job on keeping it all together!

Havisham, congrats on being 3 days 'on program'!

and hello to everyone else

so yeah for the first week in a long time I feel in control in some areas of my life. I have been being more consistant with my children. I know that I cant change every thing all at once but being consistant with my children every day is a big thing..once they understand I mean what I say I think things will go easier. I havent felt stressed since I have been doing this...because I dont allow them to run my day anymore I run the day and thats how it should be... My boys put me to the test. I have been telling them to take care of their stuff...YES I KNOW THEY ARE KIDS..but they really have no appreciation or care for their things...so the new clothes dividers that hang in the closet I just bought they stood on and ripped them and everything was laying around there room...I am re washing clean clothes cause they just throw clothes outta there drawer and leave their dirty clothes lay on the floor...and I AM DONE...so we are going to start at step one...I clean out their room I mean everything but the bed and a dirty clothes basket is gone...i threw it outta the room and they bagged it up and to the attic it went. They kept their room clean so they got their radio back (they listen to it at night to go to sleep so its was logically the first thing) They dont put their shoes away so they get one pair of shoes and when they show they can take care of that one pair they can get another pair out of the attic. They lost their dressers even because they dont put the clothes in it any way. I gave them a plastic crate to put their pants undies and pjs in (shirts are hung) so if they can manage putting it away in there then they can get the dresser back!! If they keep their room clean every two days they can pick one item from the bags they took to the attic....I sat and expland to them cause the 6 year old was heart broken...but I am tired of empty threats and the money i spend on stuff for them is important to me and needs to be important enough for them to take care of things (yes accidents happen, but they throw there stuff, let it lay on the floor, let it out in the yard in dirt and rain....) They will learn now....Sorry if any of you feel I am to hard but I have given them time and time again...YES it is our fault cause we never properly taught them to take good care of stuff because when the boys were little and it was just them we bought and bought and bought stuff so it didnt matter if it broke...but now its a bigger family and money is important!! So the best way to learn is to start from scratch!! ITs working so far

Now my 2 year old tried me two days ago...shes my happy child and if she knows we are unhappy with her shes always like sorry mom...so i told her to get away from my school desk she told me no...so I said get away from mommys school desk or you will have a time out...she says NO and walks over and punches me (she never hits me) so to the corner she went...she screamed and turned around and walked away...back i put her...after she was done crying I told her its not ok to hit mommy and she needed to tell mommy sorry...YEAH....she was soo mad she wouldnt even look at me...so i put her back in the corner....4 times i did this till finally you could see she gave up and lost the power struggle and told me sorry then was smiling and off she went...I tell you it is tough to stick with it and not let them push me over...


ok i am rambling on about my kids when I am sure there aroe other things more important in you guys day!!!

lata

Good Morning Ladies.

Mom ~ Good for you. Its hard, but keep sticking to it and don't give in. Kids today think that they can do whatever they want and don't have to listen or do what we tell them. Hopefully they learn that you mean what you say.. Keep it up

Got 3 hours of sleep again last night. Oh well. Last day of classes for the week. running out the door.

Have a good day Ladies

Good to see you all Nothing new, sosdd. Work is work.. lots of information being handed to us.. just not the info we need to make us feel more secure. We'll know in about a month or so which sites are going to close.. other than that.. sosdd (((( I like SOSDD ))))

Have a great day chickies... remember, smile... you are loved !!

Leenie

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Pure that's a lot you have on your plate there lady! Good for you in all areas I'm excitedly waiting to see how you're doing without the emotional drain!

Mom - I think tha'ts the best way to go. My grandmother and mother use to take everything I left in the middle of my bedroom floor away if I didn't pick it up. Nothing pisses a teenage girl off like all of her brushes missing right before going out!

Everyone else

I'm tried and don't feel well. Many people around me have been getting the flu. I'm too busy to be sick! Argh! Saty away, you damn flu, stay away!!!!

Morning, Chickies,

Mom - you are amazing! I don't think you're being hard at all - I think you rock! In fact I'm going to go home tonight and take everything on my 10 year olds bedroom floor and put it away...that is an awesome idea! Think it'll work on my 19 year old??

Leenie - hang in...our thoughts are with you.

Lost - how's the packing going?

Marbear - hope you feel better soon.

Pure - get some sleep!!!

I'm having a frustrating week - you know the type where everyone you work with seems to be holding you back from moving on - like everyone has a decision disorder. And I seem to have been stuck behind a LOT of people who feel the need to go 10 under the speed limit on the way home. My commute is 50 minutes of mostly country roads, so if you get one slow poke and a couple of people won't go around them, we're all stuck. SO frustrating.

On the plus side I'm on day five of being 'on program' and going strong. Haven't had a chance to pick up my new scales yet, but I'll get them this weekend. This week I'm just staying on plan and seeing how I feel.

Thanks, again, to all of you for being here and posting support and such..YOU all gave me the strength to start this journey and I am eternally grateful!

happy Thursday to all!

Pure-I agree kids dont feel they have to listen...I was brought up that I had to listen to my elders and that was anyone adult didnt matter if they were related or not...man if even so much as talked back or used the wrong tone I was done for. Sometimes I hated it but I now see that it was a very respectful and I want my kids to be respectful but it has to start here with them being respectful at home. I cant expect them to do it to everyone else when I dont make them be respectful to me! My 3 yr old thinks its cute to tell me what I am going to do and yell at me to come in the bathroom if I dont move fast enough...Yes it is amazing/cute that she comes up with this stuff but in a year or two its not going to be...so therefore I have to HAVE to stop it now! Hopefully you get more sleep because I used to do those 2 or 3 hour nights and I was ok on it but they wear you down quickly and this time of year wears your immune system down!!

Leenie-I guess what comes to mind is God is in control. My husband always says that his company is NOT his provider but God is his provider..God just uses that company...We know that God will supply all our needs and if your time there is done he is faithful and will open the next door...if hes not ready for you to be done there!!

mar- that is awesome well it prob wasnt at the time but that is too funny!!!
Rock on Gramma!!

Havish-It is hard and its a killer to do and to stick with it but so far day three WITHOUT me telling them they take their shoes up to there room when they are done and have kept it clean every day (mostly just keeping their clothes picked up) SOOO its working and I think if they are in the habit of taking care of it and adding one thing every few days there wont be any problem keeping it clean! I dont know bout the 19yr old...it might just depends on if she cares bout what your taking away!!! I have threatened to do this for a while but I had to come to the breaking point almost angry over it and I felt bad at the time but now I am very glad that I did it now!!!

Done with boys school, lunch is over, kids been out playing, husband off to work, NAPPP time then whatever we decide to do tonight......catch you lata

Hi everyone
Sorry about not posting, I try, but then get overwhelmed.

Mom good for you for taking a stand. Flylady has sent out some testimonials about other parents doing that and they find that the kids are actually happier with less "stuff" to overwhelm them and everyone is happier with a tidy and peaceful space. I wish someone would come in here and whisk all the "stuff" away. I have to get consistant with flylady's 15 minutes a day thing.

Not to much new with me. In a new therapy group that lasts until mid Dec. Its different, but I'm trying to keep an open mind.
Haven't been doing my walks and I sure can tell. I really miss them, I think I better start taking the flashlight and my mitts for when DdC is in judo. Right now I'm suppose to be working on a halloween costume. I was hoping to find something to just revamp from the thrift store, but no such luck. Thankfully I have some appropriate material and a pattern I can mess with.

s to everyone. And as others have said I'm so glad to have all of you and this board to come to.

Take care,
K

buddly thanks for reminding me I need to go on and read some more stuff on flylady i got kinda busy didnt get to read stuff!!

buddly, sounds like you`re down...if there therapy isn`t really cutting it, feel free to PM - I`m happy to listen.