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Originally Posted by me4life
anyways, i was trying to explain and it seems like it has been taken as defending...that is not the case.
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me4life you don't have to defend him. And you don't have to appologize. This is a very supportive place (thats why I joined!) and people are just trying to reach out to you and help you.
If you want to completely support him financially and emotionally you can there is no one who can stop you. But by just what you have posted many people see warning flags all over this as I do.
It sounds like to me that you are blinded by something, I don't know, love? compassion? guilt???
If you can't take a step back and look at the whole picture for what it is then you might as well take control of the situation so you can get your life back unless you have some overwhelming desire to completely care for someone for a LONG time. And I do mean a long time, if he is eating and has a warm place to stay and you don't give him a set time to get on his own and you leave it open ended with "you can stay until you find your own place" what is his motivation for doing so?
I mean if you can live somewhere for free and just kick in a few bucks here and there to live what is the motivation to go out and get a job and pay bills and become a productive member of society with all the stress and hassle that goes with that?
The very fact that you said he is on public assistance and wants to get on disability should tell you something? Is this what you want for a soul mate in life?
If you will not heed the warnings of people who just want to give you sound advice not affected by the heart or guilt... then the answer to your original question I believe is no, I don't think a web site will do you much good.
Like I said I am no doctor but it's pretty obvious that he needs a professional to talk to so since you have taken on the role of caretaker then it is up to you to figure out some way to pay the $50-$100 an hour a psychologist will want to help your ward.
It would be interesting to see how you feel 6 months from now.
Good luck to you I wish you the best... I really do!
