Depression and Weight IssuesHave you been diagnosed with depression, are possibly on depression medication, and find it affects your weight loss efforts? Post here for support!
My husband was a chubby kid...and then our freshman year of high school shot up to 6'4...he was 150. You could literally see his ribs. He has since gained about 90 pounds and 2 inches and he is STILL skinny! He has gained much of this weight since we started dating/got married, so he has started weight watchers with me. He is not really looking to lose much, but get into better shape and lose the little pudge he has developed.
My sister in law actually didn't want him to marry me because of my weight. She said she didnt understand our relationship because he was so good looking and I was, well...fat. Luckily my DH isn't as shallow as she is and we live a wonderful happy life.
But, yes, I understand how you feel having a skinny husband. I feel the same way you do.
Body Image is a very funny thing. My DH is tall he has recently put on some weight (30 ish pounds) when we started dating forever ago he was super skinny and I was a 14 and I thought I was Blimptastic. He's also a firefighter (volunteer) I Have a disability. I'm sure people look at us and Wonder (People are AMAZED I have a normal life) Those People Are Jerks and probably more insecure than you are. All that matters is that you love each other To heck with anyone else and for those skinny witches hitting on your hubby Tell the bonebags to back off he doesn't want to cut himself on their collarbones!
Kierie
I am with all of you. My hubby is 6'4" and stays between 180-200. I get insecure at times. That's one of the reasons I want to lose the weight. I know he loves me for me....we have a ton of fun together.....but it's hard to be around skinny chicks and not feel weird.
He thinks it's silly I want to lose weight because he thinks I'm fine just the way I am. But as it starts coming off he sees how much hotter his wife could be and gets into it as much as I do. He has watched me go up and down and has stuck with me through it all.
I know he only has eyes for me. So I want to give him something awesome to look at!
I know the feeling.. my boyfriend and I actually met when I was at my highest.. boy oh boy those are days I do NOT remember fondly. Between that and the clothes he always saw me in (We both worked at Wendys, at the uniforms are not the most fashionable things) Ive always wondered what the **** attracted him to me!
And I know he loves me for who I am, but like ItsAboutTime, I feel akward when I'm around him and thinner, prettier girls. Ive always been intimidated by those I think of as prettier than I am, but thankfully this is starting to go away!
My husband is 6"4 and about 220. When we go out, some people ask if I'm his sister. I was 275 when we met, and now I'm 340. He tells me he fell in love with how beautiful I am inside and that he could care less what size I am, as long as I love myself. He gets hit on all the time. Hes tall, dark, and handsome with beautiful brown eyes. I know how lucky I am to have a man with such a good heart. We've been together 5 years now, and NOW when we go out, I LOVE it when the skinny girls see that he's mine, even though they give me the, "why is HE with YOU" look, I give them the "because I'm better than you in the kitchen AND in the bed" look...skinny biatches..eat your heart out
My husband is a power lifter, he spends at least 12 - 15 hrs. each week in the gym. He, ofcourse can eat anything he wants to. He could lose 20 lbs. in a week if he needed too. This just kills me.
My husband can barely stay at 130--he looks like he is starving most of the time even though he eats like a horse! I used to be a size 4 just 3 years ago so we looked good together but now I am a size 14 or something (too depressed to go shopping). Amazing how a baby can pretty much just ruin your body. Well, at least now I feel sick enough to do something about it!!
My husband is thin, upbeat, and just an all around happy guy. Myself, on the other hand... I'm heavy and I tend to be depressed/anxious. I totally relate to your original post, Neko (may I call you that? ). So many times, when I see the two of us in a mirror, I stop and I wonder so many things (which tend to be depressing, sadly) - yet my husband loves me dearly. I know it and believe it 100%. It gets tough and confusing though, doesn't it? I know I battle with these feelings regularly. It's so hard to let it go... but it's nice to know I'm not alone on this one.
By the way, cute icon! Totoro, right? I wonder if you're an anime fan~?
And DRAFTROBIN... haha, you're absolutely brilliant!! I hope I have that kind of self esteem some day!
My DH is 6 ft. and 175 lbs. When we met I weighed 210 lbs. and he weighed 150 lbs. My wt. continued to go up and his did a little, but not near as bad as mine. He is very muscular and has a 9% bodyfat. He can eat anything he wants and stays slender. I have definitely had other women flirt with him even when I'm standing right beside him. He is very personable and usually doesn't even recognize that he's being hit on. The thing that upset me the most was that prior to losing weight, I had women assume he was my Son. I know that he loves me no matter what my weight and always will. I lost my weight for my health and not particularly for him. I am very familiar with that "what's he doing with you" look. It used to happen to me a lot. When we were at a club once and were doing a line dance, another woman traded spots so she could dance next to him, and then grabbed his butt . He immediately told her to keep her hands off him. It's a good thing, I'd hate to have had to go to jail.
I can so identify though with the insecurity of feeling like "he's so great-looking why is he with me". Losing weight has given me more confidence and I don't worry about this anymore. I really never had any reason to think like that to start with and neither should you. Your DH is with you because he loves you or he wouldn't be there. Hugs.
In my younger days when I weighed 180 and agonized over it (now I am fighting to get back down there), my boyfriend at the time was 5'8" and 165 and slim but muscular. In tight jeans, he made everyone do a triple take. I put about 10 lbs. on him and he was whining about how fat he was getting and I said, "Sweetie, you're still thinner than I am" and he said, "Yeah, but there's a difference. On you, it looks good."
My current BF is 6'3" and somewhere between 220 and 240. And loves me fat and is loving me getting active and healthy and thinner. I know for a fact he doesn't care if I lose the weight or not, but it's certainly rewarding when he walks into the bedroom and announces, "Wow! That is a GREAT ***!"
On the other hand, I know he'd like to get back down to 190 and be slim again and I don't give two hoots. It's the man inside the body that matters, just as you ladies are saying it's the woman inside the body that matters to these lovely men in your lives. You're all very fortunate!
I have a husband and a daughter who are both thin. They can pretty much eat whatever they want and not gain weight. My husband was sick for awhile last year, and the medicine the dr put him on made him gain a little weight. After he was healthy again, he decided to lose the weight. All he did was cut back on his milk consumption-he lost 12 pounds in 3 weeks. Sometimes enough to make me hate him! Not really, of course, but it makes it difficult living with these 2. They love junk food and it's hard to get it out of the house. But they love me.. That's what counts.
I've had the oposite problem before, which I almost found to be more difficult. It was at a time when I was very thin (Like 110) and my boyfriend at the time was almost 200 lbs (And very short). I would have rather been the heavy one, because of how depressed it would make him. He was constantly "Why are you with me?" or "I'm not sexy" or "Why don't you date one of those hot guys?" as a result, I'd feel bad, and then he'd feel more bad, and it's a vicious cycle.
I think we need to stop putting guilt in our relationships. Love is love is love. Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman or man can wear, whether they're 110 or 310. Lets stop the guilt and start loving ourselves!
i know how everyone feels, i'm not hugely overweight, but compared to my bf i'm a bloody blue whale, lol.
Yeah it makes me feel pretty insecure when we go out together, but i figure that he's not once said i should lose weight and i know he'd tell me if he thought it... he's kind of brutally honest that way
But i'm still going to for myself, and i don't think he'll complain if i lose a bit of wobbly flab, lol so blue whale for not much longer hopefully
My fiancee is 6' tall and 173lbs. He was in the 180's, but he's decided to lose his body fat and bulk up on muscle. I was in the 130's when I met him & now I'm bigger than him! Such a horrible feeling.
My Hunney is thin, very attractive and tall. He also gets hit on by "cute skinny girls". I am short, unattractive and not thin. i always felt the same as you, like I was disgusting and didn't deserve to be loved and would laugh and say, "Yeah right!" when he'd say I was sexy. You know what he said to me? He said, "How do I see you with my eyes?" I said I didn't know. He told me not to tell him how he feels then. There are a lotta jerks in the world who judge people by how they look instead of who they are, but there are a few that know what's INside is what matters and your insides make your outsides beautiful to them. I'm guessing your guy, like mine, is one of those kinda people. Don't lose weight because you think you need to look better for someone else, you need to lose it for YOU. Your husband obviously loves you just the way you are since you were heavy when you met, so lose it because YOU want to look and feel better and be more healthy. Good Luck!
). So many times, when I see the two of us in a mirror, I stop and I wonder so many things (which tend to be depressing, sadly) - yet my husband loves me dearly. I know it and believe it 100%. It gets tough and confusing though, doesn't it? I know I battle with these feelings regularly. It's so hard to let it go... but it's nice to know I'm not alone on this one.
I wonder if you're an anime fan~?
