Eny~I had this novel typed, as I clicked submit it disappeared before my eyes. I will try again. His main blow was that he will not settle out of court. He quoted me an amount that was much lower than my lawyers quote. He also said I wouldn't be able to touch the $ settlement until I am 60 years old. He thinks he has an ace up his sleeve: he is going to try to nail my hide to the garage naked. He is being some what nice to me. When he does this he thinks he has royally rooked someone. That some one is me. I will be on the phone to my lawyer first thing in the morning. He also told me he has his share of the settlement already. (How can he it has not been settled yet, I think that could get him in trouble with the court) He is going to use part of it to put new siding on the other house. It has needed it since 1980 something. He is trying to put forth the idea that I was holding him down/back causing him to live with means/standards that were low for him. Trying to make me out the b-t-h. It all seems so evil to me. I need to stay calm and cool, let my lawyer handle this. He wanted/planed this to play on my emotions because he wants to hurt me some more. I don't need the stress. I don't trust him as far as I can toss him. Catch ya all later Pat

Is it too late to join a Christmas challenge? I just signed back on to the board after a long absence, and could use a kick in the rear.
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Hi Dixiemae, I'm sorry you're having to go thru all this. It sounds really awful!

Hi wanting to Welcome back! Jump right in! This is a great thread full of great people!

Hello to everyone else!

Hey all, I have missed you! It's too long a list of things that have been going on, not really stressful but they add up and get me so off track. I got back to both water aerobics and tap class this week, so that made me feel better about things. But, it must be the time of year that we are all so stuck. Need to re-adjust things and try something new maybe. I so want to look and feel better for Christmas. 20 lbs doesn't sound like a lot, but I'm still getting no where. Wish I could find something that either really suits me or really works for me. But I did get in my 3 days of exercise this week so I am very excited for that! This weekend I won't be on call, so I should be able to do better this week.

Hi to everyone new recently.

Have a good Monday. See you tomorrow. Kathy

Oh, Pat, how terrible for you.

You sound like you're doing good, though. Remember, (if you can, it's so hard sometimes!) that it's not about you at all, it's entirely about him and "getting one over" on someone. You just happen to be the target. I know how personal it can feel, but it's not, really.

Hang in there, sister-girl. You're doing so well, despite how you may feel. Did you do your exercise after he left? I've found that it's a HUGE stress reliever. I feel almost instantly better afterwards, and it keeps my roaming hands out of the cupboards and refrigerator.

Let me know if you need an ear. I can commiserate.

Wanting to: Welcome, welcome, welcome! Of course you can join in. We have, what 4 months left till Christmas, give or take?

You'll find an energetic set of cheerleaders here. It's simply awesome.

Kathy, welcome back! 20 lbs is indeed a lot. Go find a slab of meat or something and feel it in your hand. (My new trick when I'm feeling like I haven't lost enough).

Glad to see you around again!

Asynchonous: (I know I spelled that wrong, heh): Congrats on the recommittment. Looking forward to seeing your progress reports!

Oh, ladies, my news:

I have officially-officially left the 300's behind. I'm at 294.8 this week, almost 5 lbs past my Christmas goal. I've updated my ticker with my new goal for the marathon in January, but I decided to go with the Christmas motif since it seemed to work so well for me before.

I've also officially-officially made my 100 lb loss mark. I look at myself and think I should be smaller, but I can't find the single picture of me near my highest weight. I think I tore it up and threw it away when I saw it. I wish I had it now.

The girl at work said she'd come in at 5 am on Saturdays, so I have no more excuses for the Team in Training. I keep going back and forth whether I can do this, so I'm not as thrilled as I thought I would be. I've decided that I hate walking. I love hiking. I love the gym, but I hate walking. I think because it was all I could do for so long.

I overslept this morning, so I'm going to have to get moving if I want to get anything accomplished.

Y'all have a wonderful, fantabulous Monday!

Shaker~Thank you. You are right, he is lashing out. I happen to be in his way. I just wish he could let go. He did not want me, but ,still, he can't let go. I don't know if he really knows what he wants (other than $$). In some ways I pity him.~~~~~How are you doing? I did not exercise after he left. I would have rather had a big carton of Ben & Jerry's. I sat here and played spider solitare to keep my hands and mind busy on other things so I did not blow day one of my new diet program. Thank you so much!

BlueS~Thank you! How are you doing? I have to giggle here Are the tomatoes safe?? I have one ripe tomato almost ready to pick and another that is turning red. YUMMMOOOO

Eny~How are you? Did you weigh in yet this morning?

MM~You are quiet this morning. How is it going for you?

Welcome Wanting to.

I weighed in this morning. The scale was good to me~181.8. I am a little bit off my Christmas goal. I hope I hit 170ville next Monday. I am so ready for the Body Challenge to start. I am gearing up for it. I am ready for day 2 on YOAD. I didn't get in all my veggies, but the fruit was better. I cut back on the carbs so I see baby steps already. I need to pick up on the exercise some more this week. My lawyers office is open now, I need to call and get some things off my chest. I will catch ya all later Pat

Called my lawyers office they are going to check into things, call his lawyers office, check into his retirement policy and get back with me this afternoon. She was alarmed by what he told me also. Thanks! Catch ya all later Pat

Where is everyone?? If I scared you all away I am sorry!! If my problems are too much of a burden for the group I will not post them.~~~~So far the YOAD is going well. I had a big lettuce salad with turkey, walnuts, chopped apple, no dressing. I have my exercise laid out ready to do. Some one post please. Catch ya all later. Pat

congratulations, Earthshaker! that is very exciting news. Thanks for posting it.

What is the upcoming "body challenge"?
I joined the Chrismas challenge, and also a 50 miles a month thing, but I won't really be doing that until next month. I will probably have to join a new group then?

also... how do you change the numbers on your tickers?
I made a couple of tickers (see below) but don't know how to update them.
Thanks.
and thanks for the welcome.

No, no, no. Not at all.

Just a bad day, today, despite my scale's good tidings. Just achy and tired and sad.

Didn't even go to the gym today. Thank God I didn't have ice cream in the house. I'll just leave it at that.

Thank you

If you bookmark your ticker page, you can update it then. It will ask you to create a pin and provide a link to actually update it. Join as many groups as you like, I'm only really "here" typically, but I haven't branched out too much.

congrats earthshaker on all of your success. i wish you more and more to come.

dixiemae i am sorry to hear about your trouble. i am sending you good vibes.

in bumble news i have reaquainted myself with the fitness dvds that have been gathering dust. i also returned to the daily plate and began counting my calories. i have gone way off the pretty path i forged earlier this year. but i have no doubt i can find my way back again. i definitely feel better just knowing i have started again.

hope you all have a loely day.

Good Morning everyone~I am off to Indianapolis for a hearing test. I will be gone for most of the day. Please send good vibs that everything will work out for me. It is a long trip so I will catch ya all much later. Everyone have a wonderful good day. Pat