Happy Tuesday
As we speak I am testing sweaty eighth graders in from lunch. It is a pretty nice crew. Busy, today and yesterday, grading due to tom. So no personals but a grateful checkin:
Credit:
OP
5 Fruit and Vegis
Not letting exhaustion justify a binge.
Put a pair of pants in the donate bin because they were too big even though they were brand new. I'm not going back!
Just thinking... I am 58 and I still don't have a consistent hold on healthful eating. It's very frustrating, indeed.
All I can do is keep trying. I need to get up everyday and realize I can't change one thing from the past, but - I can try and make the best possible choices each day. Plan, plan and plan some more. Plan, even when I feel sullen about it all. Get through breakfast, do some deep breathing and try to move forward.
I think we all have to use all the tools at our disposal. 'It takes a village' goes for weight loss too. Books, websites, meetings, friends, ,coaches, journals, anything and everything you can think of - keep trying/using them all. Dr. Beck has a good blueprint (thanks mary).
Some of us here have always turned to food for every thing. We are 'eaters'. That's what we do. But - we can make changes the best way that we can muster.
I dream that all of us here can walk through the food storm together and make changes. It comes with one step at a time.
(I am grateful, so far, today is going well.)
Last edited by Beverlyjoy; 09-21-2010 at 04:41 PM.
I'm checking in, as well. I would love to respond to everyone however I have some pressing business to finish today so I can move on with the rest of my life.
We drove home yesterday....got home very late and I hopped up bright and early to get to the pool for water aerobics. *credit* DH stayed home. I had a great food/trip and was very pleased that my Beck skills helped me navigate through a large array of off plan food. Highlights:
Passing up an all you can eat casino buffet in favor of healthy Thai food.
Getting drive thru breakfast for DH without indulging
No acohol at the reunion
Ordering a salad at the 2nd breakfast on Sunday because I had already eaten.
Using resistance techniques to avoid McD oink out which I was seriously considering. I made the best choice I could.
*credit* for all.
I'm jumping back into a healthy routine-at least on paper...hehe. Sometimes I can't figure out why it is so difficult one week and so easy the next. I've arrived home to another emotional messy situation and I am determined not to let this situation drag me down this time. Back to the 7 questions....
Hi Buddies!!
I am now fully back on track after my 2-day lapse. Thank goodness. Thanks for being here to help me keep going.
BillBlueEyes: Good for you - veggie lunch and portion smaller than your container and diverting your tension into working harder and lunch walk.
The divorce filing for my friend was not unexpected, but I guess we were still in denial.
Beverlyjoy: Know what you mean with the chocolate. I think Gardenerjoy has a good idea about allowing one particular form of chocolate in a precise portion at a precise moment each day. That works for me often.
Jasy: Welcome! Isn't amazing how seemingly minor behavioral changes (like not eating while standing) help wake you up.
I couldn't agree more, Beverlyjoy, on how much it takes to put all the pieces of the puzzle together. That is why I read so many other threads, especially maintainers. It never ceases to amaze me how their behavior is classic Beck; they just seem to have learned it elsewhere.
Lexxiss, you have had a long journey, and deserve such credit for keeping things heading the right way. Such credit!
Jasy, so glad you have joined us; I look forward to getting to know you and learning from you as I do from all my coaches.
Had an OP day. Seemed easy today, but then I worked at home and had no outside temptation/distraction, so that helps a lot. Got a lot done work-wise, not so much for exercise. Still not ready to really "test" the better-feeling shoulder; I have set myself back in healing twice by not being able to stay away from the business end of a shovel.
Will have to harvest apples this weekend. The bad news: Honeycrisp crop not so good. The good news: the Haralreds are copious and pretty darned good. Tart and crunchy, pretty darned good.
Hi All, and thank you very much for the encouragement!
I saw my therapist today and am on another trial of medication. The last one didn't go well.
Credits: ( I may go a bit overboard today, all things considered)
-I got out of bed
-I spent 2 hours on homeschool lessons with my DS
-I completed 2 loads of laundry and emptied the dishwasher
-I ate a good breakfast, OP
-I showed up to yoga, but there was no class (I need to check the online schedule EVERY morning!
- I returned home and did some yoga on my own
-I went to therapy
-I agreed to try a new medication (adjunct to anti-depressant)
-I made 2 new Response Cards
-I have eaten OP so far today, except for a Bora Bora bar since I ran out of time for lunch
-I'm checking in here
-WI: 163
MaryContrary: I have seen some new Thermos type containers; maybe you could use something similar to take a warm lunch. You could stick the Thermos in a Trader Joe's "chilly bag", wrapped in a towel, and I bet it would stay hot. Just an idea, so you can be done with tuna!!
Well, the salsa processing went well. The most time consuming part is chopping the tomatoes ! Then there are the tears over chopping the onions and hot peppers !! This time I took more breaks and did some stretches for my back. 6 more pints for DH's winter eating.
I heard some sabotaging thoughts today and was amazed at how fast they flew into my head to try to tempt me ! DH had headed to town for something and I was having my late morning snack. When I finished, here's what my mind said -
" Let’s do something sneaky and overindulgent to make ourselves feel better"
and, also very quickly I heard -
" I'd so much rather be on program and thin than eat more right now"
It was kind of cool to feel like an outside observer watching the two types of thoughts duel it out in almost one second !
Maryann - Yeah for clearing out the too big pants !
Peacola123 - So strong you are for pushing forward and getting back on track.
Beverlyjoy - I love chocolate too. Have you ever thought of using Walden products? Their chocolate syrup (zero calories) is good I think. I also eat the Kelloggs High Protein Meal Bars - Chocolate Chip / Peanut Butter is my favorite and I also like the Chocolately Chip one too. I'm not tempted by M&Ms anymore since I get my fix in a more controlled way.
jasy - I look forward to getting to know you. Please stay with us !
Gardenerjoy - Loved what you had to say about what is considered normal eating to many. When I first started looking at portions / counting calories, it was a real eye-opener to learn how much I was routinely overeating (even when not binging !)
As always, reading everyone's posts helps me a lot - so thanks for coming and writing on the forum.
I am going to echo what Beverlyjoy and maryblu said about planning. I didn't have a plan on Friday and after 6 days of smooth sailing, I stumbled. I am still trying to get back there. I think no plan for me leads to eating badly, which leads to more eating badly. Once I get in the groove I do pretty well.
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Made a big step at work in resolving the recent tension. It's amazing how productive it is to finally find a document that explains what I'm trying to solve myself. CREDIT moi for chugging along.
Yesterday was International Banana Festival day, or so I'm told, which was the reason I was handed a FREE banana in the morning on my way to work. What a happy happenstance. I decided to eat it in the afternoon as I was working a tad late, in place of my afternoon snack, CREDIT moi. Then, at home, I had my afternoon snack anyway - Ouch. This duplicating snack thing seems to be trying to slip in as a trend; gotta stop it.
maryblu - Congrats to the Twins for winning the American League Central title - if you'll accept congrats from a member of Red Sox Nation who aren't even in the running for wild card this year. Every Op day is an Op day, easy or no.
CeeJay - Yay for planning; it works.
Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for using your inner rebel to subvert the over-advertised food like stuff. Big thanks for the reminder to compare ourselves against successful dieters and maintainers rather than the people in the commercials gobbling the corporate offerings.
Beverlyjoy - Kudos for "not running away from here" along with thanks for being part of us. We'll remain right here all the way through your surgery and recovery back into your productive life. Your 'kick off' party sounds like a hoot - Yay for young creative minds. Did the teenager show up?
Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for "a really productive and positive meeting" - so many meetings and so few fit that description. LOL at "awfulizing" and "musterbation" - good extensions to the English language.
Debbie (Lexxiss) - LOL at "Using resistance techniques to avoid McD oink out" with Kudos. And Kudos again for passing on a casino buffet.
Woodland - LOL at you as an outside observer watching the duel of the Sabotaging Thought and the Helpful Response. Congrats for "6 more pints for DH's winter."
Marci (madrikh) - Neat list of credits today, Kudos. And Kudos for plugging forward with your doctor's recommendation.
MaryContrary - Yay for cold wet dog noses; subtle beasties they aren't. Kudos for "a great dissertation day and Beck day" - great that you can do both. Good luck working your lunch variety. I've used sardines in place of tuna, but not everybody likes them.
maryann - Kudos for "I'm not going back!" - that's the attitude. LOL that you're on the internet while some poor eighth graders are taking a test.
Pecola123 - Yay for "fully back on track." Hope you and your friend are finding a sane way to deal with her pending divorce.
jasy - Isn't it a shocker to discover, "I can't believe how much "extra" I eat standing up." Kudos for standing down that extra wing; I love picking at a chicken before getting it to the table.
Readers -
Quote:
day 38 Deal with a Plateau
If you expect the scale to go down every week, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. As time goes on, you might find that you plateau for several weeks in a row. A number of studies have determined that nearly all dieters with a significant amount of weight to lose (more than 20 pounds) hit a plateau within the first six months of dieting.
Mostly a good day yesterday - I will take credit for that instead of the not so good.
Yes, I think I must just have very precise and structured 'rules' about chocolate. Good idea gardenerjoy.
I have a plan in my head now....need to write it down.
WELCOME JASY
billbi - the teenager did not come to the party as in other years. She said she had alot of homework. However, I did notice she was sailing on Facebook instead.
Have a GREAT day.
Last edited by Beverlyjoy; 09-22-2010 at 10:13 AM.
Day 24: Deal with Discouragement
I love the notion of adding up the difficult hours. If I'm paying attention, what I think of as a bad day when I want to eat more than on my plan, is generally only a handful of difficult moments that I easily distracted myself from.
And, I have to admit that I'm startled at least as often by moments when it's easier than expected as I am discouraged by when it's hard. Remembering those times is helpful, too.
WI: +0.7kg, Exercise: +60 1195/1800 minutes for September, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes
Hello to everyone reading and posting!
Thinking, also, of nuxmaga, onebyone, ChinaMaine, bennyhannahmama, kuhljeanie, silverbirch, and others.
I survived two long, exhausting days in a row. I still feel like I’m recovering this AM. We were short manned yesterday and so got done late and poor DH still had a long drive ahead of him. He had to be in Jackson at 8:30 this AM. Food was pretty good yesterday. After dinner last night, I couldn’t figure out if I was hungry or tired, so I decided to go to bed. That was the right choice. I have lots to do today, but am having trouble getting going. Please send some virtual coffee!
MaryContrary, I find that I think better with an old fashioned pen and paper rather than a computer as well. Maybe it’s the slow pace of writing. LOL at wet, cold dog noses waking you up. There’s no better alarm clock!
Pecola123, I always have a hard time with food when my DH is away. I’ve found that it helps me to try some recipes that he wouldn’t like and spending my evenings doing things I don’t do when he’s here, like soaking in a warm tub with a good book or working on some new craft project, etc. Great job on 2 days OP!
BillBE, I’m so impressed that you not only continue to post when your life gets crazy, but that you also continue to write thoughtful personals.
Seadwaters, great job being so organized to prepare dinner in advance when you knew you were going to be busy. I bet it was a great to know that it was one less thing you had to think about.
Beverlyjoy, your Dancing with the Stars Party sounds like fun! Thanks for: “'It takes a village' goes for weight loss too.” Kudos for taking credit for the good and not letting the not-so-good negate that. Those are just areas for improvement.
Welcome Jasy! Congrats on 14 lbs gone and the strength to remind yourself why you don’t want that chicken wing!
Gardenerjoy, Beck had a blog recently about our skewed sense of normal http://www.beckdietsolution.com/library/BLOG.asp?SessionID={CA8290C3-0F07-4F91-B0E9-5EBD8B061DC0}. You’re right to pinpoint food advertising as the culprit because the only people I know in real life who eat “normal” are very heavy.
Maryann, yay for donating pants that are two big! Lots of credit for not eating to fix exhaustion. That’s always a tough one for me.
Lexxiss, great job navigating food so well on your trip. That is an impressive highlights list! I wish I knew why some days are so hard and some are so easy. I have a card that reads: “Dieting is supposed to get hard. Just keep practicing your skills and it will get easy again.”
Maryblu, glad to hear the shoulder is feeling better, but good for you for not pushing it. I’m living vicariously through your apple harvest. It reminds me of growing up in apple country. There’s nothing like the smell of apple trees at harvest time.
Madrikh, kudos for continuing to search for a solution to your depression. Great job doing some yoga after you found your class canceled. And you deserve credit for everything on your list! When dealing with depression, everyday activities are so tough.
Woodland, yay for more salsa to keep you through the winter! Great job recognizing those sabotaging thoughts and for having such quick responses.
CeeJay, great job checking in after a not-so-great day. Best of luck getting back in that groove.
I tweaked my day today and it worked much better for me. Since retirement, my schedule is very flexible but I recognized that I don't use it to my best advantage. My sleep issues are ongoing and I am up super early(usually 3am) but don't allow myself a nap. It seems I could use the suggestion from day 37 and "relax" my own rules! Today, the munchies started and I identified fatigue. As hard as it was to mentally do it, I stopped munching and took a nap. When I got up I was ready to resume a healthy relationship with food. *credit* for trying something new.
BillBlueEyes, what a great day when FREE food fits into your plan….unlike those Costco adventures. What a novel concept; working harder to deal with tension instead of eating! Now that is a great credit!
Shepherdess, thanks for the line from your resistance card! I put the Beck site on my toolbar. That blog hit the nail on the head. My DH would weigh far more than he does if not for his blessing of superior metabolism. Great decision going to bed when you were tired. I hope you found your energy!
gardenerjoy, my sleep patterns changed, too, as my body changed. 5 hours is my norm and it doesn't matter what I do or don't do, it doesn't change. Thank you for sharing that. Your chocolate rules are very helpful.
Beverlyjoy, every time I think of you I reflect that your conscious decision to keep trying will pull you through this stressful time. Every single time I make a better decision it matters in the bigger picture. Keep making better decisions one at a time!
CeeJay, I hope you were able to plan and get back on track.BTW-Make dieting first is straight from the Beck book.
Woodland, I'm really glad that you're posting regularly. You always have a helpful suggestion for me. If you ever had the extra moment, I'd love a PM of your salsa recipe. It sounds right down my alley and I have lots of tomatoes right now.
Marci(madrikh), you have a very impressive list of credits during your hard time. I hope your new medication is better than the last one.
maryblu, I hope there are good honeycrisps here. They are my favorite! I have noticed the same thing with maintainer threads; most have a very sane relationship with food.
Pecola123, Great job getting back on track.
maryann, it is a great achievement not letting exhaustion justify a binge and your too big pants are a great reward. I want to say I appreciated your very honest discussion of your having to "fit in". I have to say if I saw you I would think you were a right on all together woman!
MaryContrary, I wonder if the library café would ever consider getting a microwave….it couldn't hurt to ask. Great completing all your success skills.
jasy, I think the first thing many of us notice here is how many times we eat while standing. I'm really grateful that after months of working on it that it is now "not normal".
Cheryl (seadwaters), I'm always glad to hear your check in from the other side of the world. Hmm if it's the first day of fall here you must be heading into spring! Can I come visit?? Oh, well, it is what it is, winter is coming.lol
AmberPr,, I hope you had a nice visit to the cabin!
Ahh, I made it through Survivor and my DH's multiple visits to the snack cupboard without indulging. Thanks, all!
I look forward to getting to know you. Please stay with us !
Welcome jasy
