I was searching the web and happened to stumble across this site. So far it seems to be somthing that will be very beneficial. I have been just about every diet imaginable but just did not have the will to stick with it. Lately all I think about is loosing weight, I have told my Boyfriend and my family I intend to go on a steady diet, this is the first time I have mentioned it with my boyfriend So Im not positive how supportive he will be, and then there is my family they always say they will support me and then bring home pop, cookies, pizza, and everything that I know I should not be eating. So anyways I geuss I am looking for some fresh new outlooks, tips, or anything else that has worked for some of you!
Welcome to 3FC! You've stumbled across a fabulous group here--glad you found us!
My first thought would be to stop thinking of it as a "diet." This is a change you'll need to make for the rest of your life; if you just diet, lose the weight, and then go back to eating like you did before dieting, you'll just gain it all back again! Instead, try to focus on just eating healthier in general. That does NOT mean you have to give up pizza or cookies or anything else if you think that will make you go crazy. Just have 1-2 slices of pizza when you used to have 3-4, 1-2 cookies instead of 5, etc. If you have a plan that's too restrictive, that can certainly just make you feel frustrated and give up faster. It doesn't mean you really have no will; it just means you haven't found the right plan for YOU yet.
Boyfriends can sometimes be tricky. When I tell my fiance I'm going to eat healthier and we'll be eating out less, he's very supportive. But then when I come home and say I don't feel like cooking one day, he suggests we eat out. Or after dinner, he mentions going for ice cream. I've told him he's an enabler And sometimes, we do eat out, but our new rule is no eating out on weekdays, so now it's a weekend thing only, and even then, I order foods that are within my personal eating plan guidelines.
Anyway, we're here for you! Ask lots of questions and come back often--this place is a gold mine of helpful tips, great advice, and motivating success stories!
I found this site about 3 weeks ago, which is when I started my new way of eating. I signed up for a medical weight-loss clinic program for 1 year, and I think it was what I needed to keep committed. This is a great site with some nice info and a very friendly group of people.
You've made the first step now on losing the weight, so have you decided on a program? I've tried tons of online programs and they always seem to provide too much opportunity to cheat. Right now I'm just sticking with a low sodium/low fat diet, nothing pre-packaged (boxed/canned) and only fresh meat and fresh/fresh frozen fruits & veggies. I've lost 16 lbs. so far; you really don't realize how much salt you're eating till you look at a box of something LOL.. There's also Weight Watchers, NutriSystem, Jenny Craig, a program from your doctor, or any of the other diet plans. I would strongly recommend one where you can get one-on-one support, rather than doing it all yourself at home, because it's just too hard; I've been trying that for 10 years to no avail.
Your fiance and mine should get together and go for ice cream and leave us to our chicken breasts! Damn men and their fast metabolisms. :P
I hope you do find us supportive. Feel free to join us on the numbered threads -- they move fast but are where a lot of the action is!!
I do think it's key to find a plan that works for you. My plan is calorie counting. I don't like the restrictions of a lot of other plans, and love the flexibility. The good news is, you don't have to have a plan right away. I started just with portion control and bringing my own lunch and snacks to work... it evolved from there!
When I started my husband was not very supportive. I had used him as my excuse not to start so many times. It was a real challenge not to eat his fatty evening snacks. But I really did commit to a new lifestyle. Now he eats healthier too, we've both lost a lot of weight and are much more active!!
Everyone,
I have not picked a plan yet, but have already started to eat better and am going to buy a gym membership, but until then I think that walking my dogs will have to do. I think that Im going to try somthing from my doctor first as soon as my medical kicks in. Anyways sat down with my boyfriend this morning and told him that I am very serious about loosing weight, the first thing out of his mouth way why? lol he also said he would have to learn to cook on his own -- he dont care much for anything that is good for him (but with a very high metabolism at 160 pds he can get away with that) He told me that he will stand behind me regardless if Im 300+ pounds or 150 pds but I think that he just said that b/c that is what he knows i needed to hear, but he does not want me to lose weight. I explained that I needed to for me and he seemed to accept that but Im just not sure. lol Anyways thank you very much for your response. Ive been hanging out in this site for like 6 hours and absolutley love it. Although I should be out doing somthing instead of sitting here. I think that the information and the people on here will be a wonderful support system, again thank you very much
Last edited by Kristalynne; 01-21-2008 at 09:32 AM.
Any exercise is good to start with. I'm sure the dogs will love lots of walks. You can also cook things that are tasty and good for you (he can just eat a larger portion). Anyway, you've taken the first step down the road, and it's a good one.
Kristalynne - It sounds like you are taking some first great steps. Getting out and walking your dog can be great exercise – as long as he isn’t one of those that need to stop and sniff everything! Out of curiosity, why does your boyfriend not want you to lose weight? I was in a similar situation, so I am very interested to talk to other people who go through this. I ended up breaking things off, but there were a lot of other issues as well.
I'm not 100% sure why he dose not want me to lose weight, he told me this morning that he loves my stomach (eww) and he says that I am beautiful the way that I am. I thought for a little while that maybe he did not want me to lose weight because he didnt want anyone else to want me, but he has never been jealous person. I know this because even with my size I still get alot of looks and comments and guys tryin to holler at me and that has never bothered him. He says that makes him feeood that other men want what he has.
I tried to talk to him about it again, But the conversation was dismissed with his reply "There is nothing to talk about love, if that is what you think will make you happy then I'll stand behind you"
I'm not really sure what his view is on it, I am confident that he will support my decision and stand behind me, he has stayed strong beside my side and supported every decision that I have made since the day that I met him.
I kinda lean towards thinking that he does not want me to set my goals to high and think that I am going to be a size 0 with a perfect body, I know he wants me to be confident with my appearence which I am to a point I just want to be healthier and I want to be able to enjoy shopping again lol
Do It For YOU!!!!! If YOU really want it GO FOR IT! Nothing can stop you and I mean NOTHING IF YOU WANT IT BAD ENOUGH!!! Good Luck Girl!
NEVER EVER LET ANYONE STAND IN YOUR WAY! IT IS WORTH IT!
Hi there - I just got on this site myself within the last couple of weeks - I am a calorie counter since that works best for my type of health issues plus I can work in some treats as long as they fit in my day's number of allowed calories. So far I'm basically eating soup at lunch and salad at dinner but I know that is going to get boring after awhile. Luckily, my husband has agreed to eat along with me - he just adds in extras. Now, if I could just get into an exercise routine - thinkin' about ordering Richard Simmons "Sweatin to the Oldies".........
Welcome to the group! you are going to love it here. So many wonderful people that know exactly what you are going through.
My hubby supports me as well as my friends..BUT in the end..its about me making desicions. There have been times when hubby and kids eat at Burger King..and I just say no Ill have whatever at home. You will eventually get to the point where you can say no to "bad" foods..I don sometimes. But I am just starting out on this journey so it is hard.
Walking is one of my favorite exercises!! Your dogs will love it!
Kristalynne, Im pretty much in the same boat as you. My fiance is happy with the way I am (im not)! We use to go to the gym together (before he got to lazy) but i guess at 145 lbs and 5'6 you can afford to be lazy! Maybe you could try to get you bf to go with you. For me its all about getting in my zone (Ipod full of upbeat music and i use noise canceling earbuds that way nothing gets me out of my zone!)!
Just Starting
And sometimes, we do eat out, but our new rule is no eating out on weekdays, so now it's a weekend thing only, and even then, I order foods that are within my personal eating plan guidelines.
It sounds like you are taking some first great steps. Getting out and walking your dog can be great exercise – as long as he isn’t one of those that need to stop and sniff everything! 
Out of curiosity, why does your boyfriend not want you to lose weight? I was in a similar situation, so I am very interested to talk to other people who go through this. I ended up breaking things off, but there were a lot of other issues as well.
