zoesmom - Congrats on the phenomenal loss!
Riestrella - Nothing annoys me more than spending HOURS cooking something, just to have it taste like absolutely nothing! I know your frustration on that one from having it happen to me 1 million times over.
Well guys, I have quite the story of an awful "date". Before I explain, I have to give a bit of background info about myself. What initially spurred my weightloss journey back in May, was the break up of my long time (3 years) boyfriend and I. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever dealt with, and I can officially say that I am "over it", and have been for a few months now. Now that I am in the lower 170's, I have noticed a HUGE change in my body and finally feel up to dating and putting myself out there again. It's no that I wasn't getting male attention at higher weights, just not attention from people I was interested in or people I was ready for.
SO - now that we know that, story time! I'll trim the details to keep it short and sweet - after running into this guy at school, we ended up heading directly to coffee together. Things went from seemingly nice to bizarre and pushy and creepy very quickly (I was 100% sincerely worried for my safety at one point...). I wanted to get the **** out of there as quickly as I could, but whatever - I was happy I finally put myself out there even if it was with someone I wasn't into after further conversation. Except he made one comment that has me reeling still. He's sitting across from me, and he starts looking me up and down and says "You better believe I like a girl who can eat
". I cannot explain how bizarre this comment was in context, it was out of nowhere and just...very uncomfortable. I reacted politely, but simply put - I'm mad! By no means am I a "skinny" girl, I've got muscular legs, shoulders, and arms from my training - all of which I freakin LOVE. I also still have some weight to lose, but here's the thing...IMO I look "normal" at this point, with some extra muscle. So for him to make a comment like that floored me! It isn't getting to me at a deep level, but honestly it just made me frustrated that at ANY weight, he would find that appropriate to say to ANY girl! I'm sure half the reason I'm so frustrated is it was built up on all the other creepy stuff he said (not even going to bother posting it...*shudder*). Now he has texted me a few times, even without me responding...not sure what to do.
Phew I needed to get that off my chest. Just so frustrating to hear crap like that, and for a guy to think that's ok! Skinny, fit, fat, pleasantly plump, or otherwise - the tone and the way he said it just made me squirm. On top of it, this situation for some reason made me have one of those epiphany moments. I finally realized that I am legitimately and fully interested in a guy who was interested in me 20lbs ago but my confidence was too shaky to deal with it. Now that I'm at a lower weight, I think I might have already waited too long and pushed our relationship into the deep depths of the ~friend zone~. But eh, I'll save that story for a different day...
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