so im walking down the street tonight in P.B ( college town in san diego) with my skinny friend from work and some guys drive by really slow and honk and roll down their window and then say to me "you need to go on a diet" and drive away. My friend tried to pretend she didnt know what they said to be nice. but i heard them. man its been on my mind all day , it wont go away. Im hurt, but i know its true. maybe that was the swift kick in the *** i needed. ive never been told im anything but beautiful. im insulted but maybe just enough to do something about it. such twisted emotions about this incident......????
Sorry you had to hear that, some guys are idiots and they think they have the right to judge you just because they happen to be driving past you. It's so cowardly, because you don't get the chance to judge them back, they can just drive off and leave you with whatever they said. It's not for them to say what you should look like or what weight you should be, so I can see why you would feel insulted.
How rude. I see your picture and you are absolutely beautiful! Ignore them, they are jerks. If you lose weight do it for yourself, not because of peoples comments like that.
It was a brainless guy in a truck trying to impress the other brainless guys in the truck by insulting someone. It wasn't about you. Trust me, if you were skinny they would have found something else to be a jerk about, because that's the only way guys like can come up with ways to impress each other -- they haven't got any other skills or talents. And this is not one of those Afterschool Special cliches -- think about the people you know, and who are the mean ones, and this will be true.
If it makes you feel better, a (nice) guy friend used to have a little song he would sing on such occasions. It was very catchy, with a sort of country tune (think Dwight Yoakum) and the words went, "Were you born an a**hole, or did you work at it your whole life..."
ETA: Turns out it's actually a Jimmy Buffett song. If you are too young to remember him, he's a guy that old people like me who were alive in the 1970s used to hear a lot on the radio. (Sob)
Here it is on Youtube. (Possibly NSFW, although it only has the one word it's in pretty much every line. )
EATA: Do they still have Afterschool Specials, or is that an Old Person thing too?
Last edited by bronzeager; 03-28-2010 at 08:34 AM.
Looking at your picture, you are Gorgeous and I wish I had such good looks. Don't let guys like that bother you. I have a friend who is absolutely beautiful and overweight, and she has guys fighting over her. There's always going to be that one ***hole out there that just aims to hurt.
When I hear these young, rude guys make those remarks, I picture them in 10 years with a beer belly, bald and dirty fingernails.What goes around, comes around.
Oh please... Are this guys seriously idiots, except being cowards?
Lose weight for yourself not because they were jackasses. A jackass doesn't need an excuse to be one, it is in his/her nature. You might have been 100lbs for all we know and they would say something else to make you down because they draw power by making people feel bad .
Last edited by preetyladyserenity; 03-28-2010 at 10:43 AM.
People can be jerks and most of the time it is due to their own insecurities. Don't let it bother you! Keep your chin up and focus on what you want for yourself and if that includes loosing weight, so be it and you can do it!! But don't do it based on others' opinions and mindless comments!!
Honey, even if you were 100 pounds, they might have said the exact same thing just to get a rise out of you. I live in a college town (though I'm not a student anymore) and the "gowns" have driven up to whistle and cat call, roll their windows down to reveal faces covered by masks and stick their tongues out like Gene Simmons to see if I would get scared, honk and say "Get a car!" (yeah, that didn't make much sense...) Once, when my roommate and I were out jogging, some boys thought they were super-clever to yell, "That's pathetic!" to us as they drove by, just because we weren't zipping along like marathoners. My roommate took it pretty hard, because she was an athlete in high school and thought they were telling the truth. I told her, "I'd rather be a pathetic runner than a pathetic human being."
Bottom line: those guys' actions stemmed 100% from their own problems, and not yours. They likely picked you as a target because you are beautiful, and just wanted to get your attention.
FIRST of all, i have to correct your statement that PB is a college town, because it's not. Its a beach town with a ton of very stupid people who couldn't make it through college if they tried.... which most of them don't.... and they just stay in PB working meaningless jobs (or not working at all) until they hit age 40... or 50....
clearly the guys who honked at your at examples of this... don't listen to them. Believe in yourself, know that you are beautiful regardless of what the scale says or stupid guys say.... and work towards becoming a new healthier version of you! Thats how i think about it... i'm trying to be healthy for me.... definitely can't do it for anyone else.
I know I'm not a 20-somthing, but gotta take care of you youger chicks ;-)
In the event something like that happens again...heaven forbid...you can always yell back at them, "yup and you should get a penile implant or do you just need viagra?"
You just outlined what I HATE about PB. Don't let such a trashy, trashy group of "boys" get you down.
Hang out in Hillcrest and you'll get complements left and right for your face, hair, style etc.
Yeah, I used to work at the Henry's in PB (10 years ago, or so!) and the thing I hate the most were the guys who thought they were so awesome. Please don't feel bad about yourself because of what some guys who you wouldn't (or at least shouldn't) give the time of day to yelled out a window.
They were rude. Plain and simple. Don't let them take up any more brain space -- they don't deserve your thoughts.
Your photo shows you are lovely.
On the weight -- that's your business. If you want to gain/lose/change anything about that it is your decision, not the decision of some losers in a truck.
I agree with the other posters. You were just there. Had you been a man, a mom, a jogger, on skates, with a pet -- whatever. They would have found some kind of rude thing to yell because they are flat out rude!
wow , should i be insulted if i agree.....
