These are all great ideas. The spray bottle and "tiny" comment are hilarious. Best of luck that week. Come here to vent, and please let us know how it goes!
People pay me to stay in my home. And if they don't behave, I find another place for them to stay. And that is the honest to goodness truth. NOBODY is allowed to insult me in my own house!
And if the jerk says he feels tiny next to you, I think you should tell him you've heard that he IS...very tiny! Or you could look at him with a magnifying glass and then point and laugh. Or you could use that spray bottle and squirt him in his tiny. ROFLMAO! So many, many possibilities here. If you can't beat him, humiliate him instead.
Good luck. Maybe a few laughs on here will help get you through. I am 210% sure he is not worth the energy you are investing to feel upset by him.
Barb
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I have in the past said something like "didn't you know you should never comment on a woman's weight!". Said in the right tone, it can really push home the fact that they are socially inept.
Whenever I've gotten comments about my weight (sometimes even from my own volatile sister when she's in a mood) I'll say something like "Yeah, I'm fat, and the sky is blue. Do you have anything more interesting to add?" I try not to give them the reaction they're hoping for...
I would just tell DH to call off the visit but I did make a promise. However, when Jerk says things like "you really are an unusually large person" or "I feel so tiny next to you" I feel like cr*p.
Tell him "I feel so unusually polite and considerate next to you." or "You really are an unusually uncouth person." He probably will be thrown for not knowing what the word means.
Not only is rude he is a bully. Do not react with anger , even if it chokes you. He probably enjoys seeing that he can make you angry, Do not give him that power. If he says you are really a large person you could say "So is Shaquille Oneal and it hasn't hurt him". And about the tiny remark, I would look right at his groin and say" Well, you really are tiny , aren't you"
Give it back to him a few times and the coward will back off.
Haha, I love the spray bottle idea. If your family doesn't have the sense of humor required for this particular type of come back I might suggest just saying something pretty simple like, "Please do not refer to my weight." Don't explain yourself either. IF you are like any of us other ladies-the steps we are taking to improve our health and weight issues are probably well known to everyone around us and your family will understand that this was rude of The Jerk to say. There are usually two responses to this actions
1.) Your family will either call him out on one thing or another
OR
2.) They will not respond to the unnecessary comments by him and change the subject. (You know this has happened by a usually uncomfortable silence)
Either way, good luck with The Jerk and enjoy the company of family!
I tend toward the sarcastic, myself. Not mean sarcastic.. but also in that sweet "you really should know better" tone.
"Really? I'm heavy? Do you think so? I couldn't tell, you see, because I don't have any mirrors around the house, nor have I been working closely with my doctor on health issues, including my weight. Thank you for making that observation. It's really quite clever of you to bring it up in such a caring way."
And then turn to someone else and change the subject firmly. It pointedly shows how rude he was, and it leaves him blinking. Most people who make snide remarks would never dream they'd be called on it like that.
so many good ideas. I would say in public, "you seem to be angry with me, what have I ever done to offend you?" call him on his behavior every time he says a stupid remark.. then disinvite him if he does not quit or apologize. You will have witnesses that he is a fool and you are not.
Remember that his character flaws do not reflect on you. As someone said before, people that I don't respect can't hurt my feelings. This mindset will get you through a lot more problems than just this guy.
Personally, I have recently used the "What? Seriously? I had no idea that I'm overweight. Thank you SO MUCH for letting me know!" approach. Said it really enthusiastically and made it sound as genuine as I could. I also said it LOUDLY. Everyone stared. But you know what? They weren't staring at me!
At my brother's wedding in March my husband (who is very quiet in large groups) and I were talking to my aunt. We were talking about a new job my husband was offered that will allow him to work at home. Anyway, my aunt looks at him and says, "Well that will be great for you since you don't really have very good social skills." I looked at her and said in a shocked voice "I can't believe you just said that!" She tried to backtrack and apologize but it was definitely too late. Even her daughter jumped on her about it after that. It worked really well, in fact she never even said goodbye
Some people huh? Talk about not having social skills.
or "You really are an unusually uncouth person." He probably will be thrown for not knowing what the word means.
I looked at her and said in a shocked voice "I can't believe you just said that!" She tried to backtrack and apologize but it was definitely too late. Even her daughter jumped on her about it after that. It worked really well, in fact she never even said goodbye 
