Thank you so much for caring everyone. It means a lot to me.
I was so miserable the other day that i started bawling my eyes out as soon as I walked in the door of my home. I barely touched my dinner (my pet doggie benefited from that
) and then went to bed. I was supposed to go to the gym this morning but i was too upset to go. I could not sleep past 5.00 am so I decided to come to work early.
When I came in to office I found out the room supervisor is on leave for the day. So I called him up and asked him if he will be coming in to work even for a short while today. He said no and he asked me what was wrong. I told him I have an issue in office and I wanted to talk to him without taking things up with HR first. He asked me if I would like to talk about it over the phone and I said no, because I wanted to talk to him in person about it. I trust him a lot. He is very caring and I know he won't put up with this kind of behavior.
As I mentioned before, in Sri Lanka, being bullied for being overweight is accepted. Therefore, if I went to my room supervisor or HR there is a possibility that they would think I was overreacting and being overly sensitive. But now he has physically abused me. Now I have a better reasons to complain about him.
Right now I am working for a temporary project in my office. And the reason I didn't bring up this issue until now is because I didn't want the senior management thinking I was some insecure, sensitive person (which could lead to me being put to a horrid team or being 'on the bench' for a long time). The company is very bureaucratic. The seniors have their favorites and they get promotions and good work. That is why I kept my mouth shut. I didn't want anyone to think I am a difficult person to work with. Now that he has physically abused me, they will know I have a good reason to complain.
In my workplace, personal relationships are very important. If you are good friends with your boss, then you know you are set for life. I respect my room supervisor and I wanted to explain the situation to him first before even thinking of going to HR, because if I went to HR first and they called him up and asked him "Do you know something like this was going on in your room?", he would say no and he may even take the jerk's side since he is very fond of the jerk. If I tell him my side of the story first and HR calls him and asks him about it, then he would be better informed about my side of the story.
I will speak to him tomorrow and consider his advice. I will let you guys know how the meeting goes