Saef, you're wonderful.
Of course I understand the "but...but...but" syndrome that happens on message boards. Sometimes I just say "thanks" and let it go. This time I felt like clarifying. It is indeed hard to get a clear snapshot of someone's life no matter how much detail we stick in there. And regardless, your advice is sound!! Why do I need a man right now? Why not take it slow? I wisely tell myself that every day! It's just that my brain and my hormones aren't communicating right now.
Digital, yeah, I'd love to turn a head or two!! Unfortunately, there aren't any heads to turn!! The only head I've turned is the head of my best friend's husband and he had better knock it off!
I do love the attention. But unless men are checking out my backside unbeknownst to me, it ain't happenin'!
Maria, thank you. On some level I know that you are right. I'm not sure what it is I'm looking for right now. Right now, in this moment...I think I'm looking for a partner. By my definition that is someone who can provide a needed hug at the end of a hard day, someone who will go for a walk with me, play a game with me, take me to dinner, show me how to fix my leaky sink and someone who will light up my eyes when he enters the room. Will I love such a person? I'm not sure. I'm not in a place right now where I know the difference between infatuation and love. I'm not sure I ever did know that distinction, which is what got me into the mess I ended up in to begin with. I was in love with the idea of being in love. I won't make that mistake again. So I guess while I'm looking for intimacy and partnership, I'm not sure if I will ever trust what "love" is. Love isn't something I'm looking for. Not right now. Nor is sleeping around, please don't read that wrong. There will be no intimacy without some sort of loose commitment to each other, that's just the kind of girl I am.