Rina: I feel your pain. My advice? Be firm about how long you'll let your brother stay with you. My sister moved in with DH and I in Feb. 2002. It was supposed to be for just a few months, until she got on her feet. She had been going through a tough time, dealing with depression, guy problems, etc. I love my sister dearly, so I tried to do what I could She did get a job, but it didn't pay much and pretty much just covered her personal bills (she didn't pay rent). And guess what - she, and her dog, lived with us for a year. Now, there are some things I couldn't complain about. She was great company for me, since DH worked nights, and she helped with the wedding planning. But she also put a strain on our finances (more food, higher utilities, etc.) and drove me crazy frequently. To top it off, her dog peed on the rug all the time and because of it, we didn't get our $500 security deposit back because they had to replace the carpet. It was like we had a teen-ager living with us. But she's 27. So be strong!
Jess: Hang in there. You've gotten some great advice already. Here's my two cents. From what you described, you said you weren't that happy for the two years together, and now you've tried to get him to feel the same as you do and he hasn't shown it until now. I don't think a relationship should ever be that much work. You should be with someone who makes you happy, not someone who sucks the life out of you. (I've had my share of those). I'd say, have fun, meet new people, get to know this new guy. Tell Aaron now YOU need time to figure things out. And were you serious that he might be going to jail?
Well, ladies, I'm outta here. "See" everyone Monday.
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