[kimobi]

Yes, Belle, he's in a different class than you, a much LOWER class (I'm thinking pond scum). Don't sell yourself short. You offered him unconditional love, showed you wanted to be withhim despite the sh*t with his ex, and he's walking all over you. He's probably taken advantage of people all his life, and that's nothing to be proud of. From what you've told us here, you've been nothing but sweet and giving to him, and he's a ****ed fool if he doesn't realize that for himself. Schmuck!!! Take care of yourself, now. You're already doing that by going to WW. You already quit a job that wasn't fulfilling. You're a strong, smart, capable woman that doesn't need a jerk to walk all over you!

WE BELIEVE IN YOU, BELLE! (p/s I used to be a cheerleader, waaaaayyy back in thin high school days!)

I think you should get a massage yourself with some hunky guy.


Kim

[Lolabooey]

Belle...
I am so sorry to hear about your BF. What a lousy conversation!!! HUGE cyber-hugs going your way.
I echo what other people say. I may not have "known" you for long, but like I say,I've been lurking forever. I have read about your struggles with this guy and his inability to give you what you want. You sound like such a great person... so giving. But giving without getting is very lonely, and you don't deserve that. Being treated with love and respect from a guy is the absolute MINIMUM requirement in a relationship -- not something that a guy can get bonus points for.
It sounds as though this guy is confused and looking at the "greener grass" on the other side of the fence. Let him have his time. But you are a quality person, Belle. You deserve to be treated better than this.
You have a choice at how you will look at this situation, what conclusions you will draw, and how this will affect the rest of your life. I am wishing for you all the strength you need to make the right choices.
All my best.

L.

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[StaceyT]

Hey Belle! I'm thinking about you! I know exactly where you're coming from...I love Kareoke and Scrapbooking,too!! About you being so full of love for everyone...I think that's an awesome attitude to take. Here's my share of a story...About 5 years ago, before I met my fiance, I had lost my job, had lost 60 pounds due to phen/fen and went on a "spending" spree with credit cards. I would go out everynight and "go home" with different people. Noone I'd take to meet my parent's though. I thought that was the way to find "Mr. Right" I had tried meeting them at church, but no one in my age group was available. I was so unhappy since I didn't have a boyfriend until I was watching Rosie one afternoon and she had Barbra Streisand on her show. Rosie asked Barbra how she met her "soul mate" and Babs said, "Once you are happy and love yourself for who you are, and are COMFORTABLE and COMPLETELY HAPPY with being alone, then you will find your soul mate." Those words stuck with me and still have an impact on me today. I didn't meet Brett the very next day, (2 years later as a matter of fact) but at least the relationships I was in from that point on, I had control of my emotions and I didn't feel like the guy was in control over me. Make sense? It was kind of like Helen Reedy's "I am woman, hear me roar"
I am sorry I took so long rambling about the story. I hope you feel better. I think some Belle time is exactly what you need and taking your stuff with you was the best thing you could do!!
Let us know about updates, we're here for you!!

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[Debbie23]

Hi ladies! Sorry my postings have been ever so random if at all.It seems as though when I walk in the door at work there is actually work to be done!

I'm in a winter time slump. Ugh! February and March are such difficult months for me to cope with. I get the blues so bad.
Anyone else have this problem?

I've got to say to Belle that you deserve so much better than that! What a turkey! I've been on both sides of a relationship like that and it's not fair to either party. And I don't know who said it (I think Jen-L), but staying away from him is the best thing. You are so much better than he is and if he doesn't want a part of you & your life, then send him on his way ... because there IS someone out there and it just might be worth the wait. Oh ... and making sure you somehow run into him (incoincidnetally of course) after you've reached goal, and look even more stunning than your normal beautiful self is always a good idea! That always makes them think twice.

I celebrated my 25th birthday this past weekend ... over and over and over! I didn't make it to WI on Sunday, but will definitely make the next one. Although I have to work @ my second job on Sat & SUn ... I plan on being shot. Not to mention I am going to CT. on Friday PM to see Jo Dee MEssina @ Foxwoods. I am SOOOOO excited! She's a country musician who is phenomenal!

Stacy - you are making such great progress. I remember when you first signed onto the boards. Amazing! I had my lower wisdom teethe extracted, and declined to have the uppers done because the oral surgeon upon review of the xrays said they were impacted and would never come in. Well, was he WRONG! I can't wait until May 1st when I have dental insurance.HUMH!

Trish - I did not realize that you suffered such a great loss while I was away from the boards. I hope you are on the road to recover, physically & personally. You're so strong!

Tonya - don't you have a website tracking your progress? Perhaps it was just family photos I remember seeing. I know what it is to play "single mom". I work 2 jobs and go to school, so it feels like that for my other half.

Sorry if I've missed anyone! My charming son is up from his nap and I must cater to his every whim. NOT!

I'll touch base more often (I hope) and promise!

Debbie


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"Don't expect your life to change without some effort on your part."

[Suz78]

hi ladies,

I've been on and off the WW wagon and am trying not to fall again....

Belle! Just a couple of things that stick out in my mind......my bf is an engineer too, he's wicked cute, smart, everyone likes him, etc. And I am a chubby eccentric girl too. But for some reason he still loves me and treats me better than any guy I've ever been with. You are so much better than that guy, he's playing mind games....big time! How can he say something like that and then be all kissy.....mind games! That's like when someone is breaking up with you and still has the gull to call you hunny and baby! Ahhhhh!

Anyways, point is you deserve so much better. You are an awesome chick and if bf is blind then let him pretend that he can get better than you. We know he can't Try to treat yourself good and know you are a great person!

Suzanne

[CM]

I just typed a really long post and lost it because I didn't capitalize my name!!
In Short

Belle- I really feel for you I have been there. You are way too good for him.

Hope everyone had a great day and stayed OP. My WI is tommorrow.

Casey
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[2001ismyyear2shine]

Hello from CA !

I've been so busy lately...I haven't posted since last week...I have been keeping up though !

I hope everyone is doing well...you're in my thoughts...especially Belle ! Hang in there sweetie. You got a great support group here...I agree with the group .... take some time for you and BE TRUE to yourself...

Julie



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[KO]

Chubby Eccentric Girls of the World UNITE!
Belle this guys Sleazetastic and you deserve someone who can see just how special you are
and on a side note even tho i cant sing I LOVE Karioke you will meet someone who can love and appreciate you for who you are.

*gets off the soap box*
I ahve to get ready for my exam this evening in 9 minutes
i was relatively Op today
poptarts for breakfast and 3 sips of bad coffee - - -I had a tutoring session
i made a kickarse dinner tho Pesto chicken stuffed with spinach and im set for the night just need to drink more water and pass my %^@^^%%$%#& spanish

[StaceyT]

Hey everyone! I'm sitting here listening to my kitty meow her head off because I won't raise the blinds on the window so she can look out. Mean momma! I just don't want some creepy person looking in! I really doubt anyone would try, but I get the heebie-jeebies just thinking about it! *shiver*
Well, I went to WI and lost 2.5#!! I'm telling you ladies, have 4 teeth pulled, eat nothing but pudding and applesauce for 3 days and you, too, can lose 2.5 pounds. BUT, I wouldn't recommend forking over $855.00 to the oral surgeon. Just get some rope, a tail pipe, and a really fast corvette. Have some Jack Daniels happy and pretend your gawking neighbor is the anestesheeologist (see I messed up the joke b/c I cain't spell)
Ok, Ed is on for a special Tuesday Must See TV, so I must see Ed.
Hey Brenda: Where the heck are ya?
Have a great evening and I'll see everyone tomorrow. Hang in there Belle!

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