Hey Crimson, I completely understand your frustration!
I hope everything goes well with your back. Today is my 8 year anniversary of my back surgery. I had two ruptured discs (at the age of 17!) with a pinched nerve and was in
so much pain. After the surgery, I took a long time to recover because I was so scared of re-injuring myself. I strongly recommend doing whatever exercise/rehab the doctor says to do. I was told to start walking right away and I didn't--therefore I put on 30+ pounds and it took me forever to get them off.
Everything turned out ok and I haven't had any more problems with my back since then. Good luck with everything !