WHY is THIS HAPPENING TO ME!??!?!!?!?

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  • Over the years I've become a lot more aware of what I was putting in my mouth and why because I've been constantly watching my weight after watching my father and sister balloon up. While it might be partially genetics, my mother spends most of her days sitting on the couch eating fat-free Snackwells or Sugar-Free Hostess Cupcakes, drinking diet sodas for hydration, and complaining about her weight despite the fact that she's fairly thin for what she eats and the activity level she persists at.

    I hope most of you are cringing since fat-free and sugar-free are by no means healthy, nor "better" than the full-fat or sugary items they replace, especially in large quantities.

    The point being, when I moved out of my house, I moved out with some interesting values about food. It took many years for me to eliminate that kind of eating, but one thing that triggers me to eat a lot (and a major reason I think I'm overweight) is a family value I was raised with: eat it now before it is gone. I cannot let leftover sit in my fridge longer than 12 hours for this reason. I eat not so much because I'm hungry, or even that I'm bored, but because there is something in the fridge that is special and should be consumed sooner rather than later.

    The point to all these stories is that I don't blame my family for those food-values, but that I recognize them now. If you look for patterns in your family's eating habits, you can make changes. My mother is always trying to shove food down my throat and buying my favorite desserts when I visit (Creme Brulee for Christmas, etc), and then attempts to guilt me into eating them because the food offering is an expression of love. I see it, and it allows me to see her goal and yet still maintain my OWN food values.

    Just a thought.
  • Hey Maculated well that was a really fantastic thought. I think i can relate a lot to your story. My mother also shows her love with food and buying us our favourite food and so on. My whole family is pretty much overweight. It hurts to write it down but its not pretty much it is yes they are over weight. Except for my oldest brother. But my little sister and little brother are on their way of becoming overweight too. I have always been like that to just never throwing food away and always eating it so it doesnt go to waste. Even when i go to restuarants i have always been full but never had the ability to tell the waiter to take the plate away and throw the food out. But i think i have realized a lot of things since coming to this website. I have learned a lot about my self. ANd i think i wont get anywhere with bi***ing about my weight and crying over eating WAY TOO Much icecream. I think only i can help myself, and alot of what everyone has said to me is absoloutly true. SO i want to thank everyone again.

    Anyways so this is it for me. No more complaining, no blaming anyone, and most of all no more over eating. Today is my second day on what seems like an excellent healthy diet. All i have to do now is excercise which i will at the end of January. BUt my plans are to eat 1200-1600 calories a day and eat three meals and two snacks. I hope to achieve many more days than just two to lose this weight. And I know i can do this, and there is nothing wrong with failing one day. I know i said i would start a serious diet in February but i think starting now rather than later is much better. Anyways thanks to all again. And Hopefully my next journal will say that i have lost 5 lbs!!!! (which is my goal for January)

    Beyonca
  • HEY ALL!!! Well I am Back and this time iam not here to complain or whine BUT To Say That I have LOST MY FIRST 5 LBS!!!!! I am so excited about this and i cant wait till i lose the rest!!! This is all thanks to you guys!!
  • This is all thanks to YOU, Lose25!!
  • COOL!!!!

    Jay
  • Congratulations!

    Shannon
  • Coming to this thread late, but CONGRATULATIONS, Beyonca! Isn't seeing the ticker move in the right direction a great feeling?

    Five pounds! Awesome!