Get happy gal, that would boost anyone's confidence
Seriously though, as everyone else says, your Ex sounds like a Loser and who wants to be with someone who eats like a horse when you'll be fit and healthy and hot?
Kurious; HW = Highest Weight, SW = Start Weight (this time around....) CW = Current Weight, GW = Goal Weight.
Ok now I need to go shower before I get sweat rash (just come back from kickboxing) Laters
I'm new here too, and in the same proverbial boat as you!
After no communication with the ex whatsoever in four months, he called last week. I'm fairly sure it had something to do with him reading my livejournal and learning that I'm on a health plan and bettering myself. I was in a really bad, loathing place for a few months after we parted and I finally snapped out of it when we stopped talking.
While it wasa nice to catch up, I don't have room in my life for someone who makes me feel unworthy of attention or commitment, no matter what size I may be wearing. When he offered to come visit (I move 70 miles away 6 mos ago), I kindly retorted with "Thats nice of you to offer, but I don't recall inviting you." I think he got the message.
Be strong and head out with the new man! Keep doing things that make you feel good about yourself. I feel 1000 times better with a fresh manicure, eyebrow wax, highlights and a tan!
Lastly, one of the things I constantly tell friends that is that they can't expect someone else to make them happy unless they are happy with themselves.
If you ever want to dish about this or just have someone to talk to, I'm on AIM at dreamnginpink .
everyone's saying that the ex is a bad thing and if you've got other options to go for them, i'm not sure and would love to hear everyone's opinion of my situation.
i meet a guy about 12 months ago, he' smart, funny, handsome, sweet, he'd leave me flowers and little notes for me to find around the house saying how beautiful he thought i was or something he liked about me, he'd sms me all the time just to stay in touch.
we went out one night and another guy spoke to me and i kept talking to him just to see what my ex would do, he got upset and we had a massive fight, we both said some mean things and know he doesn't talk to me anymore.
we both work in the city and i see him everynow and again, but we don't talk.
my weight has blown back out a little since then, i think about him at times but don't know what to do, other guys have asked me out and i think it would be easy to move on but i wonder if i might have lost something special.
on top of all that i can't have children, he knew and didn't care.....
I have never put a post on here, but I truly need to vent for a moment. I am a senior in college, My SW is my HW...at 166. I am already down to 151 since last semester, and my GW is 120-125.
Well, my first semsters I didn't gain the freshman 15. I was a maintainer, being that I lost 25 pounds before I came to college. THEN, I started dating Mr. Wrong. Mr. Wrong has self control issues and often eats how much of whatever he wants, and he's not in exactly the best shape. Well, we started dating, and gradually over the next few years I put on about 40 pounds. Stress, medications, and alcohol consumption contributed to the weight gain...but honestly, so did the ex.
Well, I'm venting becasue since I ran into the ex last week, he noticed that I "looked good" and has made an effort to call me and stuff. OK. He BROKE up with me because he didn;t want to be committed to anyone, but now that I'm "looking good" again, he's interested? NO! I AM STRONG!! I will NOT fall back into the trap!!
I don't mean to be vain, but taking care of myself is helping me stay focused. Once I lost the first 10 pounds I started tanning, makes me feel better. Next week, I'm getting a new hairstyle and color. I want to be a NEW WOMAN, wh stays in CONTROL of her impulses regarding FOOD primarily and her ex as well.
Ok. One more thing. I met an adorable guy last week and we have plans in a couple of weeks. I think I'm an attractive person, but my confidence is at an all time low, because of the break up with the ex, and the weight gain.
Any one have any advice on weather maybe I should take a break from dating til after the weight loss, and just focus on that, or if I should I jump back into "the game"? Any one dealt with the dreaded ex coming back around? HELP!! SUPPORT NEEDED!
Here is my whole problem with the whole EX situation. This is pretty much my rule of thumb. No matter who broke up the relationship once you become an EX, You are for ever the EX, case close, book shut. For what ever reason why MR Who broke up with me apparently didn't feel the relationship was good enough to keep back then, then all of the sudden rather I lost weight or got a better job MR WHO all of the sudden want to come back in my life now. ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!!! This in my eyes pretty much tells me that the guy is weak, he wants to play around, and you did say he had control issues which is really what will make a relationship in my radar go negative real quick. Leave the EX in the past is what I say!
Now you have a MR NEW! I hear positive plusses "He is adorable" Y'all have plans in a couple weeks.
You are the only one that knows if you are ready to get back out there.
I however would not stop living. Don't let your thoughts about your weight hinder you even though that is easy said then done "just keep your focus. You just said you lost 10Lbs and you are feeling pretty good, you even went out and got a tan until your EX BLOKE came around!! Everything was going fine until he showed up. It sounded to me just seeing him brought back up bad memories.
Apparently you have a MR New interested in you. I would think that would put a zing in your walk. I would be curious what Mr. New had to offer.
You did say you wanted to be a NEW WOMAN!
NEW WOMAN must have a New Man..... Time for Mr Past be the past.
My advice is to get right out there with Mr. New. This is from personal experience. I had dated a man for almost 2 yrs. and was crazy about him. At the time we met, I was dieting and was in 140's. We had a tumultuous relationship and he definitely had control issues. We split up. He started calling again, sending flowers to my work, going by the hospital to see my mom who was very sick. I eventually went back to him and stupidly married him. The marriage lasted 3 months and 6 days, then I packed up and left his sorry butt while he was at a bar. He still tried to call even after I remarried, but I will never give him the time of day. By the way, his name was Rob and that was exactly what he did to me. Not only my money, but took my self-esteem for a long time.
