Over 50 And Being Healthy # 3.
 

GOOD AFTERNOON!!
 

Hi girls.
I worked a half day today, then ate a no-no lunch.
I did my 3-mile WATP tape this morning, and I'm gonna ride my exercise bike for a bit tonight. Probably 45 minutes.

I kept my appt. this afternoon, but almost didn't. All the way to the time I walked in that door, I was just not going to show up. But I kept telling myself I would still be sitting here in agony if I didn't at least TRY.
When the Dr. came into the room, we were both surprised, because she looked at me and said, "Hello!! I know you from Curves!" And sure enough! She goes to Curves too. I hadn't realized that she was a Dr when I saw her at Curves. I had seen her as a DR. a long time ago, but when I saw her at Curves, I knew she looked familiar, but couldn't recall where I had seen her before. I suppose I didn't recognize her out of her setting, the clinic. :lol: She is an associate of the Dr I usually see, but they suggested I see her for this particular problem, and am I ever glad I agreed to it. She talked with me about the whole situation for just shy of 90 minutes. It also included a bit about relatives.

Anyway, she said I'm definitely not lazy, and I'm very knowledgeable on nutrition, a good historian and keep good records or journals.
She said I don't fit the usual eating disorder patient, ... BUT, ... she said she thinks I may be on to something with the cycling. Even though I've only just begun to document when these binges hit me, she thinks we should follow through with a counselor and see where it takes us.
She gave me the name of one and I have an appt. the 5th of Aug.

She said there haven't been enough studies done for long enough periods of time on women like there have been on men, and there are so many variables with women that it's very difficult to do studies on us. But, there is evidence that we have continued cycling of some sorts after menopause. She said a woman she knows had awful migraines with her menses, and continues to have them at the normal time of her periods even after she had a complete hysterectomy.

Anyway, I'm glad now that I went. She wants to see me again in 4 to 6 weeks.

Charlotte, I'm sorry you didn't do as well at your weigh in today as you had hoped, but, maybe the fluid will leave the tissues in a day or so. Don't lose hope. You've been doing so awfully good all along.

Well, I'll be out of here now. I'll check back later.
Have a good evening.
Hello to Sheila, Sue and Puss too! :wave:

I'm so glad you went to your appointment. You learned some interesting stuff that I hope will help, and going to a counselor sounds like a great idea. That's interesting that you recognized the doctor from Curves.

Charlotte, I'm sorry about the weight, too, but it's a minor setback and we all have them. Just continue to do your best and good things will happen. :)

I made it through the "heat wave" and it was so much better today. I was just out picking up dog piles and almost felt like I needed a sweater--yeah! Tomorrow's high is supposed to be 72, which is just about perfect in my opinion.

Today we had a lot of airplane traffic over our house--we're not in the usual flight pattern for commercial jets so it was kind of weird. The last time we had air traffic like that was right about the start of the Iraqi war so it made me a bit nervous. Then I remembered the Blue Angels were in town so they must have rerouted the commercial traffic away from where the Blue Angels were "performing."

Spent a lot of time on the phone with the insurance company, did a little housework, lifted weights, did my stretching exercises, and actually cooked dinner because it was cool enough to cook. That pretty much sums up my day. Oh, yeah, I cleaned up dog vomit and clipped cat claws because one of the cats kept snagging my brand new size XL (instead of 3X and 2X) shirt with his claws as he laid on my tummy trolling for pets.

Hope everyone is having a good evening. My cable is out, but I like to read so that's okay.

Good Morning All! The rain is just coming down in buckets. Looks like a river going down the road. First of all, I want to say thank you for all the good words and support. Only someone who has "been there" knows what 3 lbs means after months of struggling. Started off the day with the WATP tape. I pushed myself to do the entire 4 miles. Willow, you have inspired me. :)

Angel, don't feel bad - into every life a little cake must fall :dizzy: If we don't give in to a treat every now and then, the binge monster may come out of the closet. If I have a half gallon of ice cream in the freezer, I will have some every night until it is gone. Soooooooo, when I really want some ice cream, I will buy a small cone at the store about a half mile from here. Better once a week than every day. The same with cookies or chips. I have no self-control. Or maybe I need some Won't Power. I WON'T eat those cookies, I WON'T eat those chips. :cookie: I wonder if those are computer chips in that cookie. By the way, thank you for my favorite cat, Garfield. That one on the scale is really cute.

Sheila, glad to hear the heat wave is over for now. We had a week and a half of that earlier this summer. A smaller shirt :cp: isn't that the greatest feeling! One of my goals is a shirt tucked into my slacks WITH A BELT.

Willow, I am so glad to see that you put yourself at the top of the importance list :bravo: Sometimes just talking to someone puts things in a new perspective. We wish you the best.

Hello to Puss. Hope all is going well for you.

Off to the shower and to work. Two more weeks to go till vacation. WHEW, do I need it this year. Will check in later, Sue.

Had my weigh-in this morning and I'm down another pound for a total of 49 gone. I'm hoping to join the 50 lb. club next week.

Rain? What's that, Sue? I haven't seen any since, well, I'm not sure how long. And I live in what everyone considers the wettest city in the U.S. I shouldn't jinx it because now we'll have 3 straight months of rain starting in November. Good for you for doing four miles--that's incredible! I know what you mean about having the ice cream in the freezer. I obsess about it if I have that kind of stuff there, even sorbet.

Having a birthday celebration for my DH today. Although his birthday was yesterday, we waited until today because I wanted to have some birthday cake. I don't believe in depriving myself! But I didn't want to do it right before I weighed in. If I'm going off my program, it's going to be on Friday only after weigh-in--that's my rule.

A nice cool day that started out cloudy (which is fine with me!), but the sun is out now, although it's still supposed to stay in the lower 70s, thank goodness.

Talked to a friend back in Boise where I used to live. A mutual friend went in for a simple one day surgery (a cyst on her ovary, I believe), and after one day home, ended up in ICU. The surgeon nicked her bowel in a couple of different places, which is really dangerous. She's out of ICU now, but still not out of the woods. The woman is an attorney, and so is her father. If a surgeon is going to mess up, s/he really shouldn't mess up on an attorney!

Hope everyone is having a great day! I think I'm up for some weeding since it's nice and cool out.

I got lost, wasn't looking where I was going and only after posting did I see Willow's instructions. Here again anyway if I managed to copy correctly...

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Hi Ladies - just a quickie, yes you probably guessed rightly, my life is once more upside down by a mother behaving badly. To keep it short, I've hardly been off the phone both at home and at work because she has been manipulating everyone to get out of the unit and come down to stay with me. I really have had it. Her psychiatrist rang yesterday and he is well on to her - says we have to make her enpower herself and he is loathe to readmit her again and said he hasn't discussed the overdose with her because it was nominal only and to make a big deal of it would be like giving attention to a kid up throws tantrums at the supermarket ie will do it all the more if they think everyone is going to jump each time its mentioned. She has been so sly and devious about getting her own way in the unit and because she is not sectioned they can't force her to stay and in any case, they say this cycle over the last 18 months has been her in and out all the time and they are tired of it because she refuses all their efforts to help keep her well on the outside of the unit like attending therapy or day centre etc. Yesterday I wanted to kill her. I have arranged her train journey tomorrow (brother will put her on it and I will be there to meet her) and she is on top of the world like a little brat who is pulling all the strings. I feel crushed. I did tell her though that I have come to the end of my tether now and when she comes I will not have her talking the same old stuff about minor ailments, how rubbish the staff at the unit are, how rubbish the medication is etc etc. I told her I don't want to hear any of it and if she starts weeping and wailing like Lady MacBeth she can do it in her room because 18 months of trying to assuage her fears hasnt made an iota of difference. She agreed - but right now she is agreeing to everything to get her own way. Her psychiatrist really has a handle on her and knows what she is like which is a great comfort. She is still abusing my brother - called him stupid today for something he wasn't being stupid about at all and I laid into her and said he must be stupid visiting
every day an ungrateful 70 year old who keeps rubbishing us and everyone else. This is not mental illness, this is what she has always been like and its hard taking it especially knowing she is manipulating us. Sorry this is so miserable but I don't want you to think I can't be bothered to post if I don't get the chance or feel too drained to contribute. Talk about comfort eating - last two days have been like a feeding frenzy, curry, rice and fried potatoes from the chinese takeaway, frozen yoghurt, etc etc. Well done Sue on the 3lb loss, nice one! Hope this doesn't sound too self-pitying - there just seems no end to this at all and it is affecting us all, even the grandkids and our work. Hope to be a bit more cheery tomorrow if I can make it .


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Fatpuss.....I am SOOO sorry you are going through all of this! Don't worry about when you can post...just do what you can. Also, feel free to say what you need to vent & get it out!! Lord....I'd be screaming by now!! I don't know how you're taking all of this! You must be a stronger person than you think you are. Are you going to let her live with you? You'll be lucky not to end up in a ward yourself! Know that I'm thinking of you.....http://home.att.net/~scorh/StayYoung1c.gif

Sheila..... http://www.agifs.hpg.ig.com.br/criancas/criancas2.gif So happy for you on your weightloss! Little by little...bit by bit!! Glad the weather is a little better for you.

Sue.....Sounds like you're really motivated! Good for you! Just don't get too excited & push yourself too hard. Hey, if you want Garfield, just take him! I don't mind at all. I've got a few you might like....http://www.agifs.hpg.ig.com.br/garfield/garfield6.gif

Willow....You know, the thing about the cycle sounds familiar. I don't remember where I read about it, but I know I have. I also, know of several who get cravings every 3-4 weeks...could be on to something. I'm alright about my weight this week....my legs & feet are still swollen...so I know it's fluid. I got some fuid pills today, maybe that will help.

I'll check in later....all have a good evening.http://www.agifs.hpg.ig.com.br/ursos/urso27.gif

Oh, Puss, I'm so sorry! I hate that your mom is causing you so much stress--it's supposed to be the other way around! Please stick to your guns and make sure she follows all the rules. Don't let her engage you or emotionally blackmail you. Easier said than done, right? Don't worry about overeating--that will stress you out more. Just take good care of yourself and do whatever you have to do to get through her visit. Please don't worry about being cheery. I'm sure you don't feel cheery and that's okay. Please feel free to post whatever you're feeling--we're all here to help you through this, right, ladies?

Willow, what's up with you today? Hopefully we'll be hearing from you tomorrow.

My friend with the nicked bowel isn't doing too well. I'm praying that she makes it through this. She's young and healthy, and she just cannot die. :( If you can spare a prayer for her, I'd appreciate it.

Had my DH's birthday celebration. For his birthday, I printed out a photo of a cute guy in a workshirt and put it in an envelope. My DH didn't know what to make of it and gave me the weirdest look (maybe he thought I was suggesting a threesome??). The photo was supposed to represent the guy I've hired to build the garden steps so my DH won't have to. He was quite excited when I told him that!! Having somebody do that and having my son fly over to paint the house is a load off my DH's mind. He's going to be gone for two weeks in August and one week in September so he wasn't sure how he was going to fit all that in. He's your typical weekend warrior, and ends up hurting himself.

Well, TGIF. I don't work, and I still think that! I'm so glad the weather has cooled down enough to work in the yard comfortably.

Hellow ,I'm Cathy and new to this email dialogue thing...I am trying to loose some weight but I need someone to encourage me. It seems as if someof the chat you all exchanged was very interesting to me. My mom can be a large burden too. I live alone except with my cat buddy who is so cute. I am only 5 days into the weight watcher's program and hoping to be strong enough to continue in a dedicated fashion. Any input would be helpful Thanks Cathy

HI!!! AND WELCOME!!!
 

Hello Cathy, welcome to our group. We are so delighted to have you. The more participating in the group, the better, I say! More ideas to toss around and more sources of support when things hit a snag.
You'll get lots of encouragement here, that's for sure. These ladies are awesome. :yes:

Congratulations on your decision to join Weight Watchers. You've already taken a giant step in your journey to good health.
I don't know how much weight you want to lose, but I guess it doesn't really matter the amount, it's a positive thing that you have started doing something about your health. :bravo:
I look at it like we evidently have set our health as our top priority, and now we just have to stay with it until we achieve our goal. And, speaking for myself, I know that will be a lifetime commitment, not just until I reach a certain weight in pounds.

As you've probably seen if you've read the back threads, I've been having a devil of a time getting any weight off AND KEEPING IT OFF. I've tried just about every method I can think of, and I know what good nutrition is, and I've tried my darndest to try to find some sort of support group in the city I live in, but all to no avail.
All the usual thoughts have gone through my mind hundreds of times; ie; I'm just a glutton, I'm lazy, I have a thyroid problem(which I do, but the medication is at a healthy level in my blood), I'm at the age where I CAN'T lose weight anymore, .......... The whole gamut of thoughts that everyone has. Then I thought I may have some kind of regularity to these binges or cravings that may tell a Dr. something about my predicament. I finally thought I probably need someone with more knowledge about this than I have, so I made an appt. with a family practice DR. and told her my whole history, and she is very supportive and understanding, and FINALLY!! I have someone who is going to do something about this. She has referred me to a counselor, and among other things, she thinks I may be on to something with the cycling thing, even though I'm in menopause for about 8 to 10 years now.
I've asked other Drs. about help with my weight problem, and they say you can lose weight if you really want to.
Well, believe me, if I could , I'd sure get this 100+ pounds off that I have gained in the past 10 years.
I know the road is going to be rough a lot of times, but, I just CAN'T let up or quit trying.

OK, enough about me already. It sounds like you may have some circumstances similar to Puss'. See? you've already got something else in common with someone here. It's nice to have a place to come to and write about what's going on in our lives and have someone who understands.
I don't know what your age is, but if it's around the rest of our ages, I think it's a difficult time in a womans life. There's lots of emotional things going on in us that we don't always understand.
And if you're not around our ages, that doesn't mean that you don't have just as important and difficult issues as the rest of us, I sure don't want to imply that! :D

I think you and I are the only two who live alone, and at least you have your cat. :lol: I want another dog so bad, but will wait till I retire so I can spend enough time with it.
Pets are a lot of work and responsibility.

I guess I better say hello to all the rest of the girls too. :wave:
Puss, I'm so sorry to hear of the set back with your Mother. I know you love her dearly, but, don't let this disrupt your life unduly. Not to tell you what to do or anything like that, but I would make it very clear to her that if she wants to be in your home, then she find something to do to entertain herself. You can't be expected to change your happy life to suit someone else.
Does your town or city have a widows and widowers group that she could get involved with? We have one in our city that meets for breakfast at different places, goes to museums and places of interest that don't cost a lot of money, and to see plays etc. She might find some women to chum with in a group like that. And if they don't have one, maybe she could look into starting one. There is also what is called a senior citizens center here where there are all kinds of activities going on every day. There are cards, shuffle board, painting, dancing, computer classes by college students who volunteer to teach these senior citizens, all kinds of stuff, plus they serve a lunch every day for a very low price.
Like Sheila and Charlotte said, and I'm sure Sue will echo it same as I am, Just take care of yourself and post when you can, and say whatever you need to to get the pressure off. We understand.

Sheila, well, you just go girl! ANOTHER POUND GONE! I just clapped my hands when I read that! You must be just floating on a cloud! :cloud9: I am truly happy for you, and SO VERY proud of you, as you should be of yourself! Congratulations!

So sorry to hear that your friend with the surgical mishap isn't doing well. I will pray harder for her recovery. Have they had a gastroenterologist or gastro surgeon look at her? Have the "nicks" been repaired? If the contents of the bowel get into the abdominal cavity, that is extremely dangerous, and it sounds like that is just what has happened. I pray for her.

Well, what a nice birthday present for your hubby! Where is your son flying over from?

Glad your weather has improved.

Charlotte, I'm glad you got a diuretic for the fluid in your tissues. It's just not good for a persons blood pressure, heart, kidneys, .... everything.
I wish you could remember where you read the info about the cycling and cravings every several weeks because that's just what I do. I crave carbohydrates mostly, but have a gargantuan appetite for just about anything when these times hit.
Well, if I can get to the bottom of this, maybe I'll start to get a social life too. :D

Sue, glad I inspired you to start using the WATP tapes. Aren't they awesome? I love them. I need to get the 4-mile one though. I think she has a 5-mile one too, or will shortly.? I thought I heard or read that someplace.

Did I tell you gals about the ZCOIL SHOES? I sent an email to the closest dealer to me, and received an answer that has me even more intrigued, so I think I'm going to make a trip up there to have a look-see sometime in the next month or so. It's in a big city and I won't drive there alone because I get too nervous, so I'm going to have to find someone to drive me up there. I am desperate to find something to take the pain away a little in my hip when I walk on cement. Everything about these shoes makes sense to me so far.
When I sent the e-mail, I told them that my feet are wide, that I am very obese and that my foot turns in, and they said all those things can be addressed when they fit me for the shoes.


If any of you have a problem with joint or back pain when walking, you might want to check these out.
http://www.zcoil.com/zstyles.cfm

I have found someone to help me clean out my attic too. A woman I work with has a couple of teenage sons and they said they would like the job. So, I'm going to be doing that one of these weekends soon too. I don't want them going up and down those steep steps though, so I'm going to drop the stuff down from upstairs and they will take it outside for me.

Well, I have to get moving here. Did you gals hear about this? I'm going to be watching it every night that I can. I'll probably fall asleep on the couch and have to catch it in 60,000 years! :lol:

"The Red Planet is about to be spectacular! This month and next, Earth is catching up with Mars in an encounter that will culminate in the closest approach between the two planets in recorded history. The next time Mars
may come this close is in 2287. Due to the way Jupiter's gravity tugs on Mars and perturbs its orbit, astronomers can only be certain that Mars has not come this close to Earth in the Last 5,000 years, but it may be as long as 60,000 years before it happens again.

The encounter will culminate on August 27th when Mars comes to within 34,649,589 miles of Earth and will be (next to the moon) the brightest object in the night sky. It will attain a magnitude of -2.9 and will appear 25.11 arc seconds wide. At a modest 75-power magnification Mars will look as large as the full moon to the naked eye. Mars will be easy to spot. At the beginning of August it will rise in the east at 10p.m. and reach its azimuth at
about 3 a.m. By the end of August when the two planets are closest, Mars will rise at nightfall and reach its highest point in the sky at 12:30a.m. That's pretty convenient to see something that no human being has seen in recorded history. So, mark your calendar at the beginning of August to see Mars grow progressively brighter and brighter throughout the month. Share this with your children and grandchildren. NO ONE ALIVE TODAY WILL EVER SEE THIS AGAIN. "

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Welcome...Cathy!!!! We'd be glad for you to join us! We're here to encourage & be encouraged. I say....drink a LOT of water! http://www.emotipad.com/emoticons/Glug.gif If you're able...exercise....http://members.shaw.ca/Sunburn_69/treadmill.gif Get plenty of sleep...http://www.emotipad.com/emoticons/Zzzz.gif & post a lot!!!http://www.emotipad.com/emoticons/Typing.gif Anyway...we can help, let us know.

Willow....I hope the councelor can help you. It seems to really have you frustrated. I understand....I get frustrated if I go one week(which happens too often!) without at least losing 1 lb. How's the situation with your kids?

Sheila....I WILL be praying for your friend. I know drs can make mistakes, like anyone. It does seem, though, like a lot of it is happening these days. I'm glad the weather is better for you, now. Have a good weekend.

Fatpuss....I'm thinking about you. Take care.

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Good Morning Everyone! Rain for Sale - Real Cheap! Bring your own container. Looks like more of the same for most of the week.

Welcome aboard Cathy. Don't be afraid to speak up with any problem or concern you may have. We're all here to listen, chat, support, brag or whine. No one is going to get upset, belittle or yell at anyone. If we don't know the answers, we will make something up! I am just kidding, we like to laugh a lot too. And where else would you find the special effects that we get here, thanks to our very own Angel. Come back often.

Puss, you certainly are getting dealt a hand with no Aces. I don't remember reading in any of the back posts, but do you have any other brothers or sisters that could share the load?

Sheila, that is fantastic! I hope you have a treat in store when you hit the 50 pound mark, and I don't mean a hot- fudge sundae. I am still scratching and clawing my way to the 20 lb mark and I have my eye on a nice pair of gold earrings! Way to go girl :cb:

Willow, I have marked my calendar. We will be at the lake toward the end of the month and I can't wait to show my grandchildren the red planet. They will be able to tell THEIR grandchildren. Once the lights go out up there, it is pitch black, so it should be fantastic to see. I checked out the zcoils. Quite an interesting concept.

Angel, I am going to see if I can "lift" that little teddybear with the kitten on his lap and see if I can e-mail it to my granddaughter. She would just love it. I used to have a picture of Garfield taped to the wall over my scale. He was holding his fat belly over to the side so he could see the numbers on the scale. It was quite funny. You always have the right images to lift out spirits. One who brings so much joy to others, cannot help but bring joy to herself. I would like to lose at least a pound a week too, but we are in the same boat, that rarely happens. Hope you are feeling better this week.

Guess I will get some indoor work done today. Time to give the house a real good "spring" cleaning. Better late than never. There are several different kinds of clean when company is coming: Mother clean, Mother-in-Law clean, Sister/brother clean, and "Grab a cup of coffee, move the cat off the chair, and tell me how you've been my friend" clean. Have a great day all - Sue.

Good morning!
 

Sue, I hate to say it, but, we could use some of that rain here. We haven't had much and my lawn is starting to look like a field of shredded wheat again. It looks as though it's going to do just that too. Cloudy and cool out there. Only 70 degrees right now.

I sure envy you that trip to the lake. It reminds me of where I grew up, ... far from lights and traffic and pitch dark at night. I used to love laying on a blanket on the grass at night and staring up at the stars, and pretty soon it seemed as though you were floating up in the air among the stars.

:lol: I love your different kinds of clean. I think my favorite is the "grab a cup of coffee....." clean.

I'm doing laundry today, and other than that, I'm not sure. I only slept about 3 1/2 hours this morning. I didn't get in until about 2:30 and then went to bed about 3 and was awake again by 6 AM. Maybe I'll take a short cat nap later if I get too sleepy.

Everybody have a wonderful Sunday!

Hi Everybody....been a long day. Went to church...welcomed new Pastor. Went to another church to eat dinner & attend singing. Just really too tired, but I had promised to sing a couple for them. I'm glad we don't have service tonight....strength is gone. I hope my Remicade isn't wearing off already. The last couple of days, I've been really fatigued. I've got 3 more weeks until a treatment. I've been doing well. Maybe it's just a couple of bad days.

Willow....I know you're going to get the help you need with the counselor. You're very determined & dedicated to losing your weight. We're all pulling for you!


Sue....I went back & checked the bear....you should be able to save it to your documents or pictures files & email it. If you have any problems, let me know. I can just email it to you...if nothing else. Any time you want something...just take it...I don't mind. Thanks for all your compliments you give to my images. It's not hard....really just fun. I enjoy making my friends smile, also! Oh....& you can send Willow the rain...we've got quite enough!!

Sheila....hope your friend is better. I'm still praying for her.

Fatpuss.....Thinking about you!

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Good morning!
 

I don't have a whole lot to report in with. I lead such a dull life.
I babysat 3 of my oldest sons kids for a while early Sat. then went over to some friends' until about 2:30 AM.
I did laundry yesterday and sat and read the rest of the time.
I set my alarm for 3:30 to get up and exercise this morning, but, I just do NOT want to get started. What the hey is wrong with me?

Maybe I'll feel more alive after my shower. Back to work today. Ick!

Everybody have a good day! See ya later!

Well.........what in the world's wrong with you....woman???? Why can't you get started at 3:30 in the morning??!! http://www.passionthoughts.com/bank/...ngs_md_clr.gif

I woke up about 2:30 & couldn't go back to sleep...finally got up at 4:00. I don't like waking up so early!! http://www.agifs.hpg.ig.com.br/garfield/garfield33.gif Well...Sue....now I think of you when I see/use Garfield!:lol:

Everyone have a good day.....gonna try to catch a nap before the alarm goes off....http://www.emotipad.com/emoticons/Zzzz.gif

What is with you early morning risers?? :) It's hard to fathom somebody willingly setting their alarm for 3:30 am! I drag myself out of bed at 7:00 am and feel like I'm deprived. Of course, I don't go to bed until midnight most nights, sometimes later if I'm reading a good book. Totally agree with your Garfield grapic, Charlotte!

Dull life, Willow? Hate to argue with you, but I'm pretty sure I have a lock on that. Until I get my treatments the third week of August, I have to lie down about every hour, and pain is my constant companion. Talk about dull! I go to my exercise classes and once a week to the store, and the rest of the time I am at home. But. . .most of the time I don't mind dull (although I mind the pain--a lot!). Up until I got sick, I was involved in a lot of stuff, almost too much stuff, so dull feels pretty restful to me. :) My daughter thinks we lead a dull life, too, but I don't tell her the stuff I used to do when I was younger. I'd rather be thought of as "dull mom."

Puss, hope that everything is okay with you and your mom. Willow, hope your first day back at work is a good one. The first day of school is usually the best one of the whole year (except for maybe the last day of school), so hopefully it's the same with going back to work.

Happy Monday!?!?!

Dear, dear friends, thanks for all the good wishes and support, they were so appreciated. It really did help reading your messages to know some people cared. Thanks. Latest saga is I picked my mother up at the railway and driving back to my house she starts rubbishing a perfect stranger who was sitting opposite her on the train then she calls my SIL a stupid cow so I just told her to stop it and one thing led to another and I brought up the batterings I had as a kid from her and she denied it, said I was exaggerating it all etc . She said she wouldnt stay even though I said she was still very welcome. I had to drive all the way back the next day (yesterday) to the station and she left. This morning she phones early and says she now remembers it but still denying the extent or the viciousness so I told her to get lost and stay out of my life. I took the day off work and worked it off by painting the front of the house (downstairs only!) and garage and she rang again at midday apologising, said she was always angry then would I forgive her. I said thats all I ever wanted, an acknowledgement that it happened not the constant denials and blaming me for invention. I ended up telling her life is too short so let's forget it and does she want to come back down. DH and son say she isnt sorry at all just fresh out of friends and needs me. Brother is lovely but no patience. She said "you have always been there for me" and I know that's what this is all about, she has a prolapse operation due in September and I have promised to go and stay with her and take time off work. Never mind, seems it's my cross to bear in life, I must have been a wicked devil in a previous existence ha ha! Cathy, a huge big welcome. As you can see from support I have had , these are the best girls in the whole site. We will all help you to stick to the straight (sometimes a bit wavy) and narrow (occasionally we re-define the boundaries a little) of weight loss. Willow, those shoes sound good, you must let us know how they work out if you get them. Angel, I hope your fatigue has lifted a little now. One thing I noticed when I was working from home last week for a few days instead of going into the office - it's so much harder to lose weight. I was forever making myself little munchies and being sat down all day I put 1lb on last week. And I don't have any medical conditions to slow me down either so well done for losing what you have, it's not easy. Sheila, I hope your freind is recovering now. That reminded me when I was a student nurse and two surgeons were fist fighting in theatre over an affair one was having with the other's wife and some poor woman nearly died because the operating surgeon accidentally nicked the lady's liver during a gall bladder op and didn't notice it. She ended up in ICU but fortunately pulled through. That was all hushed up of course. I loved the trick you played on your DH's birthday card!! Like you, I feel 0700 is a really early wake up ha ha. Sue, do you fancy an illegal immigrant up at your cabin?? We have a heatwave on at the moment and they are expecting temperatures to reach 100f by Wednesday. I am going to start painting the top coat tomorrow very early because the heat was unbearable today and I can't take the high 70s never mind the high 90s but I had to get it out of my system somehow and I have been thinking the house needed a lick of paint for ages. DH is thrilled of course, can home from work and it was all done - devil he is. Offered to make dinner - I had made it in advance yesterday as he well knew. Just as well he's a good chap! Once again, thanks so much for the lovely posts of support and whatever happens now, I am still going to post every day failing a power cut. Best regards to you all and welcome again, Cathy.

Just read the bits about DULL - Willow and Sheila, Give me dull any day, it's high drama and action I can't take ... dull is a luxury around here ha ha. xx

Hello All. I have a few minutes before getting dinner started. DH is running a little late this evening. If he would eat pork and beans on toast, that is what we would have. He absolutely hates it. Likes the beans, and loves toast, just not together. Men! Go figure.

Willow, I feel like such a glutton with all this rain and you needing it so much. Pouring again all afternoon. Let us know how you are doing back at work. I do much better at controlling my eating when I am at work. My problem is still the weekends. Oh well, if we can do 5 out of 7, I guess that isn't all bad. Are you still making up your menus in advance?

Puss, good for you on standing your ground. I have a friend whose mother was like that, and when she (the mother) died, my friend ended up having a nervous breakdown. She bent over backward, but nothing was ever good enough for Mom. She kept it bottled up inside for years, then the load of guilt that had been continually dumped on her did her in. I wish she had had your strength, but it is water under the bridge now. Two years of therapy hasn't made too much difference that I can see. Things will get better, just don't let it drag you down.

Sheila, I must confess, I am also an early riser. To me, 7:00 is "sleeping in". We are up between 5 and 5:30. Even on weekends, I just wake up without the alarm.

Angel, I actually have a Garfield coffee cup with "I don't do mornings" on it. Have you got me pegged, or what!!! I copied the bear (Thank You) and e-mailed it, but it just comes out as a picture, without animation. I will try it again.

Guess I better get something going, even I am getting hungry. Will check in tomorrow. Sue

Good afternoon!
 

Oh my! I think we need to bring Puss over here to the states and hide her out for a while so she can get a taste of our Dull! :D
You know what though, Puss? I'm so very proud of you that you didn't back down and that you stuck to it until she admitted the abuse. That may be her first positive step toward healing herself.
I hope that you can get some peace in your home now when she's there, and I'm very happy that you're going to continue to post as often as possible.

Charlotte, I hope you weren't too tired today after waking so early.
I'm not going to get up as early tomorrow morning. I have that appt. tomorrow after work and then I'll go to Curves after that.
I called my ins. co. today to make sure I didn't need pre-authorization and to see what my coverage is for that, and I didn't need pre-authorization and I'm covered 100% with a $20.00 co-pay/visit.
Now I just hope they can help me figure out if I have some eating disorder, or if it's from thyroid or apnea, or depression or if I'm just lazy or nuts. :D
Today a friend and I were talking about what's been going on with me, which I don't do with many people, but she and I have been friends for a long time and used to chum around together when we were both going out a lot. She said, I know that ten years seems like a long time in some respects, but it really isn't that long, and 10 years ago you were skinny, wore your tops tucked in, used a belt and were always in a good mood. This has been happening slowly, so maybe it's a chemical thing."
I think she may be right, but, ...... we'll find out soon, I hope.

Geez, Sheila, I feel so bad for complaining when you have constant pain. I don't know how you stand it to do all that landscaping, etc. I hope this month is kinder to you.

Sue, No, I haven't been making my menu's in advance for a week now. I don't know what the hey! gets into me. I know what works, I just get into these, ..... moods? ... or whatever you'd call them, and I couldn't get myself to concentrate and do what I'm suppose to to save my soul from ****. :(
I do better at work, of course, because I don't take any money with me to be tempted to buy out of the vending machines, so I have my 9 AM snack and my lunch and that's it.

Well, I need to get stuff ready for work tomorrow.

I think we lost Cathy. But, if you're out there, stop in and visit. :D

I'll let you girls know tomorrow how it goes at my appt.
Everybody have a wonderful evening/day.

Hi everybody.....I need to whine.....hope you don't mind. If you don't wanna hear it....just skip over....I GOTTA WHIIIIIIIINNEE!! After such a miserable night & morning....I went to the station. I find out I've got it alone. Ok.....I can do this......did it lots of times. Our meteorologist calls the weather update in at 12:30, so I start bringing in the maps. All I gotta do when he calls is change over from satellite to live programming & have the microphone to the speakerphone...roll the maps as he talks. Done it lots of times. I can't get the maps up!!!!!!! I can't get the monitors on!!!!!!! I can't get anything to work!!!!!! I call him. He walks me through hundreds of things to check out...as the clock is ticking......nothing works!!!!!! He says forget it....I'll be there before the 4 o'clock weather & see what's going on. Then manager calls.....I tell her what's happened. WE'RE NOT GONNA FORGET IT!!! (They're going on vacation next week & want to know that I can handle anything, sooooo) She goes to walking me through all these things. Now, mind you, all this time ( been about 45 minutes now) I've been standing up. I can't stand up long at a time! Getting worse & worse.....don't wanna complain. After turning computer off 3 times & putting in a half dozen passwords, it finally comes up! I'm so tired physically & mentally by then, I can't think straight & frustrated. Meteorologist calls....we put the weather on. Everything is fine, right? NOT!! I have the cordless phone beside me, where I was talking to manager. (by this time, a man & others have come in to do some taping & stand to watch me.....start talking very loud & I'm afraid it's coming out over the air!)The weather is almost over so I grab the phone & head back to the control room. I hear a strange sound.....the guests greet me(as I pass in a great rush!)ask me how I am....& I answer that I'm not so good at the moment. Then I find out when I picked up the phone, I accidently turned it on. This caused EVERYTHING that was said by guests & ME to go out over the air!!!!!!! I apologized to meteorologist, who was great about it.....always is....& went to the office. A couple of the guys who work there had gotten there by that time & followed me in. They knew I was upset........I bawled like a baby!!!!!!!! http://www.agifs.hpg.ig.com.br/criancas/menina7.gif
The more they tried to console me....the more I cried! I finally went to the bathroom so they couldn't follow me! I got in there...& the manager calls me to see how it "went". Well, we're close friends...I try to sound ok, but she knew better....then SHE tried to console me! All day, these guys kept coming around giving me a little hug.....geeze! It wouldn't have gotten to me so bad, if I hadn't gotten so tired, & had more sleep. Ever had one of those days you wish you had just stayed in bed, whether you could sleep, or not?! Anyway....thanks for letting me whine. I feel better. I guess.

Willow...hope your appt goes well....let us know. I started keeping up with my foods Satuday, on fitday. That was the last day I kept up with it.

:lol: Just didn't work for me.

Sue.....If you changed anything at all about the bear...size, etc., it won't be animated. I know sometimes, when emailing, I'll change the size. Be sure you don't. Good luck. Glad you like Garfield..I like em too.http://www.members.aol.com/teejaw/smilies/Garfield.gif

Fatpuss.....been thinking of you...& very proud of you. You know, it was hard to explain to people, as I was growing up, that I had a "problem mother"....just as some people had "problem children". It puts a large responsibility on a child. I use to think something was wrong with me, or she wouldn't talk so cruel. As I grew older though, my dad helped me to understand. As I said before, she's very sweet to me now. But she doesn't realize who I am, because of the Alziemer's. At least, it makes it easier to help her & my step-dad. I'm hoping things will get better for you.

Sheila....I'm not an early riser by choice. This has just started happening over the last several weeks. Got a lot on my mind with the house & all. That's all I can figure it is. I go to sleep easily....just wake up & lay there at least an hour before I give up. Like you....I hurt a lot & lying there only makes it worse. I understand what you mean about the kids. They remember me as very active......Sometimes I think they believe I just got lazy.

Cathy....where are you? Come back for a visit.

I guess I've complained enough today....sorry....I try not to. Well, I didn't try too hard not to this time!!
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Angel, you poor thing, sounds like you had a terrible time at the station but I guarantee one thing - you will laugh at this in time to come. They were lucky it was you with the phone picking up all the talk, when I get really stressed the bad language would turn a trooper red!! I worked for the Ministry of Defence a few years ago and had a very sensitive document which came from the Prime Minister's office to copy for my boss. I was new and didn't know the photo machine. Well, this document came out of the copier totally black like it had been in an oven - totally illegible! That was the original and a copy hadn't been produced so I was in a right panic. All I could remember of the chap who had telephoned to ensure I had received it by special messenger was that he had the same accent as me - came from the same Northern city. I ended up phoning this high security department in London asking everyone I got through to was there a chap with a Liverpool accent there! Eventually I found him and we had a real good laugh about it (could only laugh once I found him!) and he rushed another copy over. Be glad that you are sweet and didn't cuss and curse over the air or it would have been on one of those TV programmes and you would have been famous. Seriously, hope you are feeling better about it, now. You were probably dead tired and mentally drained. Willow, hope your appointment is a good one. Two things I can tell you just by being on these posts is 1. you are not lazy, you put me to shame with your activities and 2. you are not mad - sound common sense is what you talk. I think you have been through a lot lately too but unlike me, you live alone and don't get a chance to talk it out when you want to. Some people lose weight when they are stressed and others (myself included) put it on. Maybe it's a quirk of the body - it's a complicated machine at the best of times with hormones etc. I mostly still do my menus eg. rogan josh beef curry, chicken Thai red curry, bolognaise ground beef sauce and find they help when I get in from work tired. You seem to eat very healthily though and with your exercise too, you are doing all the right things. Also, you, Angel and Sheila all have medical conditions and some medications slow metabolism down eg my mother's anti-depressants do. Sheila, how is the yard doing? Thought of you - in the nicest possible way - this morning I woke to cat vomit on the landing carpet - lovely! Well, I woke bright and early after all the hard work painting up and down ladders yesterday so will get cracking again putting the top coat of paint on it all today before the sun gets too fierce. Caught the sun nicely on my back and lost 1.5lbs this morning. maybe I should get a job as a painter and decorator and I'd be skinny as a whippet ha ha, quality of work wouldn't be professional though. Sue - keep the flag flying for beans on toast and Weetabix.

Hello, everyone!

Fatpuss, thanks for thinking of me when you see cat vomit. :lol: That really cracked me up! Someone on another board who is from the UK said that it's supposed to top 100 there today. I imagine air conditioning isn't exactly something you guys need much so hope you're not too miserable. Sounds like you've been BUSY with all that painting. Now that's definitely exercise!

Omigosh, poor Charlotte! What a horrible day you had! I hope you treated yourself well last night and that your evening was better than your day. I can totally understand how you feel--I would have been so upset! Hopefully, in a couple of years, you can think about this and laugh--I know, it will take a LONG while.

We finally got the trellises up on the side yard, and the plants in, although I stuck in a bunch of annuals until I figure out exactly what I want there. We have clematis growing up the trellises so that it will shade the bedroom windows and provide some nice flowers for us (and the neighbors) to look at. We also put down gravel because I hate lawn, and I needed something for a path. It's not an area we go to often, but I think it looks nice with the trellises, and the roses there were already there. We are still working on the other side of the yard where we put in the fence and raised planter boxes. The guy I got for my DH's birthday came by to give us an estimate on the retaining wall and garden steps. No matter what he estimates, I'm going to hire him, but it will be nice to know how much in advance.

My youngest son is flying over on Friday and will help paint the house over the weekend, and then we are all going to the Oregon coast on Wednesday, meeting my other son and his family. Think I'll get him to swab some more tar on the roof as long as he's here. He doesn't really have a job so we're paying him to do the work so he can make a little money. He's supposed to start school in the fall, but I don't know if he's been accepted.

Cool and cloudy today. Loving it! No rain, though. Sue, send us some of yours, please! Everyone's lawn looks like straw except for the people who have more money than sense. :)

Hi girls!
 

Oh My Goodness, Charlotte! You had one of those "MURPHY'S LAW" days. If anything bad could happen, it did?!?
I sure hope today went better for you.

Puss, I got a good laugh out of your experience with the photocopier.
Good job being down 1.5 pounds again.
Did you finish the painting today? You people sure have a lot of energy. Something I've been missing again for the last week.

Sheila, we had just a smidgeon of rain this evening. Barely sprinkled.
You sure have done a lot with your landscaping. I haven't had much interest in my yard this summer.

Well, I didn't think much of my appointment. :( In fact, I don't know as I'm going back.
She started out by asking me some questions about myself. During the early part of the conversation she mentioned antidepressants. I told her I don't like taking ANY kind of medication, and I'd rather try to figure out what's wrong with me first and then try to "fix" it WITHOUT meds if possible. I don't think she liked that.

After talking for a while, she said that she thinks maybe I AM lazy. I said, "ok, I wondered about that myself." She said that we sometimes let ourselves get lazy or lax when we get into these comfort foods and it's just too easy to keep in that mode, and to quit exercising too.

She said she thought my idea of charting when this happens to me is a good idea because there is always the chance that it could be something hormonal. And, even though I can't take hormone replacement therapy, I can maybe learn when these times will hit and can prepare for them.

She said that when I said that I think I'm alone too much, she thinks that I might be using her for someone to talk to. I asked her to clarify that for me, and she said that she is another human being, and therefore, someone to spend time with and talk with so I won't be alone.

Now, I can understand just about any of the rest of the $hi# she spouted, but, COME ON! I don't even know her! Why would I want to spend time with HER!

She also kept bringing up antidepressants, and how even a mild dose can sometimes be helpful, blah, blah, blah.
Sorry lady, but, only as a very last resort.

She said the fact that I raised my kids by myself, and made it through some crap in my life tells her that I'm a very strong and powerful woman. So, ............ what the **** do I need her for? (my words :D )
She set up an appointment for one week, but, I'm thinking I'm not going.

I have to go in to work 2 hours early the rest of the week, so I better get busy here and get stuff ready for tomorrow.

I'll see you on here tomorrow.
Everybody have a great evening/day.

Hi everbody....hope you all had a good day!
Mine was better than yesterday. It was one of my days off, so I took 3 of my granddaughters for our annual pre-school day together. We went shopping for them a new outfit each. Wow....kids clothes are uuuuggggllllyyyyyyyyyyyyy!! Of course, I told them how cute they looked! We had a nice day. I am dead tonight, of course.

Fatpuss, I liked your story better than mine. It turned out better, for one thing! No, I couldn't talk that language. For one thing, I dont't. For another...it's a Christian TV Station. Like you said, though, if anyone wanted to....they sure could have "lost" it!!
I guess some day...it will seem better to me. For now though, I dread going in tomorrow! Lost more weight...good for you!http://www.gilly.0catch.com/emoticons/cheer.gif

Sheila....sounds like your house project is coming along nicely. Hope you enjoy your trip. http://aunimages.animfactory.com/ani...rip_md_clr.gif

Hope all rest well tonight...I'll check in tomorrow. http://www.agifs.hpg.ig.com.br/ursos/urso38.gif

Oh, Willow, sorry the appointment didn't go that well. I wonder if these doctors get kickbacks from the pill makers because they seem to push antidepressants so much. My stepdaughter has been taking antidepressants for years and has never seen a counselor--I don't get that because I thought antidepressants worked in combination with counseling. I was on antidepressants for about 18 months following three life-altering situations that occurred in the space of six months so I don't discount their usefulness, but I really think they are prescribed too much and if the patient objects, why try to push them?

Is there another counselor you could try? Maybe you just didn't get the right "fit" and there's another professional who could be more helpful.

Charlotte, what fun to go shopping with your grandkids--even if the clothes were ugly. It must be great to spend some time with them. I'm looking forward to spending a whole week with my granddaughter. While I do wish I could do the things that grandparents do with healthy kids, it's just a pleasure to be with her so I'm thankful for that. So how are the clothes ugly, anyway?

Puss, I forgot to say congrats on the weight loss. That's wonderful!

Hey, we got a big dose of rain this evening--yippee! Don't have to water after all.

See you all tomorrow!

Just a quick Hello this morning. I, too, have to go to work early. And I just had to tell you all - IT'S NOT RAINING :sunny:

Willow, I have to agree with Sheila, sometimes you have to try on a few new shoes before you get one that fits like a comfortable old bedroom slipper. Though I have to admit, you lasted longer than I would. Sorry to say I may just have got up and walked out. As for the antidepressants, I am not sure how I feel about taking them. I take Excedrin when I have a headache, Nyquil when I have a real bad cold, and antihistimines when my allergies act up. But when our "psyche" gets out of whack, we don't want to medicate it. Does that make any sense to anyone else? OK, I will climb down off my soapbox for now.

I'll add my "bad day" experience too. Many many years ago, when we first got a computer at work, I had never used one. Did not know the first thing about it. Well, after a few hours, I must have hit a wrong key, cause the screen went black and I didn't know what to do. I called my sister, the "computer guru" in tears and it took her half an hour to talk me through everything. I thought sure I had deleted everything on the stupid thing and I would get fired for sure. Come to find out, my boss knew less about it than I did. :dizzy: Now, people call ME for help. And, yes, I do look back on that day and laugh.

Angel, you are absolutely right - some of the clothes are ugly. I was looking at an ad in the paper the other day and the first thought that came to mind was that the girls (ages 10-12) looked like miniature hookers if I may be so blunt. What are these parents thinking?!?!?! Hiphuggers down to THERE and tops cut up to HERE. I can't imagine having kids in school these days. I read where Joan Lunden just had twins at 52. Do the math, can you see yourself with two 16-year-olds at 68 years old. YIKES.

Gotta go. I get carried away and now I might be late going in early. Oh well. Have a great day all. Sue

Good morning everyone. I'm really new to this site and am trying to find my way around. I'm over 50 and want to be healthy, too. May I please join your group? You all sound so positive and encouraging. I'm recently divorced after almost 36 years of marriage, have three grown daughters and three beautiful grandchildren. I work full-time. I've been overweight for the last 35 years and I'm tired of my weight controlling my life. I need to lose about 135 lbs and I'm starting Sugar Busters today.

Marilyn

Welcome, Marilyn! We would love to have you join our group.

I know what you mean about weight controlling our lives. I know there are some overweight people who are fine about wearing sleeveless tops or swimsuits in public, but I'm not one of them! I've never had the seatbelt problem on flights, but I was getting to that point at my highest weight.

I'm not too familiar with Sugarbusters, but I wish you great success. Everyone here has a different plan--I do Weight Watchers, which works well for me because I like the meetings, structure and support.

Look forward to reading more about you!

thought this was kind of interesting, ...
 

I'll be back, but wanted to leave this for now.
I have a little grandson, 6 years old, who is just borderline chubby. I have always believed in letting kids eat until they were satisfied, and I still believe in it. But, ..... I always also believed that kids should be playing instead of watching TV.
Anyway, I liked this article.

Setting Up Young Girls to Overeat

Restricting Food May Backfire, Leading to Eating Disorders

By Salynn Boyles
WebMD Medical News Reviewed By Brunilda Nazario, MD
on Tuesday, August 05, 2003

Aug. 5, 2003 -- Parents who put their young daughters on diets or use restrictive feeding practices may be setting them up for future eating disorders, according to a new study.


Researchers found that girls whose food was often restricted at age 5 were more likely to eat when they weren't hungry later in childhood than girls whose food was not restricted. This was true regardless of whether the young girls were overweight. Five-year-olds who were already overweight and who were subjected to the most restrictions were the most frequent overeaters by age 9. The report suggests by restricting food, parents are teaching children to ignore their own hunger and fullness, which puts them at an increased risk for obesity.


The study is reported in the August issue of the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. In earlier studies on the same subject, researcher Leann Birch, PhD, and colleagues from Pennsylvania State University reported that mothers who were most concerned about their own weight used more restrictive feeding practices to control the weight of their young daughters. Ironically, daughters whose food was most restricted tended to be heavier.


Good Intentions Backfire


Researchers recruited roughly 200 5-year-old girls of varying weights for the study. They surveyed the girls' mothers about eating practices and their perception of their daughter's risk for being overweight. The mothers were surveyed again two and four years later, when their daughters were ages 7 and 9.


In the latest analysis, the incidence of eating in the absence of hunger -- a major risk factor for eating disorders -- increased significantly for all of the volunteers. The 5-year-olds who had stricter food regulation had more frequent episodes of eating when they weren't hungry at ages 7 and 9 compared with girls with fewer restrictions.


Girls who were already overweight at age 5 and who were subjected to the most food restriction ate the most frequently when not hungry at age 9.



Because all of the young girls included in the study were white, the authors note that the findings cannot be applied to black, Hispanic, and other minority girls.


"Our findings, which indicate that restriction is counterproductive and not an effective approach to limiting girls' food intake, emphasize the importance of providing guidance to parents on alternative methods of setting limits for children in the feeding context that allow the development of adequate self-control mechanisms," write the researchers.


The Right Way to Prevent Eating Disorders


So what can parents do to help children develop healthy eating habits? In an earlier interview, Birch suggested making a large variety of healthy foods, such as fruits and vegetables, available so that kids will learn to like them. She also said that snacks should be allowed in moderation.


Nutrition researcher Barbara J. Rolls, PhD, recently found that children who serve themselves from family-style dishes during meals took smaller portions than an adult would give them. In an earlier study, she found that food intake among 3-year-olds is relatively unaffected by environmental cues such as portion size, but by age 5 this changes. Like adults, 5-year-olds in her study responded to increased portions by eating more. Rolls is also with Pennsylvania State University but was not involved in the Birch study.


"As much as possible, kids need to determine their own portion sizes," Rolls tells WebMD. "It is a parent's responsibility to make sure their kids have access to nutritious foods, but ultimately the kids decide how much of it to eat."

Welcome Marilyn. You will never go short on support on this site and I speak from experience. I don't know what a Sugarbuster is but we all do different things here. Willow introduced me to www.fitday.com which is a good site for checking how many calories/fat/carbs you eat each day. I found it really good. Sheila, I know you understood about the cat vomit ha ha. Yes, temperatures are nearing 100 here and we don't have air cons in our homes. As we speak DH is watching tv wearing last seasons T shirt and a pair of boxer shorts - not a pretty sight, I assure you. We have big table fans in the bedrooms bought during our periods of living abroad and they are blasting all night. Your garden sounds so English with the trellis work and roses, clematis and iris's, like the old song, "In an English country gar-ar- den". Willow, I agree with the girls, sounds like your doctor needs to see a doctor and like Sue, I would have walked out. SHe sounds like she has no bedside manner at all and I would have asked her what charm school she flunked. You are not lazy, did you tell her the hours you work, Curves and the housework never mind entertaining the family and grandkids??? Don't let this knock your confidence in any way, you picked a duffer is all. I didn't have loads of energy doing the painting - it was therapy working off the trouble with my mother and it worked, looks lovely and finished it yesterday. DH came home from work, said it looks lovely and he feels guilty (but not guilty enough to have started it when i asked last year ha ha!) Sue, I liked your example young girls' clothing. Little ones aged 5 here are dressed like mini teens - do the parents not think of the paedophiles around us? I also agree with you and Sheila about anti-depressants, they have their uses but I think they are dished out too readily by some doctors. My mother said she wishes she had stuck to her guns about refusing them but in her case I think she's better on them. Speaking of which, she calls today and has booked her train down here for next Tuesday so I will have to leave work early (didn't consult me if it was convenient). So, looks like it's going to be a long stay till her op in September, oh Joy! Angel, I hope you are feeling better now, you sound like you are with good people at the station and I am sure they think nothing of it. You are human and no one expects someone to be perfect all the time - well, some people do and they are the ones with the most imperfections of all in my experience. I'd like you to subscribe to the "so what? Big deal" Fatpuss school of thought once middle age struck. Life is too short for lashing yourself over something you really will laugh about in the future. My husband is a meteorologist and years ago in Scotland used to do the National radio forecast. I can't tell you the times either he or the announcer for radio Scotland boobed and because he had an English and not a Scottish accent our kids classmates immediately knew it was their dad and they got all sorts of flak, ha ha. DH never batted an eyelid, carried it off to perfection. Did your grandaughters go for the grungy, skateboard style of clothes or the Barbie styles? I can't wait to be a grandma but my son and daughter tell me I have years to wait yet!! Our friends from Scotland are visiting this weekend with the brother and sister they adopted when they were aged 1 and 2 and I can't wait - I have kept two favourite board games from when our kids were 6 and 7 and it's also a good excuse to trawl ToysRUs in town tomorrow.

Willow, you must have posted the above when I was typing. Facinating. I know research proves that daughters whose mothers are obsessed with not gaining weight often become the same. In my case I had a first born daughter with poor appetite though bags of energy and was overly concerned all the time and took her to all different paediatricians looking for a magic formula. They all said she was fine, just a skinny, tall kid with small appetite. Son was born 11 months later and although a guzzler from the bottle stage, he and I think I contributed to his weight problem because he would get praised to the hilt from me for clearing his plate and even asking for more. He was such a relief to have after the worry about my daughter. If I turn back time , being older and wiser and with the confidence I never had with the first born, I wouldn't have taken her to a doctor at all. Ah, hindsight is a wonderful thing, eh?

WELCOME MARILYN!!
 

I'm glad to see you in our group. We love to get more members.

My weight has gone up a few pounds in the past a few times, but, nothing like this past 8 to 10 years. So, I know exactly how you feel, and hopefully we can all help each other over the rough spots on this journey we're on.

I'm sorry to hear that your marriage didn't work out anymore. That's a lot of years invested into a relationship.

It truly DOES get to the point where it seems that our weight is controling our lives, doesn't it?

I'm not real familiar with Sugar busters, but, isn't it a low carb way of eating? I wish you good luck with it. We'll be here for support, so come post as often as you need or want to.

Charlotte, what a wonderful day!! Shopping with 3 granddaughters! I agree about the clothes now days. :lol:
Don't kids just have endless energy though? I bet you really WERE dragging by nightfall.
I used to take my grandkids shopping, but there is one or two DIL's that always took back whatever I got the kids and got what THEY wanted them to have. Did it at Christmas too, so now I just give the grandkids a check and they can do with it what they want. Their mother still goes and buys their Christmas presents from me. Oh well.

Sheila, I'm glad you finally got some rain. I thought for sure we were going to get a good down pour here this afternoon because they were predicting storms and rain for today and tonight. It started thundering and the wind was blowing etc, and not one drop of rain! :yikes: Maybe later tonight. One can always hope!
Sheila, I guess I'm with you on the antidepressants. I can see them in some cases, but wait till she finds out if I would even NEED them before she starts talking about them.
And, as far as me being a strong person when I was younger, I don't think that has any bearing on what could be going on in my life now. People change with life experiences. Oh well, maybe I should have been a counselor! :lol:


Sue, I'm glad your rain has finally let up.
Isn't it fun going in to work early? Actually, overtime always goes fast for me.

Got a good laugh out of your "bad day experience.".

I had a really good day at work today. The time just flew by. Mostly because I worked with a woman who is so much fun to be around. She had me laughing so hard at one point that tears were running from my eyes and my nose was running, .....
She's just a nut.

I suppose I should go check e-mails and read my snail mail.
Everybody have a wonderful evening/day.

http://www.chubclub.org/forum/Imageu...070523876s.gif MARILYN! Glad to have you with us!

Gee, I got far behind very fast!!!!

To everybody....yes, I did enjoy my day with granddaughters yesterday! We only do it once a year....I'd die if we did it more often!! Anyway...yes, they are ugly clothes...but they were kinda cute in them...honest. It's the Mudd brand jeans...hip-huggers. Then the flower shirts...like we wore as teens....you know..."flower power" !

Willow...I had a talk with parents before left...the girls were picking out their clothes...& as long as they were decent....(I wouldn't buy them, otherwise) they wouldn't be taken back. That they could rule what they bought for them. But I wanted then to have one set that was truly "their" choice. It was agreed.

I agree with everyone on your "dr". Should have walked out. You are the least lazy person I have ever come across. You make me tired just reading your posts! I couldn't do in one day when I was young, what you do now! Hope you'll find the right kind of help.

Fatpuss....thanks for the encouragement. I'm sure your husband was a professional & could handle any crisis. I'm an amateur, & was messing up the meteorologist that was calling in the weather. I know he's going to dread hearing it's me on the other end of the line! Manager's are going on vacation next week. Guess who takes care of things?!http://www.dewa.com/animated/5.gif

Sue...glad you finally got some sunshine... Now, if we could get some!!http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung...smiley-054.gif

HI Sheila...take care! Hope you're enjoying your son's visit.

Hi, everyone--

Did we already lose our newbies? I hope not.

My son hasn't quite arrived, Charlotte--he comes in on Friday evening, then starts the hard work on Saturday. We'll all be ready for our week at the coast when Wednesday rolls around.

Willow, glad you had such a fun day at work. It really helps to have fun coworkers. I actually miss working, and the camraderie that can go with it. There's also a lot of office politics, I've noticed, but if you can avoid that, you can usually enjoy the people you work with.

Puss, sounds like all of Europe is broiling in the sun. Glad you've got fans. I laughed at the image of your DH sitting around in his boxers watching TV. My grandmother lived in a place in Calif. where it routinely got to 120 F in the summer. My friend and I went to visit her and spent most of the time splayed out in a chair in front of her swamp cooler. When Grandma used to come to Seattle to visit in the summer, I'd always be amused by the fact that she'd wear a sweater even when it was 85 degrees!

Lifted weights today and got on the scale at the gym. It was up 1/2 lb. from Tuesday. I KNOW I should quit weighing myself on the scale there, but I still do it. I figure since I ate pizza last night my body is retaining fluid so I'm making an effort to drink a lot today and flush all the sodium out. Even eating three pieces of pizza (veggie, think crust), I still was within my Weight Watcher points range so I know I didn't overeat. Oh, well--I enjoyed it and that's all that matters.

The guy I hired to do the garden steps so my DH can take a rest from landscaping is starting on Monday. I can't wait to see how they look. I keep saying that one of these days I'll post before and after photos so I'm just going to have to get on the stick and do it.

Speaking of photos, I'm so close to a 50 lb. loss that I'm weighing in nude at Weight Watchers tomorrow. I might keep my socks on. I told myself I'd do a 50 lb. loss photo to go along with my before pictures. Clothed, of course. I haven't even seen my before photo because I had my DH hide it on the computer. It will be interesting to see if I can tell from the photos. I mean, I know I wear a smaller size so I hope there will be a difference. Of course, they say the camera adds 10 lbs. . .

Hope everyone is enjoying their Thursday!

Angel, I have to tell you that I love seeing that cat each time I log on! Don't worry too much about the station next week - you probably relievied that meteorologist from the tedium of his normal work. Sheila, well done for coming up to that 50lb mark. It's brilliant and you must look and feel so much different from when you started. Not sure whether you should go naked at the WW's meeting though, you may find yourself getting signed up for a Women's Institute calendar - they are making a film with Helen Mirren and Julie Walters based on a true life group of English ladies of a certain age from the WI (famed for being sensible and making scones and jam) who needed funds to save their building. The calender was very tasteful (bits and bobs carefully hidden) and sold in the thousands. Had to laugh about your granny and her sweater in 85 degree heat. DH's mother visited us in Abu Dhabi once and temps in the 100s still had her cardigan round her shoulders ha ha. I saw a female doctor from the US on TV this morning who claims she can diagnose from looking at the tongue. Two female patients in their 50s had their tongues examined and it seems that if the edges are fluted/frilly and not straight then your liver is out of condition. If you have cracks down the length of it, you are dehydrated. As my tongue has had both these features for as long as I can remember my poor old liver must be exhausted and clapped out! Good job I don't drink. Anyone ever heard of that or is is a bit of mumbo jumbo? Temperatures set to last here for next week at least and it's awful, we Brits can only take bad weather. I did two hours ironing with a fan blowing on me to make it bearable but far from reducing my appetite, I gobbled twice my usual amount which probably means I was dehydrated rather than hungry but licorice toffee tastes better than water. Willow, I hope you are ok and you are not overworking or feeling down. Sue, you haven't vanished off to that cool cabin yet, have you?

Hi ladies....

Sheila....The thought of you standing on those scales tomorrow in nothing but your sock feet!!! http://www.vfwds.com/graphics/images/clip/eyepeek.gif
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I just couldn't resist!! Oh, & stay away from the pizza! http://www.cartooncottage.com/images/pizza.gif Kinda pickin on you this go round......sorry.

Fatpuss....I like your cat too...wears me out though...exercises more than I EVER have!:lol: I've gone by the station, even on my days off this week, to check everything out. Making sure there was nothing I didn't know or understand. Something will still go wrong....but, at least I'll try my best. Connie (the manager) said she ask Brian (meteorologist) how things went Monday. He told her everything went very well. Bless his heart....he was covering for me. Only thing, I had already told her the truth! I was glad to hear that he would help me out, though. We're all friends up there...& that helps. I just want to do things right.

I lost 2 lbs this week...I weigh on Thursday morning. That's a total of 28 lbs. Little by little....bit by bit. I'm at 156 lb now....want to be at 140-145.

Willow & Marilyn...where are you?
I'll check in later. http://www.agifs.hpg.ig.com.br/ursos/urso68.gif

Howdy y'all
 

How is everyone today?
I barely made it to work on time this morning. I punched in at exactly 5 AM. WHEW!!

Today was pretty good again at work.
I'm starting to want to get back to my health.
I was talking with a woman today who lost a considerable amount of weight last year while on the Weight Watchers plan. She said that she wants to get back on it now. There had been a big legal problem about their son and she got really upset and depressed about it all and gained all the weight back.
She did all this while I was still on the second shift so I knew from seeing her in passing that she had lost weight but didn't know what she had done to lose it.
Anyway, she and 3 or 4 other women from work all did this together. They would have this woman plan out meals or menu's for a week, and do the grocery shopping, then they would all split the cost equally. They would gather at this womans house one night a week and cook a bunch of foods that were low calorie and healthy, then they would package them up into individual servings and each would take their share home and all they had to do then was grab a dinner out of the freezer and warm it up.
They all met at an exercise place and exercised together.
She told me today that she lost 66 pounds from February until the end of May.
They are all going to start doing this again by fall, and she invited me to join them. I think I will too.
I'm trying to get my basement done before then so we can exercise here instead of everyone paying a fee at a gym. There's a possibility that a guy from work might put in a new ceiling for me downstairs, and I'm going to start painting before then, and when that is all done, I'm going to get new, cheaper carpeting in down there. I'm not so fussy about the price of it for down there.
I'd like to get a couple more pieces of exercise equipment, and then we'd be set.
I think it would make it a lot more interesting to have a few people doing it together and have different things to use instead of one or two things all the time.
Anyway, it's nice to have something to think about and plan for. I also have an old 265-gallon fuel oil tank down there that I need to get out of there before I start painting. Guess I'll advertise. Maybe someone will want it to sell the metal. Don't know how they'll get it out though. It's awfully big.

I went to the store after work today and picked up some chinese food for supper. I also got some fresh fruits and veggies. I've been hungry for my strawberries and cereal the last couple of days.

Sheila, I'm DYING to hear the reaction of your WW group at weigh-in tomorrow! :lol:

Charlotte, Hope you had a good day today.

Sue, same goes for you. I suppose you're posting at the same time I'm typing this up.

Puss, I don't recall ever hearing of diagnoses being made by looking at the tongue, but recently a woman on another site said that a friend of hers went to some kind of Dr, (maybe a holistic Dr?) and he took samples of her hair to test it and said he could tell a lot about her nutrition, medications and a lot of things by examining her hair.
I'm not sure, but I would think he must have had some kind of solution that he put on the hair to see what the reaction would be. I do know that if a person dies under suspicious circumstances, a pathologist can tell by testing the hair id the person has been poisoned and for how long, by how far out it has grown with the hair, and also they can tell if there is lead in your system by testing your hair, among many other things.

Did I tell you girls that a sex offender moved in about 1 1/2 blocks from me? They had it in the paper a couple of times, his name, what his prior offenses were, how long he was in prison and how long he will be on parole along with the address he is moving FROM and the address he is moving INTO.
The SOB has been at this stuff for 15 years, and they turn him loose in my neighborhood.
Believe me, my grandkids wont be playing outside on the swing sets or anything unless I'm right there with them. Sigh!, ..... It's always something.

I cleaned out my fridge this afternoon. I don't know how a single person can have that much stuff to throw away.

Well, I need to get cleaned up and get my stuff ready for tomorrow.
I hope you all have a nice evening/day.
Hi to the newbies if you're still with us. Let us know how you're doing!

Hi Charlotte!!
 

I knew it!! I just KNEW it!! I knew somebody would post while I was posting!

Hey girl! Way to go on your two (that's 2!) pound loss this week!
How I wish I were where you're at.

I think I've come up with a new strategy to kick those urges in the you-know-what! But, I gotta think on it more and get it down pat before I go talking about it too much. I wanna be sure it's gonna work. :D

Congratulations again, Charlotte! :spin: :strong: :bravo:

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