Hi Ladies, Just a quickie I am afraid, not the best of times here. Willow, I am so glad you had such a wonderful time with gorgeous grandson - he sounds adorable and how lovely he could have you to himself and explore new fruits and do what he fancied for breakfast. I never had a grandma myself but these times must go down as treasured memories for both.
Angel, I am pleased that you have solved your virus problem. My husband found 11 virus' which had entered our system via the web but our virus checker had picked them up.
I brought my lovely cat home from the vet's today. They had him on a drip there since Friday evening and did a whole load of tests. Unfortunately his renal failure is bad, he has bleeding from the kidney's in his urine and although drinking a lot, his kidney's are not sifting the toxins out of his body. Vet said there is no real point in keeping him longer, he will be better at home with us who love him. Even the vet said it is such a shame, he is only 9.5 years and such a lovely boy, loves everyone and a real character, answers you back etc. Just had another cry because even when I am on the computer he has his own chair next to me and messes about with the keyboard. The vet says his toxin levels are still 3 to 4 times what they should be but can't say if he has a few weeks left or a matter of days. Awful thing is, although he is not as lively as usual and he is not eating as usual, he doesn't look ill. I know he is not human but he is with me all the time in the house and garden from the minute I wake till the minute I go to sleep. All weekend he was away I kept seeing him everywhere in the garden and I can't bear the thought of him getting sicker or the time when he won't be here. The vet wants to see him again on Thursday for more blood tests and meanwhile I have to give him two lots of medication and inject 60mls of saline into his scruff every day to keep him hydrated - I used to give intra-muscular injections 30 years ago as a student nurse but this is so different. Hope I manage it for the first time tomorrow. Thanks for all your prayers, I really appreciate them. I am keeping his illness from my son as he is sitting exams over the next few days and then going to Ireland for a long weekend with friends. He may be a big hulk of a chap but he adores the cat and when he is home carries it round like a baby he spoils it so.
My mum is going back home at the weekend for a doctor's appointment and my husband is pleased. Daughter went back to her hospital in the North yesterday and was such a good help whilst she was home here taking my mother out etc. I am sorry to be such a wet blanket but I know you will all understand. In civilised society our pets are not just animals are they, they are family members. I am going to take the rest of the week off work to have as much quality time with my little boy while we can.
Best wishes x
I have wondered at times if I spend too much time on my PC when I could be out with friends and getting more exercise. I have many times sat down to check messages thinking it's going to take me 15 to 30 minutes, and 3 hours later I'm still at it. Checking and re-checking messages, from one site to another, and from one email addy to another.
I've also had company and the second they leave, I go check my messages.
I know a couple of people who really DO have 2 or 3 PC's going at the same time.
One weighs almost 400 pounds too, but refuses to try to get any exercise. She takes naps in between surfing. Has a laptop that she uses while in bed.
I'm going to start timing myself, and set a limit on how long I can be on, and if I find that I can't abide by it, I'm getting rid of my computer. My health is more important to me.
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Internet Addiction: Ruining Lives?
Spouses, Friends See It First, Suffer Most
By Jeanie Lerche Davis
WebMD Medical News Reviewed By Michael Smith, MD
on Thursday, August 07, 2003
Aug. 7, 2003 -- It's got people worried: Glassy-eyed millions are downloading, instant messaging, emailing -- and they're doing it 24/7. Hours and hours after logging on, they can't walk away.
When does harmless Internet surfing cross into overuse, or -- as some say -- Internet addiction?
Nathan A. Shapira, MD, PhD, a psychiatrist in the McKnight Brain Institute at the University of Florida in Gainesville, has been studying this social problem since 1997. His latest paper, published in the current issue of Depression and Anxiety, outlines theories about this phenomenon.
When the computer age burgeoned two decades ago, researchers looked into computer and technology dependence. But they didn't find the same damage -- especially to relationships -- that Internet overuse seems to cause. In fact, psychiatrists are still trying to figure out what's going on -- and how best to treat the problem, he says.
"It's disheartening," Shapira tells WebMD. "We have this wonderful, very prevalent technology, but no one really knows the effect it's having on us."
Positive Becomes Negative
It's no secret: Many people use the computer to satisfy, stir up excitement, release tension, or provide relief -- whether it involves sex or not, he writes. Surfing, chatting, playing interactive games -- that's where those long hours go.
Make no mistake: Surfing has its upside, much like exercise or meditation, Shapira writes. "It's just that when Internet use becomes excessive, it can -- like other impulse disorders -- be distressing and disabling," he tells WebMD.
There likely is a psychological dependence -- as happens with TV, exercise, sex, or gambling -- rather than a physiological dependence as with smoking and alcohol abuse, Shapira writes.
In fact, Internet abuse often dovetails with another psychiatric problem. People with obsessive-compulsive disorder -- the same ones who compulsively gamble or shop -- may find the Internet an outlet, he adds. Depression seems to lead others to overuse, creating a viscous cycle fed by isolation.
The problem is not likely to ebb, not any time soon, he says. "People get a rush from being on three computers at once, keeping different things going on each one. And as speed gets better, the problem will likely get worse. Speed is part of the enticement."
Looking for Trouble
If you've said it too many times, "Come to bed, it's 2 a.m.," you may be living with an Internet junkie. Here are symptoms of a serious problem:
They have a preoccupation in which the Internet becomes "irresistible."
Using the Internet for longer periods than planned. "They say they'll be off in an hour, but three hours later they're still at it," says Shapira.
Preoccupation causes significant problems in relationships, work, or other important areas of functioning.
They try to cut back but can't.
They have excessive thoughts about it.
They get a sense of tension or arousal before doing it, and get pleasure afterward -- much as kleptomaniacs feel after lifting something.
Their other responsibilities, such as paying the bills, get neglected.
All this rings true for drug and alcohol addiction, too, says Kristin Kassaw, MD, associate director of the Baylor Psychiatric Clinic in Houston. "It would take something like a 12-step program to change the behavior," she tells WebMD.
Getting Help
In fact, therapy does work to curb the problem, Shapira says. Cognitive behavioral therapy -- which involves learning how to deal with feelings that lead to excessive Internet use -- helps people control their urges and manage their time better, he says.
Medications can help, too. "If depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder is involved, when the mood gets stabilized, it will have an affect on impulse control," he says.
Loved ones are always the first to identify this problem -- those glued to the screen rarely recognize it in themselves, Shapira tells WebMD. "Interpersonal relationships are the first to suffer."
If you're concerned about a family member or friend, talk to them about it and express concern about Internet addiction. Then help them find a psychologist, he advises.
SOURCES: Depression and Anxiety, August 2003. Nathan A. Shapira, MD, PhD, psychiatrist, McKnight Brain Institute, University of Florida, Gainesville. Kristin Kassaw, MD, associate director, Baylor Psychiatric Clinic, Houston.
Puss, I can feel your pain about your kitty. How very sad. You're not a wet blanket at all.
I wondered if you talked to the vet about changing his diet? I had 2 different cats that had urinary problems.
The first one had to go on a different cat food. I don't know what you have over there, but I had been feeding him canned food some times and dry food other times, and it turned out that he was getting too much ash in his diet, and the vet put him on a cat food called SCIENCE DIET. She said he could have that or another one called IAMS. He too had been peeing blood.
Then, a few years later I had another cat, a calico I called MOUSE because she was such a timid little thing and like yours, talked to us, especially when we had been gone for the day and first got home.
She started peeing in my potted plants and started losing her hair on her hind legs, and they did everything they could think of and nothing worked. I eventually had her put to sleep because she seemed to be in pain and meowed a lot.
I am so sorry for your heartbreak. Can you feel this big old hug?
I understand if you can't or don't feel like posting every day right now. Don't worry about it. We'll be here when you feel like it. We'll hold down the fort!
I think Sheila and Sue are both gone now anyway, so it's just us 3 unless there are lurkers, and of course, we wouldn't know about them at any rate, would we?
Charlotte, I hope you're doing ok. You've been kind of quiet lately too. I hope you are feeling ok.
I danced around the house for a couple of hours, off and on, this morning, dusting and doing housework while I listened to old rock-n-roll music. FUN!!
Fatpuss....I am soooo sorry about your dear cat.
You don't have to worry about talking to us about it...this is the place where we listen to each other....& care. If it helps to know, I am praying for your friend, & also, for you. I've lost dear pets & know the heartbreak. The last time was a real disaster....we had a dog we loved dearly. Had just moved here, & we're very close to the road. He got hit by a car, & I was home alone. He was much too heavy for me to pick up, so I just stayed with him, & rubbed his head, promising him I wouldn't leave him, as I knew he was dying. We were in the middle of the road, & no other car came along. He just lay still looking at me, as I cried & talked to him. He passed quietly. When a car did come along, I stopped them, & got help getting my friend out of the road. I haven't had dog, since. That was 15 yrs ago. We now have a couple of horses. I said I wouldn't get attached, but one of them(the mother of the other)loves our grandkids, & they love her....so, of course, I do too!
I'm glad your husband was able to check your pc, & it was alright. This was a major headache!
Willow....you're right. Time really gets away from us on the pc. My husband reminds me often, that I'm on mine a lot. Only thing, I don't know what else I would do right now. That's why I panicked when I had the trouble last week. Here in the house that burnt...everything is stored away, except a tv & computer, & my soundtracks/singing equipment. There's only so many songs I want to practice....don't really care for tv....so...with not being able to walk much...there's only the pc left! Oh well.......
Sorry, I haven't posted much, lately. The Microsoft technician had me to download a lot of patches & updates for future protection....& some took hours.
I'm feeling fairly well....but Remicade is beginning to wear off. I get a treatment next Tuesday....so trying to hold on. With the increase of dosage & moving treatment closer, it has helped. You were talking about dancing around the house....this would be me & hubby! AT LEAST THAT'S AS OLD AS WE FEEL THESE DAYS!
Well, gotta go fix lunch for hubby & take it to him...he's working close to home this week. Don't know if that's good or bad.
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I don't have a whole lot to report tonight.
I had a good day today with foods and water.
I did the whole 3-mile WATP tape this morning. I had my alarm set for 4 AM and I woke up at 3:11 AM and couldn't get back to sleep. So, I was yawning all afternoon at work.
It was 96 degrees here today, and it stormed, .... for about 15 minutes. Just POURED! Then the sun came out again, and it was just more like a sauna! Awful! It's suppose to storm tonight, tomorrow and tomorrow night though. I hope the humidity lets up then.
Charlotte, that story of how you lost your dog is soooo sad. I got a big lump in my throat thinking about it now.
I think there is a difference in your use of a PC and what that article meant.
You use it to pass the time because you can't do a lot of things the rest of us can. Some others use it compulsively.
Puss, if you're reading, hope everything is ok with you.
Gotta go get ready for bed. I'll check in tomorrow.
Hi.....yes, we had some stormy weather here, also, today.
Willow...I believe it's the way you said about me using my pc...my husband, though, seems to think I'm obsessed by it!
Actually...I do understand...we all can let it take over too much of our lives! There's a new virus out...goes into your email & takes over! Don't open anything with an attachment, unless you know that person!
Not feeling so well, today. My Remicade has worn off. They thought it would last 7 weeks with a large dose, but it came up a week short. I go next Tuesday. They went from 8 wks, to 7 wks...probably make it 6 wks next time...we'll see. I know I don't have strength, hardly, to even be up. Manager (my friend) at the station tried to get me to come home today....I stayed...didn't get much done, though. Oh well....this is my life, I guess!
Darn it anyway, Charlotte, I was hoping the Remicade would last for the whole 7 weeks. So sorry you're getting sick again. I hope they have you go back in 6 weeks next time. Gosh, it has been that long already since you were there last time! How time flies when I'm getting older!
It is unbelieveably hot here. It was still 95 degrees at 7 PM tonight. They say we're suppose to get some strong or severe storms tonight, but I don't believe them. Then they said it's suppose to be cooler tomorrow and for the next 5 or 6 days. A few minutes later I watched the weather report for tomorrow and it said it's suppose to get up to 93 tomorrow. WOW!!! A whole 2 degrees cooler!
I did my 3-mile WATP tape this morning and again this afternoon. I hadn't planned on doing it this afternoon, but I didn't have anything to do and I didn't want to go to Curves because they don't have airconditioning, just a few fans, and it's too hot for that. So, I did my tape again.
I have all those other tapes sitting there, and I always end up using that same one.
Wherever Sheila and Sue are, I hope they are having good weather.
We had wonderful weather! One night it rained a bit while we were sleeping, but every day was sunny, sometimes with fog rolling in a bit later, then followed by more sun. On the way back home, we stopped at a long-time friend's house and then my DH and I went our separate ways from the rest of our family who went back to Idaho. It was so hard to see them go, and they felt the same way. I miss my smiley little granddaughter so much.
Sounds like everyone had a pretty eventful week with computer viruses, visits to the stern doctor, melting jelly bellies, and your poor kitty, Fatpuss. I'm a major animal lover (think I mentioned I worked for an animal shelter at one time and started my own animal rescue organization) and it's so hard to let our beloved furry friends go. The worst part about animals is that they don't live as long as we do, so we're always faced with losing them too soon.
I also had a kitty with renal failure and had to give him subQ fluids. One thing I learned from the whole ordeal was that cats need to have bloodwork done annually when they turn 7 years old. I guess 7 is the magic number with cats. Unfortunately, my vet didn't tell me until it was too late so I had no idea of that until my 16 year old cat started drinking too much and losing weight. If you start having the bloodwork done at age 7, then the vets can catch renal problems early--same with dogs. My dogs now have bloodwork done semi-annually and I've managed to stave off kidney disease in one, and liver disease in the other just by changing food.
Speaking of cats, my pet/dad sitter was assigned the task of feeding my cats once a day. They are all on a special diet food. Well, my daughter who stayed at our house, thought she was supposed to feed them, too. Then it turns out my dad was also feeding them. My cats look like sausages on legs and they were eating diet food the whole time! Just goes to show you can overeat on anything and gain weight, dang it! My cats aren't happy to see us because they know they have to go back to the 1/3 cup twice a day routine.
My son took some great photos. I will have to create a page and post a link so you all can get jealous. Unless you don't like beautiful weather, wonderful scenary, perfect temperatures, etc., etc. I did awful with my eating. Started out with great intentions that quickly went down the drain. Oh, well. Today is another day. I do need to learn how to handle vacations, though.
We left the house only halfway painted. Turned out to be a lot harder job than we anticipated so we're going to get back to it today.
Hi Sheila!
I'm happy that you had a nice vacation. I bet it did hurt to see that little one go home. I always miss them as they are driving away!
That's how old my cat was too. 7 1/2 years old!
Oh Gosh! I laughed so hard about everybody feeding your cats!! I bet those cats were saying, " Well, ALRIGHT!!!"
I'm looking forward to seeing the photos. And, yes, I probably will be jealous of all the good weather.
Actually, it's pretty decent here today. Mid-eighties and a nice strong breeze and the humidity isn't so high.
It's beginning to look like I'll have to do my basement ceiling myself. I'm starting to get pi$$ed off now, and my patience is running thin. Well, I did it before in 3 rooms upstairs, and I'll do it again if I have to. Although that was like, .... 27 years ago.
I better get my stuff started for tomorrow.
Hello Sue, Charlotte and Puss. Any lurkers too!
Hope your day is going good.
Hi girls, today is the first calm one I am about to have since last Friday so I needed to get back to you friends. Well, both Alfie and I have had a very eventful week. While he was still in hospital on Sunday morning the bridgework in my mouth fell out! It was due to be replaced Wednesday but the dentist booked me in for a hour saying it would take much drilling to remove. Ha! Part of the original tooth on one had snapped off and I thought the dentist woudn't be able to do anything and the bridge would be out of the question. Little wizard of a dentist managed to sort it but had to do TWO root canals on the teeth supporting the bridge as I had TWO absesses! I had felt the discomfort and swelling for days. The only good thing (kind of) about the bridge being out was I couldn't eat properly but did find that soft cake and cups of tea was perfect! So, initially I lost a couple of pounds.....I have a temporary bridge in now until the proper one is made and back to bad eating habits.
I tried giving Alfie injections of water under his scruff but to be honest I was waking in the middle of the night with nightmares over them and DH was useless, said he couldn't bear to do them either. The GOOD news is I took him back to the vet yesterday, saw a different one in the group because the lovely girl I saw Friday and Monday had a friend die suddenly (put my troubles into perspective) and this one said we dont need to do the injections because he is well hydrated at the moment but the BEST news is that bloods yesterday show that although urea levels are up again, the important one, the Keeratinine? levels are down even on the levels after he was on a drip all weekend. Thank you for your prayers for him. Willow, he has only ever eaten science diet (Hills) and Iams all his life, plus fish. Such a fussy eater he would never eat wet food. I have to go ...I can hear my mother getting up , she goes home this morning and to be honest, it can't come quick enough for DH. I will post more this afternoon. Thanks so much for all your kind wishes, xx
I'm down another 2 pounds this morning. Hadn't intended to weigh until Monday, but, was feeling "thinner" so thought I'd check. 3 more to go to get back where I had been before my spree. I wanted to weigh on Mondays, and I still will, but maybe this will keep me honest over the weekend, my worst time.
The weather is going to be beautiful this weekend, if you can believe that weather man. Hopefully I can get outdoors and do something.
I need to cut the long canes off of a climbing 7-sister rose and dig it up and transfer it to a different spot. I know I'm going to look like I was in a fight with a mean cat, .... and lost, ... but it HAS to be done.
Puss, I'm happy to hear that your kitty is doing better! I always say, ...." the power of prayer is the strongest thing ever, ...."
....... Do you suppose you're hubby has been saying a prayer that your mother goes home? .....
Oh My!! TWO abcesses! I am such a coward when it comes to dentists, and if I knew I had TWO abcesses I'd have to be sedated. You're a brave woman in my estimation.
Omigosh, Fatpuss, two abcesses and two root canals?? Yuck! That's not the way I'd choose to lose weight! Did your mom get off okay? Hopefully she will be okay at home with no more visits to the hospital or back to you for a while. Maybe things can get back to normal at your house.
Willow, as the weekend starts, how are you doing? If you need a shot of willpower, be sure and post before you take that first bite.
Charlotte, I'm so sorry the medication wore off so quickly. I hope you can get some relief soon after your next appointment.
My DH left for Norway yesterday at 7:00 pm, arriving in Norway on Saturday at 3:30 pm their time. He always tries to stay up and then go to bed at the normal hour for them. The host has a boat and was going to take the group on a tour of the fjords. I'm looking forward to the photos, although the weather report says 65 degrees as a high and rainy. My DH took a rainsuit with him--smart thinking!
So I'm left to work on painting. At the rate we're going, it'll be next year before the house is finished. The channel siding is a bear to paint--give me lap siding any day.
Supposed to be fairly cool (71 degrees) and partly sunny today. So far I don't see a cloud in the sky so we'll see if the weather people are wrong. Guess I better go get that paintbrush out. . .
Sorry I didn't get back yesterday ladies, DH was so thrilled to have the house back to just us I was kept prisoner on the settee with him ha ha. He was getting right narked at my mother selecting the tv programmes (including Hyacynthe Bouquet as detective Hetty Wainthrop! He can't stand her as I think she reminds him of...guess who?). Anyway all quiet on the western front but it's early days yet. I started a course of antibiotics today for the absesses. Gum came to a painful crescendo the other night and infection burst from what looked like an injection site from Wednesday. Much better now. Puss cat can't understand why I follow him everywhere with bits of fish and water bowl but is more resigned to having the tablets X twice daily. Sheila I think you were so brave doing the injections yourself - I honestly had nightmares over them they made me cringe so much yet I have donated over 40 pints of blood over the years myself. I am glad you had a good break with your little grandaughter, she sounds lovely. Had to laugh about the double feeding of your animals! I didn't realise you started an animal rescue, you must have had some very sad times as well as rewarding ones. We don't do bloods every 7 years on pets here as far as I know but it's a brilliant idea.
Willow -- what can I say lady?? fantastic on the 2lb loss!! I think you must have Fedex'd the fat over to me though...I was sorry to hear about your little Mouse, so sad and young too. Hope if you decide to do your ceiling you take good care and don't overdo things, last thing you need is a broken leg.
Angel, I am really sorry you are getting less and less time from your Remicade. How are you feeling now? Do you get good support and treatment from your specialists? I nearly cried my eyes out reading about your poor dog. God, that must have nearly killed you cradling your poor darling to the end.
It's a holiday weekend in the Uk, last one of the year so DH and I plan to do chilling out things like bits of gardening, reading and siestas etc. Like your husband, Sheila, my DH travels too. Norway is not too bad right now but I wouldn't like it in the winter, brrr. My DH is off to Holland for a few days next week so (hopefully) it will be just puss cat and me taking it easy. My son is having a long weekend in Dublin, Ireland with a group of friends at the moment and I purposely haven't told him about the cat. I will wait until he's back just in case puss takes a sudden turn for the worse (I was told that when they stop eating and drinking it's about 48 hours afterr that). I know son will be gutted, he adores Alfie and when he was in Mexico a few years back, found a kitten in the middle of nowhere which had been in a road accident and cradled it for 2 miles to the nearest vet and paid for emergency treatment out of his student allowance. Such a lovely softie.
Thanks again for all your prayers and well wishes, and hopefully after the holiday I will get back on track with this weight losing malarky on Tuesday. Angel, I really hope you are not feeling too ill.
I am sooo happy to get that blasted thing out of there. Now I can go forward with my plans.
I woke up at 2:11 AM and couldn't get back to sleep for about 3 hours. Then when I DID get to sleep, I woke up at 6:50 and had to start in right away.
I had 2 waffles and a cup of coffee for breakfast, then went and rented the pump and compressor to pump the fuel oil out of the tank before they took it out. I had stopped and bought 2 fifty-foot hoses last night to hook up to the pump so we could just pump the oil out of the tank, up the steps and into containers on the back of the guys truck.
Then they took the tank out and after they left I took the pump and compressor back, then came home and started in.
I swept the whole basement again because they left a trail of dirt from that old tank. I then carried a couple of things upstairs and outside to be thrown away. Then I scrubbed the floor in the basement. I used a whole bottle of Mr. Clean Orange Ultimate Cleaner. At least it smells good now.
Eventually the end where the tank was is going to need to be soaked and then scrubbed with a brush. I have an old carpet shampooer that I've had for about 30 years, and I use it to clean the cement floor in the basement. It has 2 rotating brushes and it works as slick as can be on that cement. So, while the floor down there is drying, I decided that as long as I'm in the cleaning mood, I might as well do my kitchen and dining room floors too, so I did.
Then my niece showed up with some leftovers from a party she had last night. Lasagna and lemon cake!! I LOVE lemon cake, and it has to be either with lemon frosting or NO frosting. Well, she brought NO FROSTING. I had a piece, and the rest is going in the freezer as soon as I can get back downstairs.
Yesterday was my one little granddaughters Birthday, and her party is today, but I'm not going. I didn't get an invitation, for the first time, but even if I had, I wouldn't have gone. For one thing, it's 3 hours away. I don't go to any of the parties anymore. I get too nervous around all those kids and people in general, so I don't really enjoy going. Maybe that sounds awful for a grandmother to say, but, it's true, and I guess there's nothing wrong with claiming your feelings. Although I'm sure some of the parents love to have an excuse to mean mouth me.
Anyway, I sent her a card with a check in it on Wednesday, so she should have gotten it by now.
Her mothers birthday is tomorrow and I sent her card Thursday, so, hopefully they will both get them on time.
I sent e-mails to 9 of my grandkids last night. The other three don't have internet service, so I'll have to send a note by snail mail.
I'm really tired right now, and I was going to go take a nap, but I just looked at the clock and realized that it's almost 4 in the afternoon already. No wonder I'm tired! But, I don't dare take a nap now because I'd never sleep tonight if I did.
Seeing as how I had a big lunch, guess I'll just have a low calorie sandwich and veggies with dip for supper.
Sheila, I guess in a way I already kind of overdid the foods, but maybe it won't have that bad of an impact because I did a lot of work today.
But, you got a deal. If it starts to get to me, I'll be on here pounding the keys!
I am getting eager to get started downstairs now that the tank is out. Then, I'll probably forget about food until it's done. And that may take me a while. I already have a picture in my mind of how it's going to look, .... even the bathroom I'm going to have put in down there.
I know what lap siding is, but what is channel siding? Anyway, be careful that you don't fall.
Hope your hubby has good weather and a nice trip with lots of photos for you.
Puss, I'm glad that abcess broke. That must have been some teriffic pressure and pain just before it broke though.
I hope the dentist can get it fixed without causing you any more pain.
Poor kitty! Do you think he is in pain? Maybe he is getting better.
The weather is beautiful here today. I think I'll take my supper outside and sit in the swing to eat. It's the first the weather has been good enough to do that in a long time.