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Old 03-08-2013, 02:27 PM   #1  
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I just posted the following on my blog but I realized I also need to share it here. 3FC is about support and it's why I'm a part of this forum. I need the community and the accountability. I need to have a place where I can admit that I struggle.

I don't know what I expect you to respond to this post. Maybe "It's okay, you're handling this well." Or maybe, "That's a bad choice. Why not try this instead?"

Anyway, here it is...

A friend died yesterday.

Yes, I long to deal with it with food.
No, I'm not.

But I'm allowing myself a few days to not focus so intently on "eating right." I'm being less stringent about meal times and more flexible about what I eat. I will not overeat to numb myself. I will not eat cookies instead of crying. But if all I want for "lunch" is some potato chips and a piece of cheese...well, right now, that's okay.

I am not yet at an emotional place with food where I can handle this any better.
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Old 03-08-2013, 02:42 PM   #2  
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So sorry for your loss. My suggestion is to do what you need to do at this difficult time. When the time is right you will be able to get back on track.
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Old 03-08-2013, 02:54 PM   #3  
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My sympathies to you for your loss. I have used food as a comfort device when grieving the loss of family members. However it fits into your grieving process, do not prevent your grieving process from taking place.
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Old 03-08-2013, 03:02 PM   #4  
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

It'd be easy to say you should still stick to your plan--but when you're grieving, that's not always the most important thing. This is a time when you do the best you can do.

May your memories of your friend bring you comfort.
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Old 03-08-2013, 04:33 PM   #5  
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I'm just going to "hug" you. I've been there.
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I am so sorry. (((hugs))) It seems to me like you're being mindful about it, and that's good. You do what you need to do to get through this, many good thoughts headed your way.
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Sorry to hear about your friend. You seem to be handling it better than I did when my Dad passed in September. A "week or so" turned into almost 5 months.
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So sorry for your loss. It sounds to me as though you are handling it very well.
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So sorry for your loss.
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Old 03-08-2013, 10:51 PM   #11  
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Novus--I'm so sorry about your friend.
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It's so hard to lose a friend, and it's sounds as though you're handling both your grieving and dealing with the desire to ease your grief by eating. Quite truthfully, it sounds as though you are very aware of how to handle your eating and have adopted a very acceptable alternative until you can move on.
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My grandfather died two days ago - he was like a father to me, and it was all so sudden. After not having an appetite, I wanted to eat every bad thing in sight, and go out for take-out too. I didn't. But I feel so guilty about just thinking about myself in this situation.
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