[lin43]

Originally Posted by bargoo

So sorry for your loss. My suggestion is to do what you need to do at this difficult time. When the time is right you will be able to get back on track.

I agree with bargoo.

Also, I am very sorry for your loss. Do you have someone you can talk to?

[Novus]

Originally Posted by dcapulet

My grandfather died two days ago - he was like a father to me, and it was all so sudden. After not having an appetite, I wanted to eat every bad thing in sight, and go out for take-out too. I didn't. But I feel so guilty about just thinking about myself in this situation.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Don't feel guilty about the need to think about yourself right now. You're in a place of learning new ways to cope with difficult situations. What I discovered through this experience is that when I let myself FEEL instead of numbing myself with food and denying the emotions, is that I had a few days of really intense grieving but then I felt remarkably cleansed. It wasn't over but I got to a place where I was less crazed about it all. In the past I would have stuffed for months until I had a total meltdown about something completely unrelated.

Also, if you have anyone irl that you can tell about your situation (using food to deal with grief) please do so. I had two friends who knew what I was struggling with during this time, and one morning when it was REALLY BAD all I had to do was send them a text message that said "Help." They knew what I meant and what I needed.

You're in my thoughts, dcapulet.

[racrane]

Hugs!!!

[dcapulet]

You all are so very sweet - thank you. My husband has known me through my highest and lowest weights, and he understands. He's great to talk to.

Novus, you said something that blew my mind. "What I discovered through this experience is that when I let myself FEEL instead of numbing myself with food and denying the emotions, is that I had a few days of really intense grieving but then I felt remarkably cleansed."

THIS just happened to me. I mourned very hard for a much shorter period of time than ever before. Of course, not because I loved him less or was less affected by this loss, but because there was nothing to stuff down the feelings, nothing to numb them to sleep. I felt them all, raw, hurting, and then not as much. I would have never in a million years put that together with emotional eating. Thank you so much for this insight.