From what you've said throughout this post about your parents, I agree with what someone said about different mindsets. It sounds like your father is coming from a place of being healthy with his "love how you are" and comments about models. It sounds like your mom is coming from more of an appearance frame of mind, just from what's been stated. And, honestly, be petite may given her a complex about size in general. It sounds like you're quite a bit taller than her and that may be where some her her perception of your size comes from. To be 5 footish and a socially acceptable weight/size... it's more around the 120 range. However, at 5'7 and 140s, you are in the healthy range for your height. But if your mom were to be in the 140s, she'd be considered overweight. Maybe she's kinda stuck in a place where she is not considering your height comapred to hers? Anyway, I could be way off base on this whole deduction, but sounds like it to me. In that case, have a heart to heart with dad. Maybe it is an internal conflict between the two of them... your mom has issues with your weight due to her emotions over her own and your dad is trying to kinda counteract her. Maybe go about discussing fitness with him cause he's obviously interested in it and inquire about tips he might have. Like if he thinks you need to increase what you've been doing etc. It may help to come at it from that approach vs confrontation. It might help you understand their attitude.
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