Sometimes, I feel like I am less than, if that is what you mean. I sometimes catch myself feeling like being fat in and of itself is enough to mean that I don't deserve love or happiness; that nobody could love me the way I am nor find me attractive or find friendship within me on the basis that I am fat. I know this is erroneous. I don't think that about others who are overweight, so I have no idea why I feel that way about myself sometimes. However, I'm snapping myself out of it, little by little... ^_^
Definitely on and off for myself as well. I've made a bunch of bad decisions Bad relationships, bad friendships, bad work places... my 20's have pretty much became one over weight cluster fu*k. & Obviously I can't blame anyone, but I get overwhelmed with everything I have to do to fix life and "myself" to be a good mom to my kid.
Anyway, I think it's normal to have fluctuting feelings about yourself, especially if your feel overwhelmed or stuck.
My "self"? Nope. I love who I am, I love my sense of style, I love my quick wit and intelligence, I love that I'm a great wife and a pretty good mom... There are so many things I love about being me. The shell that my "self" is in right now? Agh. I don't love it but I don't hate it. For now it is what it is. And my indifference to it does not override the general awesomeness that is me. I've always been fabulous and I'll keep being fabulous, just in a smaller package.
I probably dislike myself more days then I like myself. I am struggling with clinical depression and every single day is different for me. Sometimes I feel like I am okay with who I am becoming, other days however I loath almost everything about myself. Its a struggle for me, I am only in my 20's and I feel lost a lot of the time. I feel like I am failing at every aspect of life, I cant figure out what I want to go back to school for, I hate my dead end job, I havnt achieved very much yet.
Despite the struggle I am trying very hard every day to start loving myself
This is such an interesting topic for me. I have a very strong opinion about this so beware!
I think that if we all don't love who we are, then we will feel like no one else will to. Or we won't understand why they do.
When I have an off day, when I don't feel the love I do have for myself, I sit down, close my eyes, and have some "me time". I reflect on who I am. Saying positive affirmations in my head to myself. It might sound kinda goofy. But once you are done, it really helps. It always lifts me up to another level and puts a smile on my heart.
I really think we all need to learn to love who we are at all times. At our worsts and our bests, our heaviest and lightest.
Off and On.. Usually Off. Find it hard to love myself at this weight, feel like the fat + uglyness makes me a disappointment. Have some good days where i am happy with myself, but they are not so frequent.
very often off.... regardless the weight. my self esteem has been low since i can remember. nothing seemed to be good enough when i was a child. if i look back to myself i have to say i've reached so many goals i should only be proud for; funny enough, i usually take them for granted. therapy has helped, and is helping.
There was a time where I had no love for myself. But I do firmly believe that if you have no love for yourself, you CANNOT love others and you will fail in your goals because you simply do not love and care enough TO succeed and love others.
I don't care how happy in life a person is, I believe everybody can benefit from therapy. I am not ashamed to say I've gotten a couple of years worth of therapy.
But I believe it's my self love and worth that has brought me to the ability to love others and myself and thus succeed in my personal goals, especially my weight loss.
Sorry, I misread the heading- why I don't love myself- because sometimes I like to wear the veil of denial and because sometimes I feel like I am my own worst enemy.
For me, it's basically what I tell my 7 year old - that I always love him but don't always like the choices he makes. It's the same for myself - I am proud of a lot of what I've done in my life but I've also made choices I regret and sometimes, don't like myself for that choice. On the subject at hand, for losing over 40 lbs a couple of year ago and then allowing myself to put back on almost all of it. If I had lost the 55 I've lost right now on top of that almost 45, I'd be just shy of 100 lbs lost and most likely at my goal weight instead of still having almost 50 to go.
I have problems loving myself. I also suffer from depression, and every day is a struggle to feel like I've accomplished something. Words like "disappointment," run through my mind a lot. I wish I had made a lot of decisions differently, but I have to remember that you can only go forward. You can only change the future by working on the present. I've gotten a lot better than I have been. I know that once I've lost some more weight, I'll feel better and like I'm more worth something.
I'm almost always pretty content with who I am, even though I'm weird and not very attractive. I don't like some of my habits and past actions/thoughts, but those are things that can be dealt with. I think that being thinner will probably make my life easier in a number of ways and be good for my health, but I don't think it will significantly change the way I feel about myself.
No question that I have "off" days about myself. Growing up I had a lot of positive reinforcement from my parents, teachers and friends. I thought of myself as capable and smart because other people did, too. As I get older and there's less praise coming my way, I sometimes find it difficult to look within and find my good points. It's not that I don't love myself, but some days I find way more points for improvement than positive points. I find that the best thing to do is spend time or be in touch with people who value you. Even if they're not vocalizing the great things about you, just the vibe of communicating with people who love and appreciate you can be really energizing.
Do You Ever Feel Like You Don't Love Yourself And If So Why?
