I was watching a weightloss show and the woman said she was first called fat in kindergarden It made me think about the first time my size was criticized. I was in sixth grade and had just moved to a new town and was going through the chubby puberty time. I was always one of the tallest girls but never felt bad about my size until then. From that day on, I always think of myself as the big girl, even when at a healthy weight. I guess it didn't help my cause that I was a dancer and a cheerleader, and WAS the big girl.
When were you first made to feel bad about your weight/size?
I would say kindergarten, but it was my brother calling me fat and just being mean. I was a little round just before I really hit puberty, after puberty I was actually pretty thin. When I was 16 I was 5'6" 120lbs. And I thought I was fat and could lose some. Only if my 16yo me could see me now! lol
i was only 5 pounds when i was born, because i was a month premature... HOWEVER that's the last time i was ever underweight. i had rolls as a baby, i was chunky as a kid, and downright fat through high school and adulthood. can't wait to be not-fat!!
ever since i was a baby!
i was only 5 pounds when i was born, because i was a month premature... HOWEVER that's the last time i was ever underweight. i had rolls as a baby, i was chunky as a kid, and downright fat through high school and adulthood. can't wait to be not-fat!!
This. I was a teeny preemie. That's the last time in my life I've been teeny.
Grade 6. I wasn't even fat! I was larger than the rest of the kids but most of it was just my frame I would never, ever use "big boned" as an excuse for being larger, but at that point in my life? It was true! I have a very broad frame and I was always just.. bigger. Even if I lost every stitch of weight on me I'd still never fit into a ridiculously small size.
But yes, it started in Grade 6, and that's when I first stepped onto a scale and started thinking of myself as "not good enough". And that has lasted all the way until now.
My mother has also for most of my life used the term "fat and ugly" to describe me in various situations. "You're fat and ugly enough to do it yourself!" for example.. my mother was somewhat verbally abusive.
Kindergarten and I was reminded of it pretty much daily until maybe my early 20's. I suspect since I was still fat, that my peers had simply matured to a point of not saying it to my face.
I was in 6th grade. We were swimming at the pool at a class party and one of the boys called me "tubbo lardo." It was all downhill from there . This is the first time in my life I've ever been "healthy" on the BMI scale... since I was 9 or 10.
This is so sad really... And I'm not quite sure but I've been overweight since birth at 9 lbs 10 oz, but I can not remember the last time I felt confident in my own skin. I hope to be one day, at least with my hubby! Hopefully in a year or two.
I never had a weight problem until college and then soon after, marriage. The first time anyone ever called me fat was my ex-husband when we were arguing after we had gotten divorced. His wife was laughing in the background. I only weighed about 140 at the time...
I just wanted to add something to this thread, that I didn't post earlier. Being that I was fat my entire childhood, and made fun of over and over, and it was always the name I was called. (What I wouldn't have given to be called stupid or something!) And even adults said it too me! I had a teacher once use me as an example to the class for opposites. I was Fat and another student was Thin...WTF??? My dad even told me once he'd love me no matter how fat I got...really???
It is seared into my self image. I think at 30, I can safely say I will always be the fat girl. I am a size 8 and I run like 3-5 miles about 3-4 times a week. My BMI is healthy. But I carry myself just like the fat girl I am. ( I always felt like I wasn't worth people's attention because I'm fat. ) I still see a fat person in the mirror. When I interact with others in my head, I'm the funny fat girl. (Yeah, people, I'm funny IRL)
But I'll never been thin. I could be a size 0 and I'd still feel like the world was calling me fat.
When were you first called fat?
It made me think about the first time my size was criticized. I was in sixth grade and had just moved to a new town and was going through the chubby puberty time. I was always one of the tallest girls but never felt bad about my size until then. From that day on, I always think of myself as the big girl, even when at a healthy weight. I guess it didn't help my cause that I was a dancer and a cheerleader, and WAS the big girl.
