I have the same issues as you do. I am 36, 5'9" 177.6lbs. I am 10-15lbs from goal. It is more mental, than weight. I've been working the last two years on this and it's not been easy. But, on a happier note, I am finally ready to get back into the dating game(after a loooooong hiatus), but only after I get some bills paid off first. I'd like to give the online dating thing a try this Fall.
I like what was said about my stretch marks, saggy bits, lose skin being loser detection alert system! No skinny girls has that!
They have to find out the hard way a guy is a loser!
I want to thank all you ladies for posting! I am going to print this thread as a reminder and pick me up for those not so confident days.