I was skeptical of Facebook, but I have grown to love it. When my grandmother died last year, the family knew it was only a matter of time until nobody got together anymore. I couldn't remember the last time I spoke to one of my cousins. We all decided to go on facebook so that we can see what is happening in each other's lives. Our family gets together more now than they ever did. We organize games nights several times a year and we can share our good news with each other without having to pick up the phone.
I have reconnected with people from high school that I haven't spoken to in years. I have forgiven an ex-boyfriend that I have been carrying a grudge against for 18 years and now we are friends!
Facebook has put me in a better headspace than I have been in for years. It has brought some connection to family members who are thousands of miles away.
I have forgiven an ex-boyfriend that I have been carrying a grudge against for 18 years and now we are friends!
I saw today that my my ex boyfriend is now going bald...and somehow that makes me feel a little better. Maybe I haven't entirely let go of the grudge?
Don't get me wrong, I do like that I can connect with people. That part IS awesome. I know some people who don't lke that so they don't have an account. They do not want to talk to anyone from high school and they don't even let their family know where they live. That is sad to me but I think they have their reasons. I however, despite my family being a mess, do like to talk to them and facebook/myspace helps in that department.
Last edited by LandonsBaby; 06-14-2009 at 10:54 PM.
I don't really use Myspace anymore, it seems to be geared towards a younger crowd and have sort of a "high school" mentality. I really love facebook though, I get to stay in contact with old friends and friends that live far away and it's an easy way to get a quick message out to friends that are around me too. And the photos are my favorite part! I love to see what other people are up to, where they travel, how their kids are growing up, etc. My page is private so it's available only to my friends. I don't mind when they post photos of me, even if they're not flattering I figure "what does it really matter?" as long as they're not incriminating (THOSE photos I don't even allow to be taken! lol)
I don't know if someone else has mentioned, but if they "tagged" you in a photo you're able to go in and un-tag yourself if you have a facebook account. I have a cousin who posted a hideous pic of my from years ago that I fretted over and felt bad about untagging myself but I got over it and removed the tag, felt leaps better
Just a little note as well - you can change your privacy setting so that "only you" can see photo's tagged of you. It doesn't come up as a tag to anyone else. Yes, the picture is still on Facebook/myspace, but at least you are not tagged in it.
yeah i just want to second what cgh said. i became intimately familiar with the privacy functions on facebook when my father friend requested me. he is able to see like 3% of my profile and pics.
as for photographing poorly. ::raises hand:: actually, i can go either way. i'd say in the majority of pics i look like a greasy fat hog, but every once in a while i see one and say, hey now, i look pretty good there. the trick is just trying to make sure that all my pics are of the every once in a while variety.
since they were pictures of a baby shower I'm pretty sure no one is going to pay much attention to every individual in the picture. no worries, no one cares that much. besides, you have a gorgeous body that you've been working hard for, be happy :] everyone else probably thought you looked great. don't be so negative and just be happy you were included in such a special event =]
Put me in the "hater" camp for sure, because i do NOT get it. Why do i want to look up some douche i dated in high school? If he was so great he'd be my husband The past doesn't do anything for me, it's all about the future. Keeping in touch with people is nice, but when i get on there and see all these people playing those games-i just_don't_get it. i want to get it, but i just can't. It seems to me stirring up discussions with people you have dated in the past is just a good way to create drama. How many men i have known who have gotten the slutty girl pic from an "old friend" and been in trouble over that? LOL -i get that it is me who is abnormal here not other people-other people love the past, but it's just not my thing.
The advantage of this happening on Facebook is you know about it. The disadvantage of this happening on Facebook is that you know about it! With print pictures you have no idea who has seen them. Perhaps your friend took them into work with her and passed the pictures to everyone in the building? Perhaps she mailed them to her nan who lives in Europe and her proud nan showed all her friends. Perhaps she sent one in to a magazine, you just don't know. Facebook may make sharing quicker and easier and you can see immediately who has seen the pictures and what they said about them, but it's no different from print media.
Just concentrate on the fact that this is your mental battle, the people who are looking at the pictures most likely don't even notice you are in there, they are looking at a picture of their friend opening her gifts. Last time you looked at pictures of a friend's baby shower or something can you remember who was standing behind her?
There are things about Facebook that I do like, like being able to easily share photos with my mum who lives very far away from me.
I do NOT however like when people put pictures of me up. I don't care if they are flattering or not, for me it's an invasion of privacy. I want to be the one to choose if I want a picture displayed or not.
I'm a private person, and I have very few friends on Facebook (<100), but a lot of the people I have as friends have hundreds and hundreds of friends, who in turn have hundreds and hundreds...
It is such a pet peeve of mine being tagged in a photo I did not ask to be taken, let a lone asked to have displayed for thousands to see.
As much as I like being able to easily keep track of my friends who now live far away I am seriously contemplating removing my account because of the above mentioned.
It is such a pet peeve of mine being tagged in a photo I did not ask to be taken, let a lone asked to have displayed for thousands to see.
As much as I like being able to easily keep track of my friends who now live far away I am seriously contemplating removing my account because of the above mentioned.
Unless you think it's the tags that cause people to go and look at the photo I can't see what that solves. If you no longer have an account they can't tag you any more, but you will still be on the photo. At present I get a message immediately if anyone tags me in a photo so I can go and look at the context and do any damage limitation necessary to stop that photo being circulated in places that might be less appropriate. If I got rid of my account then if someone posts up a photo of me legless at a party (won't happen, not drunk for years but makes a good e.g.) I won't know about it.
I only have my genuine friends as FB friends so if I asked them to restrict a photo they would. Far too few people use friend lists to restrict their friends to Friends and "friends" so they lump in their BFF with the woman I met at the BBQ's sister-in-law, and there's no need for both to have the same permissions. I do a lot of FB privacy lessons for my friends in this sort of situation to show them how to share the pic without making it visible to friend of a friend of a friend of a friend.
Unfortunately, however, the law makes photos the property of the person behind the camera, not the person in front of it. If they choose to display it and they break no copyright or decency law in doing so then all you can do is get cross.
This was an old thread, not really so much about Facebook but about someone having their photos on display. I'm closing it because the original thread had moved on before being brought back up. If you want to discuss Facebook, feel free to do so in General Chatter.
The past doesn't do anything for me, it's all about the future. Keeping in touch with people is nice, but when i get on there and see all these people playing those games-i just_don't_get it. i want to get it, but i just can't. It seems to me stirring up discussions with people you have dated in the past is just a good way to create drama. How many men i have known who have gotten the slutty girl pic from an "old friend" and been in trouble over that? LOL -i get that it is me who is abnormal here not other people-other people love the past, but it's just not my thing.
