While I understand your friend's desire to share her joy, I think she was completely out of line to post pictures in which others can be clearly identified without first obtaining their permission. Extremely bad manners on her part! There are ways to blur people out and/or crop pictures so that people who do not want to be in the pic aren't identifiable. It just amazes me how insensitive people can be at times. I've had pics of me posted without my consent too, so I completely relate to your discomfort.
My pics are set to friends only and I still feel a lil uneasy. My sister joined and she put a pic of my lil one up without my permission and its public view. Ive sent her a message to fix it.
A friend of mine went to a local bar and her picture showed up on their myspace page.
social networking sites can get really obnoxious. I have a friend who comes to parties and takes pictures of me and others with beer bottles in our hands, looking drunk, looking gross, and then posts them up on his myspace and his facebook and tags them out. I saw a particularly horrible picture of myself smoking a cigarette with my feet up on a rail and the angle made my stomach roll look like it was about to EAT me. So I feel your pain.
it's not so much a danger of other people seeing you. i'm quite sure "Sue's" friends and aquaintences are not as interested in looking at baby shower photos as she thinks they might be.
It seems like alot of people don't know that facebook OWN's any photos you post on facebook. even after you remove them. and they can sell them and do what they like with them.
the same is not true of myspace.
I do like the sharing and connecting aspect. Less photo sharing of my fat butt would be nice though.
I am going to say this as nicely as possible.....
You weigh 142 pounds. Your butt is NOT fat. I weigh over 400 pounds and would have no problem if I had photos of me taken at a baby shower. ...even eating. You were there to share in the joy of someone's soon to be child. It was not about you. So what if they posted the pics of the ladyopening her gifts on Facebook. If you are upset ask them nicely to crop you out of the pics but I see no reason to freak out over it because I would KILL to be at the weight you are at now because life would be so much better for me.
It seems like alot of people don't know that facebook OWN's any photos you post on facebook. even after you remove them. and they can sell them and do what they like with them.
the same is not true of myspace.
is that true?? I did not know that.
canadianwoman--I actually get where you're coming from, I do find myself wanting to say the same thing to girls on here sometimes, but I think twice about it because weight is a really personal thing for everyone. I don't feel I have the right to tell a girl she should shut up complaining about her weight just because she's smaller than me. I know it can be frustrating to listen, but I think the best thing about this site is that everyone can be supportive of everyone else, because we've all been there on some level or another.
Ha I love Facebook. Check out this AWESOME pic of me, circa 1985 a high school friend posted to her profile. Luckily, it's not tagged (I would have removed the tag).
I don't mind sharing it with you guys. When I post pics, I only do friends (not friends of friends). And I would never post a pic that was truly unflattering of somebody.
I was interested in that myself, so I took this from the Statement of Rights and Responsibilities page on facebook:
Sharing Your Content and Information You own all of the content and information you post on Facebook, and you can control how we share your content through your privacy and application settings. In order for us to use certain types of content and provide you with Facebook, you agree to the following:
For content that is covered by intellectual property rights, like photos and videos ("IP content"), you specifically give us the following permission, subject to your privacy and application settings: you grant us a non-exclusive, transferable, sub-licensable, royalty-free, worldwide license to use any IP content that you post on or in connection with Facebook ("IP License"). This IP License ends when you delete your IP content or your account (except to the extent your content has been shared with others, and they have not deleted it).
When you delete IP content, it is deleted in a manner similar to emptying the recycle bin on a computer. However, you understand that removed content may persist in backup copies for a reasonable period of time (but will not be available to others).
So what I take from that is...if my content is set to PRIVATE, then facebook can NOT use that information.
I tried to see Glory87s photo, but I had to log in and I don't have a facebook account...so there you go!
And I think we are harder on ourselves than others are -- even though you might find your photo unflattering, you may be surprised that others don't. But this isn't really the point, is it? I mean, my mom is 5 ft nothing and weighs 128 lbs and hates her photo and refuses to let people take pictures of her...go figure...
While I can thoroughly relate to what you are saying about smaller people being unhappy with their weight (I would like to be 128 at this very moment and could not imagine a girl/woman complaining about it IF they were the same build as me). The original poster is 4'9". For her, maybe 140's is a little bigger than she would like to be. I am thinking it is just like me being around the 160's or so.
I hate to go way off topic, but since it was brought up...I have been thinking about this very subject the last couple of days. Someone made a comment about size 10's on another post that I made and maybe I just took it a little too personal and maybe she didn't mean anything by it at all. But I took it as though I should want to just throw in the towel because, geez, size 10 is tiny compared to a 16 or whatever. Maybe it came across somehow that I was gloating about being in size 10's. Which wasn't the case at all because I don't look so hot in size 10's. I still have a BMI that is sooo not in a healthy range and a horrible waist to hip ratio. It would be the equivalent of a 700 pound person telling you to be grateful you weigh 400. I almost feel sometimes that some, of course not all, but some people who have 100+ pounds to lose have something against those who have less to lose. And I am not saying you are one of those people (it's so easy to take written words out of context and maybe I am not fully understanding your view on this) I don't know what your goal is, but imagine that goal in your head, and then imagine someone telling you to stop over-reacting because you are still unhappy when you are 25-30 pounds from that final goal. It is a little hurtful and gives the impression that our weight-loss journey is not a valid one. The weight loss battle is still the same. No matter if you are 5, 25 or 105 pounds overweight. We all got their pretty much for the same reasons. In fact, I have heard others say it gets a little harder once you come down to those last 30 pounds or so.
The original poster is obviously concerned about photos being posted of her and I can totally relate to that because it was done to me before also. In short, I wouldn't care if I looked like a million bucks, it is still insensitive not to ask if that person cares to be showcased to millions on facebook/myspace.
And for the record, I am in no way attempting to chastize you or tell you that you can't feel that way. I would just like to help you understand how it feels.
I don't like having my picture taken period. I have dark circles under my eyes and my skin has a certain tone to it that doesn't photograph well. I could be 120 or 200 lbs. I come out looking like a heroin freak.
I love Facebook. Check out this AWESOME pic of me, circa 1985 a high school friend posted to her profile. Luckily, it's not tagged (I would have removed the tag).
