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Let me tell you about the seminar. It just seems that God is so much reinforcing what i've been learning lately. It was on self discipline/ emotion. How fitting for one to that is working on changing her self from with in. He talked about our conscience and our sub conscience (sp). We will call the subconscience the horse/ and the conscience the rider. He talked how all the things we do in our life is normally a subconscience thing do to learned behavior, and how we reacted to things is a learned behavior, and come automatically. If we want our emotions, and our self to change we must feed it new information till it becomes a learned behavior. Example. We will use a person wanting to lose weight. They know it is good for them, and they know they need to make changes, however the horse, already has in his mind how to handle certain things, (protective meckonsim). This man has actually lost 90. after he started teaching the course, cuz he was getting dizzy, and couldn't breath. He asked his doctor for the facts what's wrong, make it plain and simple. The doctor told him he was fat. So he the rider knew he had to make some changes, do some learning and growing to change the horse, this brings us to this: One day after dinner, he has eaten plenty, not hungry, well satisfied. Ready to relax for the evening. He has his water with him and heads off to watch tv. While watching tv, the commercials start coming on, Burger KIng, Wendy's, cake candy, cookies, chips food. The horse starts talking to the rider, aren't you hungry. Rider no, i'm satisfied. I have my water, they talk back and forth, just like we do with ourselves, till it gets to the point that the horse realizes that there is no more water. Subconsciencely knowing that a trip to the kitchen will fix it. So he goes. And what do 95% of us do, while we are in the kitchen, open the refrig. Thus openning opportunity for the horse to talk again, you deserve a bit of that, you've been good. Just one bite won't hurt. The battle continues. He takes a bite. Horse you can start back on your diet tomorrow. Thus tomorrow may never come. Live today to the fullest that you possibly can, learning, changing and growing to the best that you can. Cuz learning promotes change. another example, you children. they learn what we teach them, if we don't want them to behavior that way, we have to change what we teach them. If you don't like a behavior of what you are doing change it. Also, people don't make you feel a certain way, they may say something that may cause you to react in a way, if you say they made you mad then you have given them control of your emotions and you are now out of control. To take it back think about the problem, and then react, instead of reacting first. To totally change a behavior it takes about 30 days of consistancy. The other thing we learned is to realize that everything in you life is an event. should it or should it not have happend is really not relavent (sP). How we react is. We can't change the fact that things happen. We must just deal with them as they happen. He talked about self esteem, and how we let what others think of us bring us down, when in reality it's what we think of ourselves that can change us. Not weather someone else doesn't like what we do. Well I think that is about it. He also talked about wasting your time. Image what learning you could be doing instead of wasting time.

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He also mentioned garbage in/ garbage out. What we feed ourselves, spiritually, and emotionally is what will come out. Even added this to the diet part. Your body will reflect what you are eating, or how much you are eating for the most part. Unless you have some physcial condition that might alter that.

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Wendy,

That was a great post. Sounds like you relearned what you and I have been doing the past few weeks. He was so right.

It was strange because I saw like the last 10 min of oprah yesterday and there was a girl on there that has lost over 300 lbs in one year. You can read about it at oprah.com . She did what you were talking about above and like we are learning. She said you have to give up the food because it is an addition and first admit you have a problem. She said then you have to start fixing the problems and deal with them. Her problem was that she has always longed for her mom because her mom was never around while she was growing up because she traveled for her job all the time. She said she would sit and cry for her mom everyday. It took over her life. So she dealt with it and other things and the weight started to come off. Imagine losing over 300 lbs in a year. That is amazing. So I know it can work.

Here are the tips that I found on oprah's site last night when I went there to read about what she did everyday. I never got a chance to read that I just saw this and printed it. it was great and goes along with what you wrote.

MORE PRACTICAL ADVICE FROM OPRAH
Oprah's thoughts about getting on a weight loss plan and sticking to it.

Give Positive Feedback.

Oprah: One of the keys to sticking to any plan is to give yourself good feedback. "High five" yourself for your triumphs over food addiction every day. Switch from rewarding yourself with food to rewarding yourself with approval.

Own the Pain.

Oprah: The pain you will feel related to dealing with your issues is not going to be any worse than dealing with obesity. You've already survived the worst pain you're going to feel…and you deal with it every day. Once you own your emotional pain, you'll be free of it. You'll be able to live your life for the first time. I guarantee that.

Forget the Diet.

Oprah: Fat people are the most experienced people in the world about dieting. You need to recognize that it's not about the food. Focusing on the food is why you haven't been successful. You have to challenge the pain that's causing you to be addicted to the comfort of food.

Expect More from Yourself.

Oprah: The truth of the matter is, the world expects less from you when you're overweight. Everyone can put you in a "fat box." You feel you are not worthy to claim victory in your own life. Nobody can give you that. You have to give it to yourself. You have to make that your job instead of going on another diet.

Commit to Happiness.

Oprah: The real spiritual work of your life is to love yourself. Recognize that you were created as a human being who is worthy of happiness. The work begins with loving yourself and accepting happiness in your life. You can't just decide to feel that way—you have to work through the issues that keep you from feeling that way.

With that said I have to get to work have a great day everyone.

Sherri