Well, I have to say I had a friend, or so-called friend that did that and I let it slide. I wasn't sure what to do about it but I thought if it was so important for her to make me feel that way then more power to her. I decided I was above that and would never stoop to treating someone that way. She knew that I wasn't pleased with the way she was acting as I would just give her a look. Of course this didn't last long anyway and I think that deep down I knew it wouldn't, one reason I let it slide. I caught her in so many lies the friendship couldn't continue and she knew it. There were never words between the two of us but just from our conversations we both knew the so-called friendship was over. It just ended.


Let's say you have been friends with someone for years, many, many years and you are the one who keeps the friendship going. The other person hardly ever calls, writes, emails, etc. or reciprocates a lunch or dinner date and you have done a lot for her and her kids. You feel there is a bond but at the same time not because you wonder how a friendship can continue or if there really is a friendship with it being one-sided or so it seems. What would a JL do?

I would just let it go... friendships have to be 2-sided to work. Actually, this happened to me with 2 different people over the years. One was a school friend, and the other was a neighbor from town. Both always seemed so glad to hear from me when I initiated a phone call, but after a while, neither called back and I didn't like being the one to always keep the friendship alive. So, sadly, each one went by the wayside......

If you found a plain white envelope in a parking lot with $1000.00 in it, what would you do?


No, I didn't find one, lol!

Thank my angel for sending down shoe money .... no really I would check out all the stores nearby and ask if anyone lost anything and leave my name and number. Don't give the amount or that it was in an evelope. This will be how the person who lost will identify it.

What would you do if your one sibling said she always felt there was another kid your father, fathered but has never told anyone about. She evesdropped... and years later have come across someone who matches the age, and similar physical characteristics, and has both of the family given names?

I guess I can kind of relate to this Angie because my dad did father a child by another woman when he and my mother were seperated. All I know is the woman is Asian and from what my brother & SIL said she is very pretty. Okay, what she saw in my dad if she was pretty I will never know. Anyway, they said she had an abortion because in their culture it is a disgrace to have a baby out of wedlock but we really don't know, she was also thinking of adoption. I kind of think he may have fathered more but we will never know. Wouldn't even know where to begin. But, if they were to try and find me I would welcome them with open arms. I don't hold any ill feelings toward them nor would I ever, besides they would be a part of me being a half-sibling and I would never turn my back on them if they were to want to meet. Now my brothers and sisters are a totally different story.

What would you do if you actually caught your teens best friend having sex in a public place? Would you tell the parent(s)? Would you have a talk with the teen? Or would you just let it go?

If the girl was my DD best friend, that would mean I knew her pretty well, so I'd talk to her and try my best to come across as caring and not preachy, but I'd be armed with a list of "what-ifs".


If you thought your close friend's new BF was married, but not telling her, what would you do?

Definitely give an opinion, if asked for. In the beginning of a new relationship, close girlfriends will chat, I think the friend is probably wondering all the usual questions that one has in a new relationship, so unless she is so gaga she is beyond reason I see no problem with saying something in the course of a conversation about that is about the guy already. I would start out pointing out all the good qualities that person has, but then maybe a question like "Don't you think it's wierd you haven't been to his house yet? Wonder what's up" Something like that.

OK, longstanding Emily Post question...written thank you notes for ALL gifts, or just those not opened in the presence of the giver and thanked for personally? The exceptions, of course are bridal and baby showers and large birthday parties, because it's very difficult to thank everyone personally in those situations. The book says the former, but seems like everyone I know expects them for all gifts - just wondered what the JLs thought....

Me being me and liking to send cards, I would send Thank-yous to all regardless of whether I thanked them personally or it is expected.

What would you do if your best friend was cheating on her hubby?

I would for sure still be her friend, but wouldn't cover for her. I'd help her get to the root of why she was cheating, if I was able, and if she wanted me to.



What's a Jaded Lady to do when you attend a weekly business meeting of ... say, 8.... people in a conference room, and the boss lady wears too much unpleasant cologne and it permeates the room?

Totally hypothetical, of course, since I don't HAVE a job, lol.

Well hmmm....I don't think I would want to make direct attention to it, so I personally would sit farthest away from her. And maybe mention it to someone who was closer to her (friendship wise) so she could possibly talk with her.

Now....at Sony, we had a tech who wore WAY too much cologne.....and since I knew him well, I went up to him and told him that he really shouldn't bath in the stuff and learn how to dab a little here and dab a little there. His respond was a laugh and then he sprayed more on! (we were friends)

Ok....since I haven't posted on this one yet.....here it goes.


Let's go back to our teen years....what would you do if you saw one of your siblings sneaking a cigarette???

Since all of my sisters (had no brothers) were older than me, I wouldn't say anything. They would've beat the stuffing outta me!, lol. Not only that, but we never narced each other out for anything that I can remember.....probably should have, though!!

What would a Jaded Lady do if she is having lunch at a friends house, and she sees a big fat roach on the countertop where the lunch things are laid out, but the friend doesn't see it? (totally hypothetical!)

Hope you guys don't mind if I join this post

Being me, absolutely TERRIFIED of cockroaches, I probably would not have time to think of the most tactful approach to the situation, because I would scream! I suppose the tactful thing to do would be to kill the roach, discard of it, and talk to your friend after the party.

OK heres one that happened to me:

My friend at work came up with the idea for a few of us to go out to dinner one night, and then go to a movie afterwards. So, the night came by & she showed up with her boyfriend (which I totally don't mind) but wouldn't even SIT with us. And she didn't go to the movie with us either.

THEN...

The next weekend we decided to go to our usual hang out at the bar & have a few drinks. She called us after she got out of work & said she was on her way. About an hour later we called her because we were getting worried, and she wouldn't answer her phone. We probably called about 5 or 6 times, trying to get ahold of her. The next day, we asked her what happened, and she just said "oh, I just felt like staying home" I was super pissed because she could have either CALLED US or at LEAST ANSWERED HER FREAKING PHONE when we called her.

What would you say to her? Would you hang out with her anymore? Keep in mind that when she DOES go, we always have a GREAT time.

I don't really see the big deal but do think it a bit rude that she wanted to go and didn't bother to sit with you guys. And yeah, I think she should have called and said she couldn't or wasn't going to make it to the hang-out instead of leaving you guys hanging and not knowing if she was in an accident. But if the friendship is a good one I don't see why you wouldn't hang out with her anymore. I would just come out and tell her that you thought it was rude the way she carried on, that is if you did. And that the next time you guys all decide to go out if she decides later on she doesn't want to to please call and say so. She at least does owe you that. Or since she has been carrying on this way and if you don't want to leave her out, invite her but keep in thought that you will go and have a good time without her. You know, if she shows, she shows, if not oh well. I think if you exclude her it wouldn't be good especially since you work together. Anyway...that's my 2 cents.


What would you do if you were at a friends house for dinner and she had things on the kitchen counter, preparing food and prepared food, and her cat jumped up on the kitchen counter and walked right over the food? Would you eat it? Would you say something, or would you just pass on it? Or would you try to get the cat off the counter? This did happen!

There is NO way I would eat it. That cat was in a litter box and who knows where else. I would just exclaim "OMG!! The cat just trampled over our food...lets just go out for lunch"
But I guess you just asked if the cat just went up to the food...I would grab the cat right away and then ask the person preparring food what do with it or if it was my preparing.....get rid of what the cat got too.


Ok....You see this extremely large woman waiting for her ride, she is in extreme pain just standing up holding her weight, when the car arrives, she struggles to walk to it and get in....and she's angry. That seems to be her personality from being overweight. Would you have offered her some support or some help getting in or keep walking?

Angry people don't usually calm down instantly, so, I'd keep on going and say a silent little prayer for her under my breath. No way do I want to draw attention to myself with a pain-filled woman with an attitude, , especially a very large one at that! Whoever is driving the car should help her.....


What's a Jaded Lady to do about a guest who won't leave? She came for lunch, now it's 5-ish and you have to get things done....

I would politely tell the guest that although I have enjoyed her company/visit I really have things I need to get done and the family will be home soon. And maybe we can get together again some other day.

What would you do about a friend or so-called friend you think is a backstabber? She comes off like she is all sweet and innocent but when with you she talks about others and then turns around and talks to the others like they are the best of friends which leaves you wondering about all kinds of things she says and does. So you don't know if you can really trust this person.