HELLO FELLOW CANADIANS ~ I know somebody is coming by to read this thread becuz the #'s say so, but I guess people are just too shy to post. I know one of my sisters comes by this site now & then, but she is a bit shy too and doesn't post either. Instead, she sends me an email to let me know how she is doing and then I pass that info on to people here that know her (she had posted in the past for a short while) ...
I remember when I first came here; I didn't post at first either -- I read for a while becuz I didn't even know how to post. I had just come on the net for the first time, and came across this site when googling weight-loss sites becuz I was looking for help and support. Then eventually, I got brave and started posting in a few areas that I thought were interesting to me. It wasn't long before I started to feel comfortable here.
You know, I was reading through this thread a bit, to get a feel of what may have gone wrong and noticed that "one" person made a negative comment about this thread (and thereby, the people on it) that she was wondering when they were ever gonna get down to the ''real issues" and talk about weightloss.
Honestly, I felt this comment was uncalled for and even sounded a bit rude (maybe it wasn't intended that way, but that is how it struck ME). Someone else expressed that they were tired of talking about the weather and wanted to talk about weightloss. My thought was ... then why haven't you been talking about weightloss?
I know that when I came here I did talk about my eating plan and stuff in some of my posts. Some of us struggle with plateaus and our weightloss is slower -- I only lost 7 lbs so far this year, so I am looking for ways to better that.
Most people I know don't obsess about their weight 24 hours a day (except maybe a few who struggle with a severe eating disorder). My life is full of other activities and conversations throughout the day. Many people here spend 6-8 hours a day sleeping; 8 or more hours working; 1-2 hours watching TV, chatting on the phone, or other entertainment; some time with their families; and some time in personal care; and some time doing housechores and making meals; and other miscellaneous activities. We are busy people ...
Yes, I came to this site to meet others who were trying to lose weight and get healthier, but I also came here to meet people who have common interests and issues to deal with. I thought who better than someone who knows and is experiencing a weight problem themselves: what better place to make friends that would be compassionate and understanding.
It didn't escape my notice, that not long after those negative comments were made, that this thread suddenly died: people stopped coming, and it just died. I know that some people have told me that they have left here (and returned) becuz they felt bad becuz they hit plateaus, or had weight gain; or had stress or problems in their life, and felt that maybe they shouldn't dump that on us. I think that is what this site is for -- sharing everything about our lives that may be contributing to our weight issues, simply becuz there are so many that do affect our health and weight.
The point being -- that we are supposed to be offering support here; not knocking each other down. My life is 'real'; and everthing I talk about here or on other threads is 'real'. That's why we have a general chatter forum to bring up special subjects too ... because as the founders of this site have stated, 'Life is more than weight loss'.
We need to keep a balance in life. If I became obsessed with television and only watched TV and talked about TV all day, that would be evidence that my life was 'out of balance'; well, to me, the same goes for weight issues ...
If that is all I think about or can talk about, then my life is not a 'real' life; it would be 'out of balance' and boy, would my DH be peeved. People would look at us strangely and even tell us that we needed to get back into 'reality' ... that is, enjoying and living a well-rounded life again.
Anyhow, I hope that all the ladies that used to come here, have found other threads and forums where they can make friends and get good, positive support for their weightloss journey and their lives ...
And, I hope you all have a great summer weekend ... Rosebud
JuliaDH, how Southern Ontario we talking?
