sorry Kylie, I've been in Montreal. I got back last night...it was soooo fun. I'm pretty sure I didn't even gain any weight which would be remarkable considering the amount of rich foods (eating out a lot) and all the drinking Welcome littleflip and motivatedtolose, I hope you can both acheive your goals!! Keep posting on here, it's great motivation.
As for the lack of boyfriends motivatedtolose, don't feel like your situation is uncommon, it's really random for everyone and I'm sure it's not because of your weight! As much as the media wants to tell us that there's only one size for attracting males it's stupid -- people of every size can find someone, being a size 0 doesn't automatically equal having a boyfriend. And for being around friends like that, I know, I have them, it can suck sometimes but eating chips and icecream all the time will eventually catch up with them.
I'm so glad I found this thread. I'm a senior in college now, and luckily this year I live off-campus. I lost about twenty pounds my sophomore year, but then put ten back on since then. I'm going to graduate school in the fall and I don't want all this weight holding me back from meeting new people and making new friends. The school cafeteria was horrible, but now I have problems with my room being right off of the kitchen. It's always there, tempting me! My housemates are all relatively health-conscious, so we don't keep junk food in the house. We eat plenty of vegetables and fish. I feel like this time I will stick with my new lifestyle. My school's gym is brand new and really nice. I've finally gotten over my fears of working out in public and I even joined a yoga class. Even though I am the largest girl in the yoga class, I am sticking with it. As much as I say I am doing all of this for me, I still harbor a small opinion that if I lose enough weight, the right kind of men will notice me. I've gone out on dates before, but they were with men whom I knew weren't good enough for me. Being 22, I feel like I should be with someone. My sister is engaged, and my friends all have boyfriends. Heck, I don't even want a boyfriend. I have so many plans for my future that just don't involve a relationship right now. I just want to be flattered and flirted with by men my own age (and not older perverts that whistle from their trucks). How do you all deal with these kind of feelings?
Welcome to the thread! Sometimes it takes a while to get into the right headspace, doesn't it? I've been moaning that I need to lose weight since high school, ans I've never done anything about it. It's taken me until now to really get moving, I can afford the gym (just!), and I am making the right ood choices.
I can sympathise about wanting to be loved - although I'm really in no position to be (I'm in an 18 month strong relationship). And the blokes whistling from trucks - yuck! I get that. I just give em the finger and tell em to ...ahem...go away. :P
Good luck with everything - and how goes the yoga class? I havent tried that yet, but I'd like to.
And how was Montreal, Sweettalker? I don't even know where that is, but it sounds cool!
Wow, Montreal sounds fantastic! Wish I could vacation there. Hello College ladies, glad I found this thread…I was a bit lost…and still am.
Hmm…well I suppose a bit about me, and why I’m here. My mother and I are two chicks on a mission to be healthier! And I am my mother’s motivator (lucky me). When she found out she had high blood pressure, we knew something needed to be done, since that is very uncommon for the women in our family. Luckily I found this site and I was inspired by the 3 chicks, where we could communicate easily and be inspired by others.
Although I’ve found that I have a harder time motivating myself than I do my mother. Usually I am a hardcore person; I absolutely adore exercise and athletics. It’s a passion of mine. Except lately I haven’t been doing much. Normally I am a health nut as well…although lately I’ve been eating a lot of sugar. And I am assuming that this whole eating more sugar amounts to getting tired faster, becoming lazy, and not wanting to do much. I would like to say that this is just a phase, but the fact that it’s been a month, or maybe two now surpasses that excuse…after Christmas and New Years everything just sort of fell apart. I don’t mean to be tooting my own “I’m lazy,” tune, but I need motivation, someone to kick me in the buttock. Also I have a bad habit of poor time management skills, which I am desperately trying to mend. I was hoping that chatting with you all would help me out a bit. Anyways that’s all for now, I hope everyone has a wonderful week ahead of them.
Take care of yourselves,
TTFN (Ta Ta For Now)
-Briar Rose
p.s. Also don’t worry about the boyfriends, they will come…I have been single for about four years now, make that five if nothing happens this year. But I never had a boyfriend when I was supper skinny either so it rarely has anything to do with your weight. My only advice is to put yourselves out there in the body you have because you may not reach your goals if you don’t accept yourself for who you are. And all of you seem very lovely from your posts, so go get ‘em ladies.
helomaa you sound like your pretty well set to get healthy now with the gym and the ability to cook your own meals. If having a fridge so close to you is tempting maybe you should put something on the fridge that would make you think twice before grabbing something out of it. Whistles from people out of cars are funny...I mean, what exactly are they hoping for as a response? For you to run behind the car and latch onto the bumper I just ignore stuff like that.
Kylie: wow 18 months, that's a long time. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship that long, good for you. Montreal was AMAZING. It's a city in Eastern Canada of around 3 million and its gorgeous! It's arguably the best place in Canada to go clubbing and out to bars and stuff. It had a great nightlife. I want to go back ASAP. haha.
Briar Rose What a pretty name. That's nice of you to jump in and be your mother's motivator. I'm sure it is nice to have both of you working towards a goal, hey? Sugar is my downfall!!! Ahhh. It's hard to kick. I'm not there yet and I don't think I ever will be. I have one of the worst sweet tooths I've ever seen...but it's very satisfying haha.
Reeveso: Welcome, I hope you get some help in the food department from your mom. Working at a restaurant and eating healthy is hard I'm sure...I don't have to do that till summer (I'm going to be a waitress) I don't know how I'll deal.
I had a huge cinnamon bun. It was delicious. I don't even feel guilty. Ooooh nooooooo. But it's in Fitday. As long as I'm accountable and stick to a 80-20 (eat healthy 80% of the time at least)...I don't think I'm ever going to be someone who eats healthy all the time.
Wow, lots of new people. So cool. I can't believe reading break is over and I'm back at school already. Plus I have a cold! Ugh, this is gonna be a tough week.
helomaa - I totally understand those feelings. I don't think I want a serious relationship, but I would love for guys to flirt with me. And not in a sleazy way either, or have the old perverts try and hit on me. Or guys in trucks...
BriarRose20 - Good for you to do this with your mom. It's always good to have a buddy. My downfall is also sugar, it's terrible habit. My goal for the rest of the semester is to stay away from sweets (baked goods) and replace them with fruits.
Reeveso - It's always hard when your eating habits are different from family and friends. You just gotta try and stick with it. Believe me I've been a vegetarian for four years and it's always been hard to prepare my own meals when my family is all eating the same food.
Wow, thanks for such nice responses. Briar Rose, that sounds great that you're doing this with your mom! My current weight loss buddy is my sister, but if any of you all have sisters close in age you can just guess how many times we argue. Still, it's nice having her help, and I'm sure your mom is grateful for your help.
Hey guys. This i my first time posting to this thread. I'm a third year B.Sc student in South Africa. It's my final year and i'm on a mission to lose weight before graduation next year. I also want to go on and study medicine, so you can see why it's so important for me to lose weight. I couldn't exactly tell a patient to lose weight if i'm fat myself if you know what i mean. Anyway, i live on-campus and it can be pretty tough sticking to a diet when most of the meal options have fries, lots of oil, pies and mashed potatoes. But I'm managing somehow. I put on about 15 kgs (33lbs) in my first year and a half and now i'm down about 11 kgs (24lbs) from that. I still hav an extremely long way to go but i've broken it up into short term goals so that it doesn't seem so daunting. I choose all the healthiest options without the carbs (unless its brown bread or brown rice) and i'm trying to go to the gym 5 dyas a week. But i do a lot of extracurricular activities and i also do an extra subject, so i don't always manage to stick with it.
I'm really glad i found this thread becuase i feel like i'm not the only one dealing with these problems. Good luck to everyone. Ciao for now...
Whistles from people out of cars are funny...I mean, what exactly are they hoping for as a response? For you to run behind the car and latch onto the bumper
You wouldn't believe some of the...exchanges...I've had with people in vehicles. One time, I was driving from my home in Fairfield to Walnut Creek for a performance I was giving on flute (this was back in high school) and I spent the entire half hour drive playing "leapfrog" with these two guys in a brilliant yellow convertible. Flirting with our cars, basically. They kept making the "phone" sign with their hands. I think they were asking me for my number. How the heck was I supposed to give it to them???
In other news, I finally got a new prescription for my antidepressants, so I should be doing a bit better soon. AND I'm FINALLY cleaning my room!!! The floor hasn't seen daylight in months. Since I moved in really. In September. It's a total wreck and I have finally reached the "fed UP!" point.
Oh my - I've gone back to uni this week, and I am FLAT OUT!! I can't believe it is Friday tomorrow already! Wow.
Ok, here goes:
SweetTalker: 18 months and it hasnt been a struggle. We might as well be married. (I don't think I'd mind either!)
Welcome Zulu! South Africa - that's so cool. Everyone I've met from South Africa has been really lovely. What do you do outside of Uni?
Nikaia - I know what you mean about the floor! I was seriously suprised to discover what the colour of my carpet was when I finally cleaned the floor!
BriarRose - I never really 'decided' to lose weight, I just became sick of the life I was living, and gradually I'm changing that. I sometimes have trouble motivating myself too, but lately, there has been some sort of quiet determination. I used to rely on other people to motivate me, I left posts everywhere asking for people to kick my butt too! Don't worry - I suspect that the more results I see, the more motivated I get. Maybe it'll be the same for you.
Reeveso - I live with my bf, and all he eats is junk! It can be difficult sometimes cant it! Perhaps you could go shopping with your mum. Do the reverse of what I did as a kid - Instead of sneaking a chocolate into the trolley, sneak some nuts or something! Keep talking to her about it. If she sees how much t would mean to you, she might add some healthy choices too.
Phew. I think that's everyone for now. If not, I apologise - I will catch you next time. Good luck with everything girls!
I'm sorry Ive been slacking yall. I've been lurking but not posting. I just have no time. I'm about to quit my second job becuase it is just too much for me. I work full time at an elementary school and I go to school at night...I can't keep my weekend job too...its just too much.
Now to disappoint everyone...I fell off the wagon. Things have been so stressful. I just havent cared for some reason. And add to that I've been sick and am still trying to get over whatever this crud is that I got from those little pitri dishes (kids). Now the new issue is lice. BLECH!! It sounds nasty saying it. I've been checking my head constantly because I do not want it. LOL And we've had a small confined breakout in the 3rd grade class I am in. SCARY. But anyhoow. I'm going grocery shopping this weekend and I'm gonna pick up healthy foods and I need to get more water because I'm out LOL.
I do need someone to help keep me accountable. I'm trying to force myself to walk in the mornings again but I'm so tired in the morning. Maybe I can do it in the afternoon when I get home from work...before I go to class. I've got to do something. I know that. Anyone wanna help me out and like email daily and whatnot? I do check my email daily. Like we can share foods/exercise/thoughts for the day?
Oh I had a terrible day yesterday. My cold/sinus thing turned into a huge hacking dry cough and I just couldn't get in under control (very embarrassing when you cough in class...). Then when i went to work (Tim Hortons) I just couldn't help myself and ended up eating tonnes of tim bits (the doughnut holes..) and cookies and hot chocolate. It was gross, and probably didn't help my cold either.
But today is a new day, and a new month! I have a bunch of goals I want to make this month and I am determined to meet them. It'll be a rough start since I'm still all hacking up phlem and gross stuff... but I will get them done!
Zuluprincess: South Africa? Wow that's so cool. It's tough when you don't have good food choices to lose any weight, but I'm sure you'll manage!
Nakaia - hee hee hee, that's funny, they were projecting their flirting from their car to your car.
Elerine: Ahhh... That's awesome that you have such a committed relationship. Good for you for sticking to eating healthy even if he isn't.
sillyfluff - Don't worry I lurk and don't post a lot. It's too bad about falling off the wagon though, that's always really depressing when i do it. But it's so good of you to come and post here and be honest about what happened. Congrats. If you want I can be an e-mail buddy. When I get a change I'll PM you (gotta leave for class in a minute...).
pretty good LookingForHope...I've had 3 days (that doesn't seem like much but it's huge because I've been months with having them EVERY SINGLE DAY) without baked goods. And I've been fitting exercise into places.
Finally found this thread haha... I'm pretty new to the forum and I didn't even see all the threads at the bottom of the support groups forum till today. Well, better late than never!! I'm in my third year of uni this year (almost done it, cannot wait); I'm living in a hotel-style residence, which is far and away better than the traditional res. I don't have to eat at meal hall!!!! I have a fridge and a microwave, and there is a shared kitchen for the floor, which is awesome. The last two years I was in a traditional residence, and I had to eat at meal hall, which was all you can eat, three meals a day - and full of junk food. The only healthy option that I was willing to touch (some of the food was just not fit for human consumption) was salad, which was not always an option. Brown lettuce? No thanks. I survived on cereal, salad, and sandwiches that I made up from the salad/sandwich bar. Not a whole lot of variety, and I gained about 20 pounds my freshman year, before I learned to stay far away from burgers and fries and ice cream. I lost it again that summer, but slowly and surely it creeped up on me again. This year I am eating healthy and trying to exercise more, since my res is literally two seconds from the gym complex, which is so great. The only thing I needed was some support, and now hopefully I've found it!!
Welcome littleflip and motivatedtolose, I hope you can both acheive your goals!! Keep posting on here, it's great motivation.
Salute, Hello College Girls!
I just ignore stuff like that.
I don't think I've ever been in a relationship that long, good for you. Montreal was AMAZING. It's a city in Eastern Canada of around 3 million and its gorgeous! It's arguably the best place in Canada to go clubbing and out to bars and stuff. It had a great nightlife. I want to go back ASAP. haha.
