I am realizing something rather interesting. I lost 87 pounds, went from a size 24 to a 12 in about 11 months or so. What I have noticed (and family and friend are pointing out to me) is that I still have my "big girl" mentality. In other words, I am still dressing in the same big, baggy stuff. In fact, I wear some of the clothes that are actually too big for me. I just can't get used to wearing more form fitting clothes.
My husband pointed it out first. He said I need to quit "hiding" in by "big girl" clothes and start dressing like a thin person.
I do wear a few articles of more form fitting clothing but I still tend to gravitate toward the looser clothes.
hi there and congradulations on your big success weightloss, please please help me i am trying to loose a 100lbs what did u do to loose so much weight so fast ? what did u eat? exercise? any program? and to answer your question i have a friend who lost alot of weight also and she also has her big girls image, beggy clothes attuide ect. she told me it was because that is or was her confort zone for so long and all of a sudden she looks in the mirror and sees a different person, she says it takes alot of getting use to sometimes she still sees herself as the fat girl , little by little you will start to feel sexy and want to dress to impress, hope this helps hope u can help me thanks, connie
When I was younger, even after my third child (all my babies were 9 and 10 pounds), I got back down to a size 8 in no time. I was always very thin (a size 4 at age 19). I am 6' tall, so I was kinda glad to see my size increase a bit with childbirth.
I used to dress sexy and nice.
For the past 5 years or so I just got big. Yes, I had to smile when you mentioned the big clothes insulating us from the world. My husband tells me that all the time. I was so used to being big - and invisible. Now men notice me (women too) and it throws me off balance. The other day a woman told me I should go back into modeling. I did not know how to respond! It has been so long since anyone has found me attractive (save for the select few: my husband, kids, etc).
As for what I did, it wasn't too difficult. I watched my calories to about 1800 or so a day, cut fat to 10g per meal and sugar to about 12g per meal. I ate 5-6 small meals a day.
What am I talking about! I still do it! lol
It is just natural now. I created some recipes that are actually edible. I found that most "diet" recipes either tasted like cardboard or called for items that I could not find in the store, much less ever heard of!
I grew up in Southern Louisiana and we like our food with intense taste! I created some recipes that reflect that desire. My family (including my finicky 12 year old daughter) love the dishes I create! We have all gotten way healthier and thinner.
First off congratulations on your success, thats fantastic!
I lost quite a few pounds a few years ago (before going through a bought of depression and putting it all back on :-p) and I found myself the same as you. I was much more comfortable in the larger sized clothing and didn't like drawing attention to myself with more fitting clothes. I guess I was so use to concealing all the bad spots on my body that I forgot that they weren't bad anymore! It's a way of thinking that you train yourself into when you're a bigger girl...It just becomes second nature to want to blend in with everyone else. So you don't do anything to stand out too much...But keep reminding yourself that you have a beautiful figure that you're very proud of and worked hard to get it! I think slowly you'll start to realise that it's ok to bare a little more skin
Good luck!
I resisted buying anything smaller than a size 8 for quite a while. I was convinced that would be my psychological clue to gain all the weight back because I'd never, ever been smaller than an 8, even when I lost weight successfully for a while in the past. I wore some baggy clothes for a while. After I finally went shopping, I bought some things I never would have worn before and I'm much more comfortable "showing off" my new shape now. It just takes time I think.
There was a great article in a magazine recently about the same subject. I'll have to dig it out again, I can't remember if it was Self mag or another one. I know what you mean. I think one of the many reasons I haven't lost weight is because being this size is safe in a way. I can just hide from the world. I had lost quite a bit of weight a few years ago but I just didn't feel like myself. I think I'm more mature now and should be able to have a lasting weight loss if I try. Congratulations Foto! That is so awesome that you lost so fast. I have about 50 to lose. Good luck to all you other chicks out there trying. We can do it!
You guys are great! I agree, it is an insulation. I was going through a difficult marriage (my divorce was like a sigh of relief!), was going to school, holding a management position and trying to raise 3 children. I forgot me I was so focused on everyone else and their needs. Now I am taking care of ME and I find I can take care of the others much better.
I lost my father August 2003 to diabetes. It was very sudden. I woke up one morning and went to wake him and he was gone. It was a wake up call (the second of two, but that is another thread. Look for Wake Up Calls here). I realized that I had so much going for me, so much to live for, so many lives depending on me I just had to do something.
Thanks Glenn, I'll go out and get something really hot! I have some hot stuff now...the problem is I don't wear it in public! I just feel, I don't know, silly or out of place. People look - alot. Could be the height (6') or the heels (5" spikes) but I still feel like I stick out like a sore thumb!
As for the recipes, I posted some in the Food section. Hope you like them!
Well, I took a step today. I bought some workout clothes. I got some little shorts, the shorter, T-back tops (that are tight!). I got some really cute stuff, no more big baggy sweats and t-shirts!
I am starting slow. I will wear this stuff when I work out. My reasoning here is that I will grow accustomed to wearing more revealing clothing at the gym and gradually move to more public forums!
Even though I am still a good 10-12 lbs away from my goal, I have lost almost 25lbs and I too can identify with the big girl mentality. Usually before I got to the track at the park to walk I put on walking pants and a very long t-shirt. Well one day I'm not sure what happened - whether I didn't have a clean shirt to wear or if it was one of those blazing hot days, but at any rate I put on a tank top with my walking pants, which means my butt was exposed! Now on some level I know I don't have a big butt, but I felt so incredibly exposed without the security of that long t-shirt that I usually wear! I picked my mom up to go to the park to walk and she (who has a very critical eye, I might add) said I looked fine. She even commented on how skinny I actually looked! I couldn't believe it. I would love to have one of those computer images of what I think my body looks like next to what it actually does look like, just so I can see the discrepancy, if any, between my perception and reality. I guess it just takes our minds a little longer to catch up to where out bodies actually are!
"Big Girl" Mentality in the Skinny Me
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getting use to sometimes she still sees herself as the fat girl , little by little you will start to feel sexy and want to dress to impress, hope this helps hope u can help me thanks, connie
wtg foto. go out get some sexy because you are a good looking lady.
glen
