Frannymae: Yes we are right in the area of attituide, and excuses, but we need what is really causing them. It is up to us as individuals to not allow family, friends, co_workers talk us out of what we know we should do, and this group can help us stay on course.
Rowan: went out and bought Dr Phil's book today, as I stay open to most idea's and can learn from anyone.
Lizziepie : You got the point very well and I agree we are not try to cheat or sway ourself's on purpose, and yes this board of wonderful real live people, with real live problems can get more done, working on the board together, and helping each other try and figure out where we are going wrong and lift each other spirits up when we do. Feelings can get hurt no matter how tender we approach problems sometimes, and some of the answers are TOUGH LOVE both with each other and especially with ourself's. We need to change our habits or directions to solve some of our problems. Example put a note on ref. saying if you here to cheat do not open the door, 1. go for a 15 min walk then come back, 2 get busy doing something you have been putting off and start it, 3. call a friend and talk this feeling away.
I do not have all the answers, but together we have a lot of them, so lets keep on, keeping on and we will win this War.
SuperDave