[beahawkins]

Ok. really, you don't need to read the first 4 paragraphs unless you want to, I just needed to get it out.

So I've been dating this guy for a while now. And I get he's busy every minute of the day (I seriously hate his job) and about 2 months ago we decided to be less serious. So I've tried to be less up his *** about it.

But because he is an atheist all of my "christian" friends (so 95.3% of my total friends) stopped hanging out with me. And then every one of my other friends, all 3 of them, went out and got in really serious relationships. (In less than 2 months one of my best friends starting dating and got engaged. another got married and stopped being my friend (too caught up in love i guess) and another is stuck up her bf's butt even though he is a jerk hole)(he was on her fbpage and a pic of her and i came up. he commented on my breasts, she got mad at me??) wth) It's so weird to not have friends, to not be going somewhere, and my family is gone this weekend so I really don't have people time. I want to make friends so bad, but school doesn't start for another 16 days. so I have all this pent up issues and I can't talk about it to anyone.
Sorry people. sigh. blah.

Anyways. I spent hours getting ready because he and I were supposed to do something tonight. I texted him and he completely blew me off. "Something came up. Can't hang out tonight. can't talk about it. Sorry." So I feel like ok, so either, someone died or he's going out with someone else and blowing me off. (Obviously, it's one of those extremes.) (And I can feel my crazy pms starting. So at least that means that I can start my bc soon.) I already hid my phone from myself so I can't crazy all over him)

I used to deal with these kinds of issues by binging with my friends. or just by myself. either way. there was icecream and donuts and probably mashed potatoes. I had 2 cookies the other day and I felt nauseous after. I physically can't binge anymore.
I didn't work out earlier today because I didn't want to be sore tonight. So I went and did that. But I still don't feel any better. All I want to do is watch hp and the sorcerers stone turn the ac as high as it gets get under a blanket and eat everything in sight.
for the next 2 and a half weeks. gerrrr

Now that you have read my book of pity, how do you deal with drama and hurt now that eating your emotions is an available option?
Hope your Saturday is great!!

[ilidawn]

Sorry you're having a crappy time. Honestly I've lost so much trust in the idea of friendship I hardly even want to hang out with anyone anymore. I like my alone time though so internet and netflix and I'm all good. Hope your guy explains himself for blowing you off like that.

I found that I can't eat very much of my old binge foods now also! It's good but so weird lol I honestly need to find a good outlet because my smoking problems gotten worse. Gonna die of lung cancer for sure the way I'm going I'm wondering if I can learn to do stuff like skin care, my nails, and other beauty stuff when I'm needing an outlet instead of unhealthy options.

[beahawkins]

Thanks crap is just stupid. as much as food binges are horrible for you they are so so relaxing.

I do that too! I read lots of beauty blogs and stuff like that during my alone time. and I have been filling my time with the internet and netflix as well.

I really hope he explains what's going on. Because I don't know which emotions to express and my pmdd want's to go all kinds of crazy on him. It will be a miracle the day I can start my new meds!!

My dad quit smoking with that medication (idk the name).. He used it 2 weeks about a year and a half ago and hasn't smoked since.

[ilidawn]

There's so much to watch on there it really can take up all sorts of free time! I've been having fun layering my nail polishes to see all sorts of cool looks that are possible.

Yeah I've always been the type that when a guy did that crap I'd either bottle it up or rip him a new one (as one of my exes put it lol). I've gotten a ton better since I started on an antidepressant though. I guess I had a chemical inbalance. Maybe try letting a little time pass then see if he'll talk about it because it is rude of him to be like that.

[beahawkins]

yeah. the problem is, I don't let things go. especially when I am pmsing. It's been a horrible day beyond him skipping out. I really really just want to talk to him. I let these stupid dogs out that I am dog watching and my dog got out and he is black and fast and everytime you go near him he darts off so going to find him is impossible. and every one is gone so.

I am completely clean on my precriptions right now except for Adapex (a weight loss drug that can actually cause anxiety and aggressiveness) I start a thyroid med that controls my hormones in about a week and I have a lower than normal vitmin d and b12 count which can through lots of things off too. And then as soon as my period hit. (god I hope it's soon) I will start Yaz so maybe my crazy will chill. But I am hoping that I will get to be a normal person soon. I hate feeling like this. And I am soo sooo sooooo hungry but nothing sounds good. I starting making something earlier and put it away because eating made me feel sick.

Chemical imbalances suck.

[basquegirl]

beehawkins,

So I hope that I'm not sticking my foot where it does not belong but I think you should lose the guy. From my experience and being friends with lots of guys when a guy says he wants space or doesn't want to be serious it means it is over... he is dragging the girl along that way he has someone there if he can't find someone else. From your picture you look like a very attractive young lady who could do better. I found my husband on okcupid.com... there are some total creepers for sure on there and you have to pick through them carefully but I think you should try to move on. Find a guy that will treat you how you should be treated.

Again I might be totally out of line and you don't need to listen to me this is just my opinion.

[JossFit]

Originally Posted by basquegirl

...I think you should lose the guy. From my experience and being friends with lots of guys when a guy says he wants space or doesn't want to be serious it means it is over... he is dragging the girl along that way he has someone there if he can't find someone else.

Exactly. If he cared, he would have been apologetic if he genuinely couldn't be there, and would have made the effort to explain himself to you after the fact. Men are not mysterious creatures; if he cared about you and wanted to spend time with you, you would know it.

I'm sorry if my bluntness comes off as rude, but I hate to think of you wasting your evening (and possibly many evenings) fretting over some guy who doesn't feel you deserve the time of day. Look at how you treated yourself today! You didn't workout initially so that you wouldn't be sore, you fought the binge demons all night, and it caused you so much distress you had to come here and vent about it. He should make you happy, not depressed.

I always say, "Be with a man who makes you ruin your lipstick, not your mascara."

Anyway, How each person deals with the urges to binge is pretty individual, but I find that like most people, just getting busy and doing something creative helps me. Lately I have gotten into scrapbooking! LOL it's nerdy, but it's creative, I get involved in it, I'm using my hands, and it's completely unrelated to food.

[beahawkins]

I probably should ditch him. But if I lose him I don't want want to date again until I finish school. I actually found him on okc he was the only one I thought was ok. lol and he was everything I wanted until his work started being horrible.
The problem is. No matter what, I am going to have issues in any relationship. I can't handle them. Right now at least. All of my hormones are out of whack and it's going to take at least another month to get them straight.

[Thedollylala]

He's in the navy? The cracker jack hat gives me that idea, my fiancé is navy and yes it tends to get busy for them but my fiancé always finds time for me. I've seen girls date military and not talk to them for days. But it wasn't cause the guy couldn't. I personally wouldn't stick around, like the previous poster said he's doing more damage than good. Don't keep him around cause you don't want to go looking for another boyfriend. That is not a good reason to be with someone. You need to be with them because you have a connection and both have the same goals and the same places you want to be in life, good luck everyone deserves to be happy

[JossFit]

Originally Posted by Thedollylala

...I've seen girls date military and not talk to them for days. But it wasn't cause the guy couldn't....

Exactly what I was thinking. I'm special ops and my husband is a Green Beret - you can't find two military folks much busier than that. On top of our jobs and the hours we work, we have been living in separate states for the last year of our relationship, and have been through 5 deployments together in the past 2+ years... and we have ALWAYS made time for each other.

Ditch him.

As for dating in general, if you aren't ready for a relationship you aren't ready! If you need a little male attention from time to time go out and get yourself some nice no-strings-attached action and be done with it!

Hey, we're modern women and can do what we want... just be smart and safe about it.

[stepharoo]

On the subject of the binging I've noticed I can't binge like I used to either... but all the suggestions people used to give me never worked (all of those, keep your hands busy ideas). I have found that a bath sometimes helps, with a movie on the laptop nearby or sometimes I just need to get out of the house. Kudos on going and working out even though I'm sure you would rather have eaten random food instead. Just keep up with your emotions and be aware (like you obviously are). We can teach ourselves anything, just like we can redirect our thoughts. Hang in there.