When you just know, it's time. - 3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

AlyN · 03-13-2012, 11:30 PM

Hi all, I am new to 3fatchicks and completely new to the entire forum world.

My name is Alyssa. I am 21 and a junior in college working on my psychology degree with a double minor in human development/family studies and american sign language. I am engaged to truly, the most wonderful man. Our wedding is set for Oct 19, 2013. We already live together and both work two part time jobs.

While it seems as if I have my life together, my family surely thinks so. I truly know I will never be okay with myself and my life until I get healthy. I am so tired of worrying about being tagged in a picture doomed for my facebook profile, or even caring what the beautiful world we live in thinks. And while I truly believe we are all beautiful (insert christina intro), I know I need help.

This isn't the first time I have admitted I have a problem. I am a junkie. However, it is the first time I am reaching out for help, for support, just someone to talk to.

I am roughly 215 pounds at 4'11". Truly unhealthy. Ever since I was a little girl, around the age of 7 I started to gain weight, faster than I was growing at least. It's not easy being short and having the appetite of Michael Phelps. Nonetheless, I have dieted. And successfully. My worst was my junior year in high school, I had many family stressors that I do believe contributed to my weight gain, I was at 225-230 pounds. Slowly and surely I started dieting and exercising. I got down to 165 My lowest that I remember since puberty. Then I met my fiance and slowly and surely gained it all back. I have weight cycled throughout our lengthy relationship, but I'm back to 215. And while he doesn't seem to see anything wrong with my weight, I know I am unhealthy and need a change.

It's not easy. Playing the role of wife, cooking my fiance foods that he adores (a lot of Italian), having late night pig outs, and not only maintaining weight, but losing it. And of course I have 18 credits of college classes and work 35 hours a week waitressing and tutoring. I'm exhausted. I need advice. I'm not new to dieting or even working out, when I get into it, I actually love it. I just need a community I can rely on.

Thank you for reading!

-Alyssa

valalltogether · 03-13-2012, 11:37 PM

Hello! and welcome!! i totally feel you on the facebook photos! lol..i have untagged myself many, many times. are you working toward a wedding goal? that's an excellent goal to have (and you have so much time), although i know you'll look beautiful no matter what!

you'll find a lot of support & resources here. welcome aboard fellow restaurant employee

AlyN · 03-13-2012, 11:47 PM

I am working towards a wedding goal! I really want to start fresh before I start my new life. I don't want to look back on my 20's saying "I wish". It's time!

valalltogether · 03-13-2012, 11:55 PM

i just want to mention -- seeing as you're 21, be careful of the calories that can sneak up on you through alcohol! i drank a lot when i first turned 21. you'll never believe the amount of calories that can be in something -- like a margarita for example --550 calories.

http://www.calwineries.com/learn/win...ealth/calories

AlyN · 03-14-2012, 12:00 AM

I am definitely keeping that in mind. I have never been a heavy drinker. But I do have quite a few skinny mixes. Even a zero calorie margarita mix! I think I am too lazy to use 550 calories on a drink. I would rather not have to work all that out in the gym! lol

bsbgirl86 · 03-14-2012, 12:52 AM

Welcome, Alyssa!

I'm pretty new here too. I can't tell you how much everyone here instantly supports and encourages you through those tough days. Anytime you feel like you're struggling you can reach out and someone answers. It's really helped me get back on track (I had not only stalled, but was starting to gain almost ten back!)

We're around the same age, I'm 25. This age can be even tougher cause all our friends dress in little cute outfits and you can't help but think "I wanna wear that too while I still can!" haha. I wanna go out to a bar and club and feel cute like the rest of them, gosh darn it!

I, too, have been overweight forever. Seriously, I had what looked like a beer gut when I was about 6-7 on.. I'm the skinniest and healthiest I've ever been. The closer you get, the more you realize that it's possible

I have a lot of work to do still, but have finally realized I can do it. I thank 3FC, and it's lovely members, for that. I think you will feel the same way. I also wanna point out the "Goals" section of the forum. It's AMAZING to see so many incredible before and after pics. And to read all the stories.. It has stopped me in my tracks when I was about to cheat.

If you ever wanna vent or need encouragement feel free to PM me. I love paying all the support I've gotten forward. Good luck!

AlyN · 03-14-2012, 01:08 AM

You are so close to your goal!! You can always PM me as well!

I completely understand what you mean about wanting to wear what everyone else is. I hate having to cover up and I LOVE fashion, that is why I really want to look good for my wedding, I do not want to have to choose a wedding dress simply because it looks good on me, but because I love it.

bsbgirl86 · 03-14-2012, 04:36 PM

Thanks!!

My goal is a rough guess right now though, not sure if I can get much lower if I keep working out and building muscle. I know I'm more than halfway though, and that's reasssuring

I know! I watch shows on like CW and want so badly to dress like that. Fashion is something I basically had to ignore before, but as I get closer, I'm considering more, and it's SO fun!

alitorry · 03-14-2012, 04:54 PM

I can totally relate to your title

I've tried many years of unsuccessful dieting. It wasn't until it just clicked in my head and I found all the motivation and determination I needed. Sounds like you are there

Congrats on getting started on your healthy life and joining this awesome forum!

AlyN · 03-14-2012, 10:23 PM

Thank you alitorry!

peasantgirly · 03-15-2012, 10:43 PM

Hi Alyssa! Welcome and good luck!

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Originally Posted by bsbgirl86

. I also wanna point out the "Goals" section of the forum. It's AMAZING to see so many incredible before and after pics. And to read all the stories.. It has stopped me in my tracks when I was about to cheat.

Thank you so much for mentioning this! I had not found that part of the site yet. Should be very motivational!

bsbgirl86 · 03-15-2012, 11:01 PM

You're welcome!

It's awesome because it's not B&A pictures on a diet pill website, or actors "endorsing" something with pictures that may be photoshopped. It's all real people who busted their bootys and the difference in some of them is crazy!! Like different people!

peasantgirly · 03-16-2012, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by bsbgirl86

You're welcome!

It's awesome because it's not B&A pictures on a diet pill website, or actors "endorsing" something with pictures that may be photoshopped. It's all real people who busted their bootys and the difference in some of them is crazy!! Like different people!

OMG, some of them are unrecognizable!

I avoid the camera at all costs right now, but I think I'm gonna have to take some pics so that I'll have the "before" pics to post later. Man, I'd be pissed if I lost 100lbs and didn't have B&A pics!