Well, maybe the term 'haters' isn't the best word. But for those of you who have reached your goal or who are working towards it, I have a question. I assume you want to lose weight for your health, self-confidence and better lifestyle, right? These are the main reasons I want to lose weight as well but to be completely honest, I want to do it to prove people wrong. Mainly, I mean guys who wont/didn't want to date me because I'm big. Now I know I shouldn't change myself for someone else and that's not what I'm doing... but i sometimes like to use that as motivation so that at the end of my journey I can see the looks on their faces. IS this motivation for any of you? The pleasure of proving people wrong? I'm only about a month into my weight loss journey, and I have a long way to go, but I look forward to the day I can maybe turn down someone who was once upon a time embarrassed of me?
Thanks for reading, ladies! Hope you are all staying positive and strong through out your journey!!
In all honesty, I believe most people (especially women) lose weight to prove people wrong or other personal reasons like it. Yes, being healthy is of course key, but a strong motivator are social ones. As horrible as it is, my 2 main motivators are losing more weight than my ex-roommate who was HORRIBLE towards me and was secretly telling people I was fat (even tho she was the same size as me!).... and the other reason is to finally be smaller than my BFF. She has always been the skinny one, and well she doesn't act mean towards me, she has always judged me and always felt like the "hot" friend well I was the fat one. She also has no faith that I can lose the weight and I once heard her and another friend laughing because I asked her to join a gym with me and she told the other friend "What a waste of money that would be, Katrina won't keep going after the first week".....
I am now only 3 pounds heavier than my bff AND a size smaller than my ex roommie and I don't have any plans to stop anytime soon. ..... O and I have more energy LOL!
That's really good! Sorry to hear about the catty ex-friend. I definitely have dealt with situations like that before and I can see how that kept you motivated to lose weight.
And I guess you have a point! We are social creatures.. so if competing/proving ourselves allow us to become better versions of ourselves, then why the heck not right?! I think I just needed to hear it from someone else to make myself feel better
Congrats on the weight loss, though! It's girls like you that help me to realize its possible on the days I want to just quit
As long as you're not doing it so you can date one of these creeps. But it's true, sometimes we need a kick in the pants to get started. And I had plenty of bad experiences while I was fat and feeling sorry for myself. I think as you lose weight you feel better about yourself. Congrats on getting this far, I know what you mean about wanting to give up. I had one of those days today. Luckily I just ate a WW ice cream and got over it.
Well while I never used stuff like that as motivation, I have to admit that when I got down to this weight I had a small desire to go to the people that gave me grief and waggle my new, tiny a** in their faces.
I know where you're coming from. When I first started out the vanity side of it was the only reason I was putting so much effort into weightloss. I didn't really understand my body and thought that the number on the scale was the ONLY thing the defined whether you were hot or not.
After losing 80lbs my priorities have changed though. Once I realized how much my bad habits, heaviness and lack of fitness was making me feel so bad i'm now concentrating on making me feel the best I can feel.
I do sometimes like to think of turning up at an event/get together having lost a bunch of weight and seeing guys faces who would have overlooked me before. But then I actually think most people wouldn't really care and if a guy can overlook me for being overweight it's a good job they were weeded out early.
I completely understand what you mean<3
Yes I want to lose weight to be healthier and look better but I so badly want to prove wrong everyone who has/is doubting me that I will ever lose weight. It's been so many times when Ive said I will do it but I give up withing 2 or 3 weeks and now they have actually said things like "yeah you're so lazy, I kind of knew you wouldn't follow through with it"
Ugh it makes me feel so bad and then I want to prove them wrong so much and hopefully this time I can do it and be like "SEE! I did it do you suck for always doubting me" I wish you the best of luck and hopefully we can achieve our goals I have found a lot of great support on here and hopefully you will too.
I definetly agree. I am doing this for myself to be healthy, confident, and happy.
But i cant wait for the day when I see some of the guys from highschool and I can smile and they know they have no chance. lol just a little thing i use for motivation.
I'm SO blind to haters. Like, really blind. I've not come across a hater since I was 12 or so.
So, even though I do understand how you can get motivated by it - it's not the case for me. I am just my own biggest critic and wanting to live up to the dreams I have for myself is the biggest part of why I do this. Health comes second or even third. It's really just mostly a vain thing. Even though we are all suppose to say it's about health. (Which is perfectly logical if you are so severely obese it starts to effect your health - but that's really not the case for a lot of us)
I do think we should make a distinction in that on these boards, your reasons for wanting to lose don't have to be 'healthy' as long as the methods you use are healthy.
I completely understand! While my main motivations have been to get healthy and feel happy and confident, there are side benefits like show up haters! I have an ex-friend who was always the "hot friend" and I the flabby side kick after we had our kids. There was a time when I lost weight and got in great shape by hard exercise...and honestly, that was when our friendship went south. She no longer had the upper hand in the looks department.
Since we stopped speaking, we both put on lots of weight, except now, I am taking it off and she isn't. I don't even have anything to do with her anymore, but, it will still feel good to know that when I see her, the tables will have turned.
I also have people who knew me for years as skinny, while they were overweight. As I gained weight in recent years with my last baby and they dieted and lost weight, they rejoiced that the tables had turned and condemned me to a lifetime of fatness. It will feel good to bounce back and prove them wrong too.
Hey we are only human! There will of course be social reasons for wanting to lose weight.
I started my journey in August after we returned from a beach trip. When I gave my husband an old bathing suit of mine (like 15 years old because that was the last time I wore one) and a reservation for the same house we'd just come from as an anniversary gift. His close friend, a woman, told him I was setting myself up to fail. As much as I hate to admit it, I was very much like 'oh yea? watch this'. Right now, I'm working very very had to embrace that I might not get all the weight off that I'd originally intended, but I'll probably be within 10 lbs, and to not view that as a failure. I'll be done over 90! And they won't be with us anyway! So I guess I'm saying pull the motivation from wherever you can in those rough times as long as it isn't destructive... and I need to take my own advice LOL!
I started losing weight for my ex when we were still together, and I'm determined to finish losing it as quickly as possible and then to rub it in his stupid face. >
That's definitely part of my reason to want to lose. My main reason is for myself, to fit into clothes that I actually want to wear, to be able to borrow friend's stuff if I want or need to, just to generally have more confidence.
But, yes- there are certain people in my life who I would just love to impress and show off to. My mother is one. I think she really likes the fact that I'm bigger than she is. When she saw my weight loss chart on my fridge she actually said, well you've never been skinny, you're not a small person, so don't expect to weigh a lot less.
Um, yeah thanks mom. Even though 3 summers ago I was in great shape, and wearing size 8 dresses that she couldn't squeeze into... I found when I was thinner I got a lot of "well, you never eat anymore" or people simply didn't comment. It was only those friends who were not so close to me that had amazing things to say and were very supportive.
I think it really has to do with everyone wanting those around them to 'play their part" and I think a lot of us have been playing the fat girl part for too long and for too many people.
I know that what is inside me is not what is reflected on the outside and I'm not going to play that part anymore.
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