Don't you hate it when people criticize the way you diet and start telling you how unhealthy it is when they are overweight themselves?? It's so hypocritical of them. My sister lectured me on how doing low carb/low calorie was so awful while she struggles with her health because of her weight! I'm to the point now that I just nod my head because no body is ever happy watching someone else do what they can't do themselves. I am pretty sure the risks of being overweight outweigh the risks of cutting out some food for a while. There's my two cents. Hope you all are having a good weekend!

Congratulations on a great loss. You are doing the right thing, no amount of argument or rationalization will change the minds of people who have their minds set, no matter how wrong they are.

You are doing great!

There's nothing unhealthy about calorie restriction as long as the basic energy demands are being met (1200 cals/day is, I think, the accepted rule of thumb, though it's not some sort of universal law like people make it out to be...), and you don't need many carbs at all unless you're a high-level athlete.

The only time I would be concerned about a friend or family member's diet is if it's something that really seems unhealthy to me. For example, my niece is on the hCG diet, and eats less than recommended on the plan... so we're talking 500 cals/day, and hardly any of it vegetables. She lost over 40lbs in a month, but hasn't learned anything about cooking and eating healthy or implemented any type of lifestyle changes that will sustain her loss long-term. I kept my mouth shut until she told me that I should do it... yeah, right, pay hundreds of dollars to deprive my body and eventually regain all the weight? No thanks!

It sounds like your sister just needs to learn the difference between a super-extreme diet and an okay level of restriction.

Stuff like this has been happening to me at the gym lately, so I know how you feel. People keep telling me not to starve myself and I've gotten pretty nasty to some of them because it's getting quite annoying. My mother goes to the same gym and she insists to them that she sees me eat. Just because I don't take the food offered to us after the classes doesn't mean I'm starving myself...

I've had some people tell me to go on weight watchers because they will apparently teach me to eat properly. Sorry I'm not about to join an organization when I've been so successful on my own

my sister has always been the smaller of the two of us...until we had children. I went back to exactly where I was before after I had my daughter, and she went up a pants size and is bigger than she was before. She says "i'm just realizing my body will never be the same again and i have to be ok with that." and it seems like every time I talk to her, she is in the drive-thru at mcdonalds.

i was at my parents house this past week and she was there, too. I would debate over whether or not I should eat nearly everything I put in my mouth (or didn't put in my mouth) the whole time. If i heard her say, "You can't deny yourself everything you like to eat or you'll never be successsful in weight loss" one more time I thought I'd scream!!!! I DON'T deny myself everything I like, I just don't go to McDonald's 7+ times a week!

HAHAHA.......It's funny that no one ever talked to us about being overweight and how unhealthy that was. You all have done so wonderful! I'm glad you can relate!

Amazing progress so far~!

What I have noticed is that some people will be jealous of the work we are doing and the weight loss that is associated with it, and since they do not have the will power or strength to do it, they can only criticize.

Just let them talk, haters hate.

You have established she isn't a good person to discuss this with. Don't. do. it. again. ever.

Do you all realize that you're doing the same thing to these alleged "haters" that you claim they're doing to you? Hating and being judgmental dingbats. Just because someone's overweight does not mean they are wrong on every single point that they make about weight loss/healthy eating. And just because you believe someone is going to McD's 7x a week does not mean it then becomes a topic for ridicule on an anonymous forum. I doubt any of you are doctors or nutritionists, so your opinions on weight loss are just that...opinions. And, please, can we all stop with the whole "jealous" excuse? That's just petty and juvenile. Congratulations on your weight loss, but don't become a skinny twitch about it and don't fault others because they remain overweight. You are not any better than them. You just happen to be skinnier (for now).

Wow, Princess. Why so much hate in your post? I didn't read anything from the OP about accusations of jealousy. While I would agree about not all fat women know nothing about weightloss, I would say this. If I wanted financial advice, I wouldn't discuss or debate my issues with someone with less money. If I wanted parenting advice, I wouldn't discuss or debate my issues with someone with incarcerated children. Just sayin'.

p.s. For the record, I have actually found the advice and help on 3FC MUCH more beneficial than anything I have gathered from a visit to any professional's office. Welcome to the boards. It isn't surprising you only have 16 posts. If you had more perhaps you would know that we all come from different walks of life--and yes, some ARE doctors and nutritionists.

I'm being judgmental because I'm getting tired of people thinking I'm starving myself? Good to know! I'll keep being "judgmental" then.

I wasn't being "judgmental" of my sister because she is at McDonald's a lot... I just said I couldn't take her advice because she has a different viewpoint on weight than I do. She thinks she can't do anything about it, and her body is the way it is---so she doesn't try and doesn't eat well...and I'm trying to do something about myself. She isn't a good person to talk to about it, no--- and I don't talk to her about it, but when she's around when I'm eating, offers me chocolate cake and I refuse it and then I have to hear the "you can't deny yourself everything you like to eat" speech over and over, I get annoyed.

my point was: I don't deny myself everything I like to eat, but when I've already had a small treat, I'm not going to keep eating the "stuff I like to eat" when I know it isn't good for my body.

please don't jump to conclusions... it's hard to take somebody's full meaning when you can't see them or hear the tones in their voices. I'm hoping you didn't intentionally sound as mean and cutting as you did... I KNOW I didn't mean to sound judgmental and apparently I did. For that, I apologize.

Princess,
This post was never intended to be a judgemental thread whatsoever. It was simply a "vent". Seeing as this is a supportive place, I thought it would be best suited here as opposed to somewhere else. I was the same person forty-four pounds ago as I am now. I'm just healthier and am more knowledgeable about my body. I care for my family and their health as well. Thank you for your input, and I apologize if I upset you.

I think Thighs is correct in that there are some topics best avoided, even with loved ones. It took a while for this to be ok because I was so darn successful so why wouldn't people agree with me on this!? I finally knew what I was talking about! The fact is, other people feel the same or had their own issues to work through, so my opinions/advice/knowledge wasn't really welcome.

Revel in your success and the path that you've chosen to health. Her opposition can't take that away. Perhaps someday she will be ready to seek your guidance and you will be there to support her on her journey