[Ryler832]

After I had my son 8 years ago I went from 115 to 140 lbs then gained 7 lbs after I had my daughter a year ago.

I knew I was always the thick one out of all my sisters and cousins. I get it from my dad, brothers, and uncles everyday. I started out at 147 lbs in June of this year and lost 11 lbs total to this day. My brother keeps telling me I'm getting bigger and bigger everyday and I'm getting unmotivated to continue on to lose the weight to get to my ideal goal of 115-120 lbs. He makes comments about how I don't try hard enough and why I even bother when I'm "on a SEE-food diet." I tried so hard to not let it get to me but it's also hard to continue on when no one sees my progress.

[KatieC87]

Originally Posted by Ryler832

After I had my son 8 years ago I went from 115 to 140 lbs then gained 7 lbs after I had my daughter a year ago.

I knew I was always the thick one out of all my sisters and cousins. I get it from my dad, brothers, and uncles everyday. I started out at 147 lbs in June of this year and lost 11 lbs total to this day. My brother keeps telling me I'm getting bigger and bigger everyday and I'm getting unmotivated to continue on to lose the weight to get to my ideal goal of 115-120 lbs. He makes comments about how I don't try hard enough and why I even bother when I'm "on a SEE-food diet." I tried so hard to not let it get to me but it's also hard to continue on when no one sees my progress.

How old is your brother? I ask because he sounds like a 12 year old jerk!

You have to focus on the reasons you want to lose weight. Is it for your brother? I doubt it. So disregard what he says. If you're losing weight, you know you're not getting bigger. Maybe you should keep track of your inches to reinforce this with yourself.

It sounds like he has some internal unhappiness going on, and it's causing him to lash out at you. He should be encouraging you!

Do YOU see your progress? Do YOU feel different than you did 11 pounds ago? You have to focus on these accomplishments, no matter how small they might seem at times. Focus on your children, how you're being such a good, healthy example for them. And focus on the great things you're doing for your health.

[m3k]

He's a brother, so reasoning with him may or may not work. Some things you can try (some nice, and some not so nice) are:

Explaining your situation and asking that he respects you
Have a third party that he respects/listens to also scold him
Return the favor (this one's not so nice, but sometimes you need to give people a taste of their own medicine)
A combination of these items

Another important thing to remember is that 11lbs lost in this amount of time is FABULOUS! I bet you look great = )

Keep your chin high! You're very close to your goal! The light at the end of the tunnel is hard to see (especially to those of us who have a really really long tunnel) but you'll feel better about yourself, and feel better physically in the long run. The benefits are there!

Besides, when you've reached your goal, you can just show him that his insults meant nothing! If you give in, you're just letting him win.

Who knows? Maybe take up kickboxing. That way, if he messes with you again, you can kick his butt = P

[Lovely]

Why are you letting your brother get to you? Frankly, he's acting like a child. I'd pity him for not behaving like an adult.

You know you've lost 11 lbs. You know you've made progress. That's all that matters.

You also now know that he's an unsupportive individual. One who is likely just trying to get a rise out of you for entertainment. Don't entertain him any longer. Don't bring up your weight loss around him, and give him no reaction if he comments upon your weight on his own.

The best revenge is a life well-lived. He can say all he wants, but you'll be the one with your chin up and smiling all the way to goal.

[lin43]

I weigh a lot more than you (and I'm only 5 ft 3), I started on June 1 as well, and I've lost about the same amount of weight as you. But the thing is, I'm happy as a clam about it, and you should be happy about your weight loss as well. Your current weight is lower than my goal weight (and I've got about 30 lbs. to go), so I'll bet you look good now, despite what your brother says. I agree with the others: He's being childish and trying to get a rise out of you. Ignore him. Keep going! You're doing great!