Ugh- This morning I woke up and thought "I hope that was all a damn dream"
Yesterday, after a long period of fighting, my best friend of 7 years and I decided to part ways. Accept, it was through a long letter of why I am a bad friend and not particularly polite. So my whole day yesterday was stressed out on thinking about her and what the **** I did that was so bad to deserve such unkind words and thoughts and AHHHHH. Ok.
Needless today. I broke my diet that I have been so diligent with. My boyfriend and I went out for pizza. I put ranch on it. I felt so bad, I just didn't even complete my day on my calorie tracker. I told my boyfriend after the whole dinner on the way home that I felt really guilty. He is so amazing (partially the reason my bff is over me). He just said that tomorrow is a new day.
That is how I feel today. New Day. It is weird. I still wish I didn't eat the damn pizza. But I guess I am not so upset about the bff dropping me. Maybe it is all ok. I just finished my breakfast, same breakfast I eat everyday a whole 300 cals. Now I am gonna go walk the dogs. Breath, I am ok.
My best friend and I "broke up" in May. It was hard at first, mostly thinking "oh I should call and tell Kelley this" and remembering I couldn't. But it gets easier. I can't believe I haven't talked to/heard from her in over seven months. But she was all dee-rama and my life is a lot less stressful. Hang in there! Good outlook. Pizza with ranch isn't going to ruin your progress. The best thing to do is get on track right away. Which you did.
Ah the bestfriend thing...It takes time to heal and eventually things will come to. Your boyfriend is right today is a new day and as each new day comes things will get better. Pizza is yummy, but is really eatting that garbage though going to bring her back...Nope so Yesterday you had amazing Pizza ( I love pizza) and today you're going to fight to get back on track.
It's okay- as long as you didn't eat a whole pizza you are okay- you'll bounce back today and be fine
It's hard to lose a good friend, I lost one (who was my maid of honor in my wedding) and it was pretty hard on me- I felt like all her excuses were LAME (I personally think her new bf didn't like me) as we'd been friends from the time we were in pre-school through college. It totally came out of nowhere also. One day we were having a great time, she came to visit, and then a week after she'd gone home she just called out of the blue and said we can't be friends anymore- no explanation, nothing except we are two different people now.
I lost a best friend while we were in college without much explanation either and it will still hurt a bit every now and then to this day. I am a stronger person because I got through the pain of it and through Facebook, we were able to reconnect, but it will never be the same as it was throughout middle and high school.
Today is a new day and, with many things in life, you just have to take one day at a time. Things will get better as time goes on, but know that you're allowed to feel hurt and betrayed.
I'm sorry to all of those who have lost good friends. While a friend break up hurts, there isn't much you can do. If you guys cross paths again and it works, great. If not, you will be okay. Getting upset and getting off track happens, but it only hurts you. I know this hurts alot but you can do it! You guys are great people and will find many great new friends. Promise.
BFF breakups are hard, and really unfortunate. I guess sometimes as we grown and change, our relationships don't and can't accommodate.
However, negative words and one bad diet day don't discredit your finer qualities and the progress you've made on your weight loss journey so far!
I hope tomorrow is a better day.
And I always try to complete my counts for the day after the sting of failure fades away. Sometimes it's encouraging after weigh in to see that you've still maintained or lost after your "oops"!
sounds like you were off to a good start this morning, i hope the day has gone well... i'd recommend drinking extra water to help flush out the water you are likely to retain from the spike in sodium from the pizza (i LOVE pizza but it makes me gain like 3 lbs water weight every time grrrrr... worth it sometimes tho lol)
Im sorry about your friend, if the whole letter really was her tearing you down it sounds like mostly her problem not yours *hugs* I hope you feel better soon
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I "broke up" with my best friend a couple years ago. But now that I look back and reminisce...it was for the best. She really wasnt a good friend to me...plus by losing weight you're bettering your life. So maybe losing your best friend is just another thing that will better your life in the long run. Trust me, someone else will come along and be worth the title of "best friend".
hang in there. i know the whole situation sucks, but you can do good on the one thing you can control. keep it up!
i'm sorry about your friend. it hurts and it sucks, and always feels more of a betrayal than any guy dumping you. but you'll get back up again. chin up
It IS a new day, and it will all be okay. My ex-best friend dropped me about a year ago, and honestly, I think it was for the best. I miss having somebody nearby who is always available to talk to or hang out with, but I don't miss her specifically, and new friends will always come along. You were upset, you had some pizza, and now it's a new day and you're back on track. Just keep on going.
Out with the old, in with the new...as hurtful as it may be, if she wrote you a letter condemning you it just wasn't meant to be. Probably the hardest thing about getting older is realizing those "we're going to be BFFs forever and ever" yearbook messages from middle school just aren't going to stay true, but you'll also meet lots of interesting and wonderful new people. The nice thing about life is that it's a dynamic and ever-changing process and there are always new chances and opportunities popping up.
I'm glad your boyfriend is there for you during these hard times - he sounds like a really supportive and standup guy. Don't sweat the pizza, it's just pizza.
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