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I've been pretty quiet lately, just because I really have nothing to say. Things are going well, but I think I'm just a little bored being at home for the summer. After 8 months of studying and such I don't always know what to do with myself. I'm trying not to spend too much time sitting at the computer, although I do lurk from time to time.
I just thought I should say hello this morning and wish everyone a good week. I think I'm going to get up a little earlier for my 8am walk - it was pretty warm this morning and if we're lucky that will continue for a good long while.
Well, I have hit a milestone!! With my my 2lb loss this week, I have officially lost 70 lbs since starting Atkins 7 months ago....and I am 100 lbs down from my high weight in Feb 2007!! I will again urge those having slow losses to *measure*!! Since November I have lost a total of 56 inches and in this past month 8.25 inches! The scale does NOT tell the whole story!! I am also wearing a smaller size than when I was last at this weight (late summer of 2007).
I bought a motivation outfit to keep me on track...a pair of light tan jean capris (size 18) and a pretty purple top (1X). Well, I can already zip the jeans, but I would not wear them out just yet. Soon tho...soon. I don't have any clothes in smaller sizes in my closet right now as the last time I wore an 18 was in the 80's (sad but true), so I am going to have to buy stuff going forward. I love shopping so that is a good thing!
Anne: I too am starting AM walks. In this Arizona HEAT ya have to!
AS for me:Well we have told the family about my son and his GF having a baby. Of course everyone supports them. We have had ALOT of teen mamas in my family. Her family..not so good. Her grandma said they should get married..or break up..to even moving her out of the state til after the baby is born. I am going to give it a few days then I am going to talk to her parents. Now her parents are being "Careful" about her comming over. HELLO she is already PG, not like she can get it again. Being that this has not happened to their family, I guess it is harder for them. But there are worse things that could have happened.
I went to my sisters yesterday BUT didn't go swimming. She lives in a condo and there are now some collge kids that rent one of them. They were at the pool and they were being very loud and rambuctious. So I stayed in. My kids went out for a about 20 min and said they hardley had room to swim. But I had an ok time anyhow. My niece is really getting use to me since I try and go over everyweekend. She would get books and ahve me read them to her. She would even hug me.
Ohhh..before I forget...does anyone know of some great recipies that I can make large batches and freeze???
Torister FABULOUS!!!! Well done.xxxxxxxx
Debbie, dunno what to say except that you have your own family to prove how special you are & here you are loved too.xxxxxxxxxx(being careful about nosy people, you know who!lol)
Annie, hope the job goes to you.xxxxxx
Well I lost 2lbs this Friday, not too bad. Did I mention the Dr's rang to confirm my blood test results? I am going through the menopause, getting it 'officially' confirmed after 5+ years of feeling 'odd', hot sweats. TOTALLY useless memory AND hormonal outbursts it's still a bit of a shock. I'm 44 lots of women are still having babies at my age (not that I want any more kids), makes me feel old.
I talk to a woman at school who has a horse whic she rides AND drives, she offered a ride in her cart to me, my sis & another woman. I was cheeky & asked her if we could go on Saturday as it's my sister's 40th birthday, fine she says, then my sis says NO she wants to ride not sit in a cart. I was hurt but the woman took me today to go out in the cart anyway, it takes two really to tack him up & get in the shafts of the cart. We drove a bit up the road & back, then I got to RIDE HIM!!!!! He is a part draught horse of Polish descent & wasn't the least bit bothered about my fat behind (& other body parts) being on him AND struggling to get my leg over his saddle. It was such fun though!!!!! It also made me realise that if I want to do this again I really MUST get more weight off, my body wants to get up on him but the actual WEIGHT is making it difficult. I've been good today, of course!!!!
xxxxxxsharon
There is something about horses that makes us all want to lose weight. We can carry around this bulk for years, but when it comes to subjecting a poor animal to carrying it around, we get guilty.
Annie-So are you going to go run with the Ironmen?
Aggie-It's called Curveballs. They have apparently already sold all the ones they stocked, but I'm told if you go ahead and order it, it will just take an extra week for them to get them back in stock to ship. You can also ask around here for someone to loan you their copy.
Carol-You may have a future doing construction. Can you image how much weight you could lose raking gravel ahead of the asphalt machine on a highway project? Especially when it hits 100 degrees come August.
I'm off to the doctor to have my head shrunk some more. Afterwards I'm going downtown to look at shoes. I have to have something to do after that I look forward to, or I might "forget" to go. I don't have my bodyguard to drag me today because he's in a meeting.
We had a very busy weekend. My parents and hubby went golfing Saturday so my little guy kept me pretty busy most of the day. Then we went to my parents house for Fathers day, then put up our pool. That was a lot of work in 90+ degree weather. I went to my meeting on Sunday and down .4. I was disappointed because I had a pretty good week, last week I gained 2.4 lbs. My brother gave me a good prep talk. I hope everybodies week goes great.
Sharon, I bet you had a blast with the horse. He sounds wonderful. I'm glad you got to ride him even if your sis didn't appreciate your offer.
Yay torti!
Carol, I am so proud of you doing all that digging and sweating and construction! I am wanting to do the same to an old patio in my backyard. Won't be any digging, but lots of sand hauling and tamping to get everything level. I saw a steel pergola I want from Lowe's, but it's $450 and I just don't have it now.
Catherine, yay for being free from the bodyguard for shoe browsing!! I'm glad the first football day went well in concessions. It simply amazes me how much you guys sell for the church.
Hugs to Azcyn and Cyn.
Yesterday, I think I ate everything not nailed down in the house. I was mad because the scale went 2 lbs in the wrong direction. Then I got mad at my baby sister for trying to guilt me into caring for her cat in August for a week (it's diabetic and needs shots 2x a day). I tried to focus that energy on something else, but couldn't quite do it. I ate 1500 calories in ice cream and another 1500 in this nut/sesame crunchy stuff I bought. That was on top of other decent foods. grrrrr.
Today, I have green stuff to eat... yes a salad for lunch! I started off with a nice small breakfast too, then rode my commuter bicycle to work. UGH I feel weak!!!
Pennie: I think that my body feels so much better when I eat higher quality foods than the junk. Good luck hon.
Aggs: I did get the dressing table all set up. It is nice to have a place to sit and do my face and girly stuff like my hair.
Angie: Yipee for the size 24 and new shoes. A big smile for being able to smell things again. That is wonderful!
Carol: Wow, sounds like you worked your tail off this weekend. It sounds very beautiful too. I love it that DH had to take more breaks. Hopefully that will speak to his heart.
Cyn: Sorry that you didn't get to swim. Maybe next time.
Anne: Hi. I hope your walking is fun.
Peggy: Woo hoo congrats on -100 pounds! Yeah for new clothes too.
Sharon: Congrats on -2 more! I am so happy for you to be able to have gotten to ride the horse. Wonderful. I could just imagine you.
Catherine: Ha to that Ironman run. I can't stand to run. I hear flapping skin so bad when I run. I need a body turniquete to run without all the noise. I often think if it is a windy day and I run and there is a rope around me I may be able to fly like a kite. lol. Hope your Dr. appt. goes well.
This was a really bad weekend for Joel and I. We had a huge argument over his mother. It sounds silly but it was so hurtful. We are having tons of company when Joel's sister moves in on July 8th. She will be bringing with her 2 friends to help her move and another one of their sisters to drive up with her that will be here for a week then fly back to CA. One of Joel's brothers wanted to come and visit when 2 of his sisters are here visiting. So he will be here too. That makes 5 extra people with one of them moving her stuff into our house. Joel and I talked about his mother asking to come too during that time just because I know her and she wants to be the center of attention and that I knew she would want to come. We agreed that we would tell her no she needs to come at another time. Well, she called Saturday afternoon and said she wants to come when everyone is here and Joel told her yes that is fine. I was standing there telling him say no. He just looked at me and said yes. It was a very ugly weekend and I am serisously considering leaving here for a while. Things like this happen a lot between Joel and I. He doesn't take my feelings into consideration many tmes when it is his family. I have talked to him about it and how it makes me feel. I have told him that I need to be considered in things and he agrees with me and appologizes to me and says he won't do it anymore and them he does it again. I don't know any other way to make him see it is hurting me. I know it sounds petty but it is sooooo much more involved than this last little thing with his mother and step dad coming when everyone else is here. I feel like if I really want to make a point to him he can be here with his family alone and see how it is to wait on his mother and step dad and cook for everyone and keep everything going and put up with his mother's mouth. Maybe he will appreciate me a bit more. I am struggling so much with not feeling like I matter and this was just the topper for me this weekend.
Thanks for listening guys. I'm sorry for putting that on you. I shouldn't be complaining. I have a wonderful husband except this one area where he takes my feelings and wants for granted. I have had a lifetime of not mattering to anyone and I am trying to matter to me now and I just don't need this kind of thing going on. Please forgive me for rambling about such a private matter.
All I can say in behalf of your DH is that mothers have superpowers that don't allow their children to say "no". I have one of those moms. My baby sister has picked up on how to lay the guilt trips, but my Mom is the master. Doesn't make your DH's behavior right at all (or the behavior of his mother and siblings). I also think it's selfish of his mom and siblings to show up during this time. Moving is stressful enough!
I think you are spot-on when you say you might have to take a little vacation somewhere during this chaotic time. You need to take care of you. It's obvious that his family thinks they are the most important things in the room.
Perhaps you can go visit some of your family during this time?
I am happy to report that at least his mom and step dad won't be here. Joel called me at his lunch hour today and told me again he is sorry and that he wants me to know he is married to a "MAN" not a mouse and he had called his mom and told her that it is not a good time for her to come when his sister is moving in and everyone else is coming. I am so thankful to God for Joel finally hearing me. I know that we need to have some talks about when I say something he needs to at least pay attention and listen and we need to make the decision together not just him. You'd think after almost 24 years of marriage we would be further along by now but, I do know that I have felt like such a piece of poop with my self image that I have allowed myself to be runover and treated like I don't matter. Sometimes I wonder if there will be an end to the things being so morbidly obese has contributed to my life. It was such an identifyer for me of who I was. I wasn't a person at all I was just an blob, to me and now I am starting to feel more human and it is an adjustment to everyone involved.
Thanks for letting me rant here and for your loving words about Moms in general. Not having grown up with one around much I didn't really see that is their specialty. lol.
Annie -- Hubby and I STILL work on our communication issues. Why is it the same things come up over and over again! I'm so glad to hear Joel listened to you! And I hope you start to see all the many ways you DO matter!!!
I'm very glad your DH was able to re-group and call his Mom back. It's hard to be blind-sided by mom-superpowers. Moms seem to know just when you are tired or having other issues that sap your energy. Their superpowers are can ambush an unsuspecting child in a millisec!! Methinks all relationships deal with similar issues when there's a narcissistic mom involved.
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