So, I need help with my friend (who I also live with). I sometimes feel she is trying to sabotage my weight loss. She knows I am watching what I eat yet she tried getting me to go to Taco Bell with her Saturday, and kept trying to give me excuses to go (I didn't give in). And makes unhealthy dinners I don't want to eat and makes me feel bad when I say no (but again I don't give in). I wonder why she just can't take no for an answer. HELP

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Is the gym. We both belong to the same gym, but she never goes, only when she sees I am going she will ask to go with me. I began going straight from school, so I can go alone (because I enjoy working out alone), but there are times when I leave for the gym from our home. The other night she saw me going and asked me to wait 5 minutes for her, which I did. Then I was in the middle of my work out and she was done, so I felt like we had to go. How can I tell her I rather work out alone without hurting her feelings?

Sounds like you need to make time for a chat and be honest with her. Affirm that you care about her and want to maintain a close friendship, but need her help to try to live more healthy. You gotta be honest. If you don't, things will keep bothering you and it will kill your friendship. You don't want that to happen. Friends are too important.
Beth

Some people are food pushers. I don't know if they feel they're doing the world a service my pushing food on people or what. However, it also appears that this is the "misery loves company" fable. She's eating poorly, so she wants others to. I'm really proud of you for not giving in about your eating. That's excellent! And difficult to do! Maybe she just wants to hang out with you more. Might I suggest planning to eat together one night? Only you offer to do the cooking? She might be feeling a little left out. You could have a weekly (or several times a week or every couple of weeks) sort of planned dinner. That way you get to eat together, but she's not pushing all sorts of crap onto your plate.

The exercise... ouch...

If you're the one driving you guys to the gym, just be sure to tell her how long you're going to be there. That way she expects that when she's done she might have to wait. (You don't have to end your work out when she does...). Some nice ways to deter her from coming might be to say that you're staying there for an extra long work out... or claim to be heading out for a chore and you happened to stop at the gym on the way home. >_>

Although if you don't want to be all tricksy about your gym time (and you shouldn't have to be) when she asks you can just tell her. "Listen, so&so, I like spending time with you, but I like to just zone out and do my thing when I'm exercising." And yeah, she might take it personally, and it might hurt her a little, but I mean you're both adults. Sometimes we want to be alone. (I can relate, I'm an "alone" exerciser, too.)

Thank you bethbeth and Faerie for the advice. I think I will be honest with her, and ask her nicely if she can respect my choices. I also liked your idea Faerie about eating dinner with her once a week, but I do the cooking. I think that will work out well, and I will pre-plan the meals. As for the gym I think I will try and specify how long I plan on being, so she knows. Thank you.

I just want to jump in and say - that most Taco Bells display a flier with the nutritional info - there is a lot that you can get that is lower cal/lower WW pt./lower fat. They also have the info on their web site - and they have an el fresco menu that leaves out things like cheese and sour cream for a healthier option.

My friend was buggin' me the other day (about issues non-weight related) and I told her how I felt - and I don't think I hurt her feelings too much. Now she knows and we are good to go - had I not said anything, things would have eventually caused a rift in our friendship.

It is always best to be gentle, but honest. It will make your friendship stronger!