Some people are food pushers. I don't know if they feel they're doing the world a service my pushing food on people or what. However, it also appears that this is the "misery loves company" fable. She's eating poorly, so she wants others to. I'm really proud of you for not giving in about your eating. That's excellent! And difficult to do! Maybe she just wants to hang out with you more. Might I suggest planning to eat together one night? Only you offer to do the cooking? She might be feeling a little left out. You could have a weekly (or several times a week or every couple of weeks) sort of planned dinner. That way you get to eat together, but she's not pushing all sorts of crap onto your plate.
The exercise... ouch...
If you're the one driving you guys to the gym, just be sure to tell her how long you're going to be there. That way she expects that when she's done she might have to wait. (You don't have to end your work out when she does...). Some nice ways to deter her from coming might be to say that you're staying there for an extra long work out... or claim to be heading out for a chore and you happened to stop at the gym on the way home. >_>
Although if you don't want to be all tricksy about your gym time (and you shouldn't have to be) when she asks you can just tell her. "Listen, so&so, I like spending time with you, but I like to just zone out and do my thing when I'm exercising." And yeah, she might take it personally, and it might hurt her a little, but I mean you're both adults. Sometimes we want to be alone. (I can relate, I'm an "alone" exerciser, too.)
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