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Originally Posted by nelie
Didn't you say it was hard to find a job in your area? I imagine the same may be true for some of the guys. I don't agree with not having a car as being a bad thing. I got my first car at 23 and with it came a lot of expenses, in larger cities, it is perfectly normal to not have a car. I've also dated a few guys that didn't go to college and some of them were paid very, very well. So if you just said someone didn't have a car, job or didn't go to college, I wouldn't immediately think they were deadbeats. Other factors may prove that but it would depend on the circumstance. You just have to be aware that you aren't there to take care of them if they don't have a job.
Not having a car isn't a bad thing, but I live out in the country, and it's a 30-40 minute drive to just about EVERYWHERE worth going -- including the guy's house if he lives that far away or further (which, in my case, they usually do)! You wouldn't want to drive all the time either if you were in the same situation. I'm not asking that they have a Lamborghini or anything, just something to get them from point A to point B (and it doesn't even have to be a car; my last bf drove a moped, lol). I've only been with one or two guys that have had their own means of transportation, and one of those fortunately lived right down the road from me (the moped guy!). Maybe it's selfish, but for once I'd like to have a bf cart me around instead of me carting him around.
And going to college isn't a requirement either. I just need the guy to be making attempts at making his own way, if he isn't already, just like I am. I have goals and aspirations that I'm working towards achieving, and I have a car and while I might have a crappy retail job in the meantime, it's still a job and
some source of income is better than having no source of income. I've also been in too many situations where I end up having to foot the bill for everything because the guy's always too broke to do anything. That gets
old.
I'm not asking for Mr. Perfect, but I am asking for someone that's going in the same direction that I am, with a little bit of tit for tat. I give a lot in relationships and don't get much in return, and for once I'd like a relationship that wasn't lop-sided in some way. I don't think that's too much to ask, do you?