Heh. The toybox was my hubby's idea. He doesn't like it as much as me, I wish he'd use the stuff in there more often - but that's okay.
Ro - i don't think it's weird for your hubby to play alone. i play alone - but i don't let mine know cause i think he might get jealous. i know i get jealous when he'd rather have "alone time" then be with me.

I never really got the hang of fantasizing really I mean sometimes I will think of a certian female I adore, but most of the time I am better off thinking about nothing. I have to concentrate on not thinking of a million things or I will think of something that distracts me, and the sex isn't very good. *L*

Jessica - where does one find a book like that? i could be interested in that. We get an AdamEve catalog all the time, but there ususally isn't anything like that in there.

I love that people here just tell it like it is. Finally people like me. heh.

Wow...i almost missed out on a very cool thread. I have no problems with our sex life. I do think the more I just forget I am out of shape and jiggle, the more relaxed I am and the better it is. If I can just remember that feeling..... Then again it is kinda like the car windshield. You can drive around for months with it caked with dirt, smudges and fingerprints, you finally clean it and you wonder why you don't clean it more often. Perhaps it is just laziness.....

Flower- nice metaphor!

...but now we are never sure who we are going to wake up next to.....dd 11 and dd 5 find there way into our bed some nights.....yikes!

Eliz