Lemon cake is yummy! My eldest DS asks me every year to make his favorite homemade lemon cake for his birthday, which is coming up. It's a lemon poke cake....lemon cake with lemon jello poured into the holes and for the icing you use cool whip mixed with lemon pudding. Yum!
When I was pregnant and going on a coffee run for my office, the manager at Dunkin Donuts yelled at me and told me I shouldn't have the coffee that her coworker had just sold to me.
I was so since I was also unable to control my pregnancy hormones and told her I'd buy and ingest whatever I wanted, and OF COURSE I wasn't drinking five separate orders of coffee!
I think both sides of this conversation are quite strange. Why wouldn't you just explain your eating philosophy OR give your honest reaction to his comments. Instead, you played along. "What if I really wanted it?" Seems flirtatious, not offended. I personally wouldn't read anything negative or positive into the words without asking for more information. I rarely get offended or angry, and wouldn't have in a situation like this. What I would have done is ask, "What makes you think I can't lose weight and have a bit of cake now and again?" Or, "I didn't lose weight by forbidding myself occasional treats, I'm not going to start now" or even "Watching what I eat is my job, not yours, and if I need your help, I'll ask for it, " and no matter what I said or didn't say I probably wouldn't be angry, because I truly don't care enough about what strangers and acquaintences think of me for it to ruin or even affect my mood. Open hostility can even be amusing when you don't care what that person thinks.
Yeah sorry, but I agree completely that this is likely an excellent lesson in not bringing up your weight loss. Whether he meant it as a joke, help, or even offense, it wouldn't have even been brooched as an issue if you were a little more cautious with the small talk. It's unfortunate we have to watch out for the food police, even very kind and well intentioned ones, but that's reality. Take this as one of many life lessons in the subject of "WEIGHT".
Everyone's got an opinion, most are not going to mesh with yours/mine. Thus, don't bring it up if you can help it, or expect some negative/weird reactions like that
Is there any thread lately on 3FC that doesn't become a snark-fest? Seriously.
Quoting this poster but my response isn't aimed at them
This could be part of the issue - overly sensitive responses or easy offense. I just read this whole thread and saw absolutely nothing worthy of a lock or post deletions. Offering a variety of opinions, even those that are strongly worded or deeply sentimented, doesn't mean something is drama/snark/bad.
If something this mellow gets censored, it would be pretty ridiculous. I've seen worse, but I keep hoping the hair-trigger flaggers will get someone telling them to grow up and deal with *slight* verbal adversity, especially where no malice is intended.
It was a great thread, actually, in that many of us deal with this during our weight loss and maintenance. Seeing the different potential responses to the situation from the angle of other people is very valuable. Even if we don't agree it can certainly make us think.
Lunarsongbird - maybe he'd struggled with weight himself? Or has someone in his family who has? Who knows? It sounds as if he was trying to be helpful, but I wasn't there, so I can't be sure. You are the best judge of that.
That's what I thought too. But then I'm a lemon dessert addict and would have had the lemon food dreams.
Quoting this poster but my response isn't aimed at them
This could be part of the issue - overly sensitive responses or easy offense. I just read this whole thread and saw absolutely nothing worthy of a lock or post deletions. Offering a variety of opinions, even those that are strongly worded or deeply sentimented, doesn't mean something is drama/snark/bad.
If something this mellow gets censored, it would be pretty ridiculous. I've seen worse, but I keep hoping the hair-trigger flaggers will get someone telling them to grow up and deal with *slight* verbal adversity, especially where no malice is intended.
It was a great thread, actually, in that many of us deal with this during our weight loss and maintenance. Seeing the different potential responses to the situation from the angle of other people is very valuable. Even if we don't agree it can certainly make us think.
Exactly!!
Now to me the bigger queation would be how did "Luna" get those cute little drawings in there?
since I was also unable to control my pregnancy hormones and told her I'd buy and ingest whatever I wanted, and OF COURSE I wasn't drinking five separate orders of coffee!
don't see many of these posts here
