Finally, confirmation that someone else is going through what I am. You girls have made me feel much more normal.
I am 27 and currently living with my boyfriend of 5 years. We (I) anticipate that we'll be married within the next year. Everything is great, exept for my dread of having sex.
It started about 3 years ago, gradually at first. That was when I had started to gain the weight. I would turn him down occasionally but most of the time we had fantastic sex. As the months passed my sexual desire gradually declined. A year ago I went on anti-depressent meds and since then...I'm bone dry.
Over that past 6 months we have tried everything to get my libido back. We've romanced each other, played games, watched movies, dressed up, talked, talked and talked. It's not budging.
I was finally able to admit to myself that it was my weight brining us down. He is a dream and still thinks I am sexy and beautiful. He says he just wants to be close to me. What else could I ask for right?
So, alas I am on another diet. Hoping that this time my weightloss will fix another one of my personal problems. When I met my boyfriend I was significantly smaller. About 175, I am now an enormous 228. It make so much sense that this is the issue. I mean, I even feel uncomfortable seeing my family because I've gained so much weight.
So the only solution is:
Weightloss = Increase in Libido
Hoping, hoping, hoping that's the answer.
