Ok I am like the person that not only got used to such comments but has learnt how to answer with full-blown force. Two great stories:

1. This ex-colleague had this weird antagonism with me I could never comprehend. One day it was our turn to go to the restaurant and bring the food. So we were waiting in line and she goes "I that guy is not taking his eyes off me!" and I look at her and go "Umm I think he's looking at me." She goes "No way you're too fat!" (No seriously she said that). I had no time to answer and the guy comes to us and says to me " I am sorry I don't usually do this but I just wanted to say your smile is the most gorgeous I have ever seen" And because I like to kick idiots when they fall I turned to her (after he left) and said "OMG I am fat but my personlity is hot. Try using yours sometimes too."

2. This was absolutely priceless. I was dating a guy but I wasn't attracted so he tries to kiss me and I turn my cheek. He gets pissed and goes "You're too fat and you should be glad I want to date you." My answer was "Gee I didn't know that being a chauvinistic a-hole is elligible dating quality."

I endured a situation like that for quite some time. I think I was conditioned for it by growing up with a father who was the exact same way to my mom (who is an ex-bulimic). It is really hard to lose weight while also having to deal with negativity and I found that unless I had a way to distance myself from or remove the source, I just couldn't handle both simultaneously.

I'm more than 100 lbs overweight and had an ex whose favorite subjects to joke about were "fat people" and "emos". I really like some elements of Scene-style and would incorporate it into my wardrobe, prompting him to call me an "emo" and laugh about my clothes or try to cut me down when I dressed up. This, combined with all of his jokes and insults about overweight people (which he swore wasn't about me) really started to make me think that it was his thinly-disguised passive-aggressive way of trying to hurt me. It would make me really angry.

Finally, it pushed me to make a stand for what I believe in and he became an ex. My journal suddenly got a lot less sad and confused!

I currently live at home and have to deal with my sister and father, who are particularly hypersensitive. I don't have the means to move out right now, so I continue to find relief in writing and music, and just try to remember that I am meant to overcome each of these little tests which are placed before me, because where I will be eventually will be so much better and worth it!

I actually have seen couples fall appart BECAUSE the girl got skinny from being fat. Some men can't handle a woman THEY think can get "better" guys than them.
I doubt I have to explain how stupid such a notion is... but it is obviously true. I mean come Ooooon do they only date women THEY think are unlikable? That is like... so the opposite of what a mentaly healthy person looks for in a date?
Those men (and women perhaps) who do that obviously have way more serious problems than a few extra pounds.

The only time I ever dealt with this was when my mom took a look at me (when I weighed about 40 lbs less than I do now) and said, "You're getting FAT!" I didn't say anything, but only because it was my mom. Anyone else I probably would have said something. But yeah it's hard because even if they don't SAY anything, sometimes you can tell when people are thinking something, but you can't say anything if they don't.

Yeah, people who keep saying rude things need to be pushed out of your life, I think. You can't always do that, of course. My mom is like this, but less than she used to be.

I also understand the discomfort someone said about comments AFTER losing. I gained, then lost, then gained again. I could handle some of the comments, but sometimes you realize just how much people treat you differently just because of your weight, and that can be upsetting.

I agree that weight should be between you and your doctor, and no one else, unless you specifically bring up the topic yourself. I would never go up and just comment that someone is fat, and I can't understand why others do this all the time. I know it's a lot of insecurity, but geez, it just seems that no one thinks before opening their mouths, and that makes me sad.

Currently, when relatives make comments on my weight (which is at an all time high because I was hospitalized recently and on medications that cause weight gain), I tell them I don't want to discuss it, ask them why they'd ask me that, or just shrug it off. I sometimes explain that their approach certainly is not going to help me lose weight, only to be upset with them.