That would put you around 2300 calories a day - probably fine for maintaining your current weight but not very helpful if you are looking to lose. Maybe try aiming for 10 times the weight you want to be.

As others have said, support from friends and family is wonderful but this is your life, your body, your "problem". Come here for support - you'll get plenty! Join one of the many challenges to get support from folks doing the same thing you are. If you can't afford weight watchers count calories, you'll get LOTS of support from the wonderful folks in that forum. Log your food every day at myplate or fitday or sparkpeople.

You can do it! We're here to help but you are the one who will have to actually do it.

I agree, I would NEVER lose weight eating 10 times my weight.

Also, if your family eats out a lot, look up beforehand what calories are in what and decide what sounds good, that way you'll be prepared. maybe even make a list of things you like from restaurants that you go to frequently.

But I gotta agree, the food is it. I spent the entire last YEAR, yes literally, a year, in the mid 180's, working out here and there, going on 3 hour bike rides and hitting the gym at least 4 times a week. my weight did Nothing. In the last two weeks I've started calorie counting, and today I'm at 179. I'd recommend reading the Hacker's diet, it's long but the calorie estimator on there is better than any I've seen anywhere else. I especially like his idea that calorie counting is a good external way to help those who can't tell, a way to know when they should be 'done' eating.

Also I want to say that processed food won't make you full. There are chemicals in it that actually 'turn off' hunger signals.......for example, I can eat a 100 calorie apple with 300 calories of peanut butter and feel stuffed, or order the macho nachos at dennys that are over 1000 and feel the same amount stuffed. It's all about quality of food.

there are many plans with week long 'eating schedules' but again, I dont' know what foods you like or don't, what foods motivate you, etc.....some people would hate atkins, other's would hate programs like fit for life that are vegan. we'd definitely need to know more. but I bet you coudl find a lot of information by googling it.

Edited to add: I've been losing weight at 13-1400 calories a day, I think ten times your Goal weight makes a lot more sense.

I eat about 10 times my weight in calories; my average calories per day for the last 4 weeks is 2068. I am losing weight at the rate of about 3 to 5 pounds per month right now.

I am also very active; I do 30 to 60 minutes of formal exercise per day, and I am on my feet at work and/or home 4 to 8 hours per day. And I make sure to pay careful attention to getting at least 7 to 8 hours of quality sleep each night.

So, it's not a crazy idea to eat 10x one's weight in calories for weight loss, and for some people it may be a very winning strategy. Personally, I don't lose weight on low calories in the range of 1600 or less.

I am normally on my feet around 7 to 8 hours a day 5 times a week, and I am walking at least 10,000 or steps a day as an estimate. I am constantly back and forth. I haven't seen any changes in my weight or inches but I have been eating a little less than normal and healthier foods since last Saturday. I've been trying really hard and I run stairs with my boyfriend during evenings.

I do have problem running or speed walking or doing things that involve me moving up and down. It sounds stupid, but I have a lot of pressure on my chest and it causes me a lot of trouble breathing on top of my asthma. I'm trying my hardest and I really thank you guys for your support. :]

Menu plans? Here are several -- middle left column, links in red.

http://diabeticgourmet.com/Food_and_...Meal_Planning/

HTH!
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We are all on your struggle...I am still trying to find a local friend to workout with. I think I am going to join the gym for 2 months and see if I can connect with someone to motivate me and me do the same for them...I hope you the best on your journey.