Im becoming more like this every day. I've been getting a lot of compliments lately and instead of feeling almost awkward my first thoughts are "Yeah thats right . . . I got curves, I rock them, I know it"
I think a good chunk of that comes not so much from an egocentric stance but more the pride of realizing what I've accomplished for myself and that I am happy other people have noticed that hard work too
I didn't feel discomfort with compliments when I was smaller, but I don't like comments on my weight, period. It feels very judgmental to me -- as though there is an implication that there was something wrong with me before. I feel angry on behalf of my "pre" self because when I weighed 182 I was the same worthwhile, smart, wonderful person I was when I weighed 134.
I will never forget how belittled I felt when, at a party I threw for my husband, I caught his cousin's husband eyeing me. He smiled and put his thumb and forefinger a tiny bit apart and said, "About five more pounds. I think there's room there for about five more pounds." The conceit! He thought he was complimenting me. To this day, I wish I'd lit into him.
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You know, I was just going to put in my status update on facebook something about how I'm going to be very dangerous to the pocketbook when I get to goal, because I'm going to buy a full wardrobe of form fitting/flattering clothes. I'm already buy form fitting/flattering clothes as I go down in size and I will continue with that.
I am LOVING feeling like a sexier woman again. I am loving that I'm seeing my figure re-emerge. In my youth (teens and early twenties, the last time I was thinner), I was poor and couldn't afford more clothes and I was so self conscious. I didn't want people looking at my body or my boobs. Now? I want EVERYONE to see me (in a good way) and I want to flaunt the figure I'm working on.
Maybe it's maturity or maybe it's finally getting comfortable with my body or maybe it's from wearing the fat suit for so long that even with my body's imperfections (as it is NOT perfect or ever will be), I can see how much better it looks. Or maybe it's that America is getting so fat, that my 'biggness' in my big frame doesn't seem so out of place now.
I don't know what it is, but I am loving the compliments of, "You look fabulous!" WHo doesn't want to hear that over and over again? And I still have at least 25 pounds to go!
I didn't post anything on my FB page because I don't think most people will get it or will think I'm conceited or something.
But you guys can get it. I've worked hard to lose these pounds and to get fit and I love having that effort recognized!
agreed i lost 40 pounds (goin for the last 25) and i soak it up to :P its just being a girl hon. I MEAN yea we have boyfriends or husbands and we love them to death but if htey stop you form getting compliments then well its not fair your not doing anything wrong. Your just feeling sexy Unless your flirting and hitting on them then theres a problem but if not its fine :P
First off, I must say that was a great complement!
But I must say, I do like compliments, but I don't like random guys honking at me when I'm on my power walk, guys just stopping and staring (creepy), or guys constantly making sexual innuendos to me anywhere from gas stations, grocery stores, and to my gym.
But sincere, pleasant compliments are always welcome.
But there are rude people out there just like, kept staring at me for 15 minutes straight, even after my dh and I gave him warning looks. Now that's what make me feel very very very uncomfortable.
The result was my dh and I had to leave the restaurant. It was really annoying. (well no fight we love peace after all).
I basically agree 100% with the comment above by AshleyLaurent
I'm not a big fan of the "oh, you've lost weight!" comments- I guess to me weight loss is personal, though it is there for everyone to see. I just don't want people to think I lost weight to appease them, I did it just for me!
I can also see people uncomfortable with general compliments- for a lot of women, we hide behind our weight and use it as a shield, and it takes a lot of adjustment to realize that compliments are a GOOD thing! It's a psychological issue.
Myself, I'm *just* starting to take compliments at face value. I can be a cynical person, so while compliments could give me an initial boost, I would later analyze and think "oh, they were just saying that to be nice..." or "oh, they just want to get laid" (hahahah). It feels really good when you can start to accept the compliments though! So good. We have a right to feel wonderful in our skin!
Isn't that why we lose weight in the first place? To feel more beautiful and sexy? And then it's proved (by the compliments, looks and attention) we should feel good!
