Hi everyone! I'm new here. I've been reading alot of posts of women who say they are uncomfortable with any attention they get after weight loss. I'm beginning to think I'm a freak of nature because I suck it up like a thirsty sponge! I'm 48 and have been married to a great guy for 30 years. He has ALWAYS lavished compliments on me no matter what my size, so it's not like I'm starved for attention. I have to say I think he enjoys too.When we are out together and other men check me out he has this look on his face that says" Yeah, she's hot and she's mine!" I was at a deli counter the other day and the clerk (a woman about my age whom I've never seen before) said " I was going to compliment you on your hair,but now I see you have it ALL going on!" Ok, I just re read what I wrote.I sound completely stuck on myself. I really am not,but I'm loving every bit of the attention! I do wonder if there is something wrong with me that I don't feel the least bit uncomfortable?
There is nothing wrong with feeling sexy after working hard to get the body you want. Soak it up and strut your stuff and swing your hips - what's the point of being a woman if you can't feel hot?!
I get that. Although I haven't gotten it forever, there are times when people see me now a lot of the time they are... almost shocked (i think?) about how "pretty" and "beautiful" I am now.. Like, was I not before? LOL. I haven't lost all that much in my face, but my cheekbones are more noticeable than before, and my collar bones are starting to show up.
And I don't think you should feel uncomfortable! It's confidence in the way you look and feel, so... soak it up! You deserve it!
I have never felt the slightest amount of discomfort over compliments on my weight loss and I don't know understand why other people do. I have worked very hard on it so I felt like I deserved every one of them. I actually found those comments very motivational.
I'm another one who has trouble understanding others' discomfort with attention. I get it intellectually, but like you, it's not how I feel. It's fantastic to appreciate your own hard work and to like it when others see it too.
Compliments are wonderful things. So is self-confidence. If loving these things is wrong, I don't want to be right.
I flippin' love compliments-I mean, I give plenty of them because I am just that kind of a person, but I love getting them too, especially after losing weight. I've only lost 12 pounds and I have my guy friends saying that I look really great and look like I am really working hard. I'm pretty happy with it.
Another one who is not uncomfortable with the extra attention at all. First I was getting it due to the loss, now that it's been from folks which never knew me fat, which feels even nicer.
Its not conceit it's confidence. Nothing wrong with it. My guy is similiar to your hubby! He has always loved and given me compliments no matter my shape or size. And he too gets a boost of confidence when guys are checking his girl out. It's just means he picked the right one and has impeccable taste.
If you're feeling great, it rubs off on people. The world needs to be a little bit more happy.
I wrote this recently elsewhere on the forum - what better place to pat yourself on the back than in an anonymous forum?! There's a bit of modesty in us all that would not share with everyone in person what awesome compliment you got for fear of not being modest. Here, though, let it rip!
OOoo! New Thread idea!!
Last edited by fitness4life; 05-18-2011 at 11:15 AM.
I confess I eat it up like candy too. I love the compliments, and usually just smile and say thank you. I work in a very large office with 100's of employees who don't see me every day or even every week/month, so I get compliments pretty much every day from someone. Plus, when your entire wardrobe changes, people are bound to notice. Smaller body = much cuter clothes. And I think I must be carrying myself differently too because I have gotten the "you got taller" comment many times. Could be the shoes. I never used to be a shoe person, but now I love love love looking at the high healed shoes. They don't hurt like they used to, and they make you look so long and lean. Love it!
I am completely eating it up...let me tell you! I get flirted with all of the time now...by the jeweler, the pharmacist, you name it. I am LOVING it. I have worked my butt off to lose 79 pounds now and get a toned body...and I am going to savor every compliment I get.
What makes it more fun, is that I am a Middle Eastern dancer, and my weight loss has made it so I had to get all new dance costumes. Here is one of my new ones...I just debuted this costume about 2 weeks ago:
I had dancers who hadn't seen me in a while tell me how fabulous I looked...and I loved every minute of it. Like an earlier poster said, I worked hard, and am working hard every day to maintain my weight loss...so I feel like I deserve it!
and don't worry, I love when people give me attention. I don't feel uncomfortable about it, and I know I look good. I don't think it's conceited for me to think this way, im just confident on how i look! and I don't think there is anything wrong with that!
Why yes,I AM hot!
Ok, I just re read what I wrote.I sound completely stuck on myself. I really am not,but I'm loving every bit of the attention! I do wonder if there is something wrong with me that I don't feel the least bit uncomfortable?
