Ok, I'm starting this, only because I need someone to vent to...you may all feel free to join in, or just let me win this one!!
You are all well aware of the 60 mile walk I am doing. It has put me in many situations that I feel the need to defend my weight and my belief that I can do this. But not usually with people I know. This one was made to me by my sister-in-law..
Back ground on conversation.....
Disscussing the walk (she will be walking with me)..saying how lucky we were that she will be on our team as we have heard the line for masssages at the end of the day can be extremely long. She is in school for massage therepy. She said that she will be doing ours for us. Asked if I had ever had a massage. I said yes, in Nova Scotia there is a wonderful spa that I loved to go to, but I always felt bad for the person giving me one, that they had to touch my fat...Her reply...
"Yes, it is pretty disgusting, espesially the fat people that don't take showers and stuff. But I guess most fat people are like normal people on the inside."
And how did I respond to this??? I had enough to drink to do so at the time, but now I will be good and let you think of your own responses!!
What is with people????
Stacey
Stacey, sometimes I think some people just talk to hear noise coming out of thier mouths. Sounds like your SIL needs a wake up call about her attitude. I think I would have shot back something like this " Yeah, and there's no accounting for normal people either, they're just too *****y not to notice how rude they are being to fat people" and walked away. Of course, I've never been known to be tactful!!!
i just got home a little while ago from the bypass surgery support group, and the guest speaker was this adorable teenage chiropractor. ok ok ok. so he wasn't exactly a teenager. but, he's into sports therapy and exercise counseling and such, and he's been a bit suprised to find himself among people with so much weight to lose, and so much motivation to change.
and he said something strange, but he meant it rather kindly, in a baffled sort of way. his comment was that he had found out that heavy people hate to exercise, and he didn't understand why. of course people piped up a whole list of answers, and he listened with respect and interest [of course, he does indeed see dollar signs in all this].
all this is a long winded way of saying that those who have never experienced it have no clue. maybe your clueless SIL [she's a blond, isn't she?????] should go to some of the obesity clinics and see what the truth is....
Ditto what Tip and MamaJ said! I'm one of those people who just stand there speechless and let the moment pass, then come up with a great come-back on the drive home! I probably would have cried!! Some people are just clueless!!
My sister in law too!! She told me last week, "I don't like that outfit." I didn't respond, I've learned not to. "You know why I don't like that outfit?" Still silent. "It's because it makes you look 3 times bigger than you really are!" As if I was supposed to change immediately or something. I replied, "I guess I just don't care what people think!" DUH!! See what I mean?
I have learned to ignore her, as she was born without the gene for tact. She once told me that the reason she thought my daughter talked so slow was because I must have done drugs while I was pregnant with her. Can we say southern accent???????
I'm sorry you had to put up with that windbag! Feel better!!
"I may be fat, but you are ugly. At least I can lose weight!"
I despise those who have no clue. And, no tact. I hope you have a close enough relationship you can overlook this and pray to God that she didn't mean it the way it sounds.
"Yes, it is pretty disgusting, espesially the fat people that don't take showers and stuff. But I guess most fat people are like normal people on the inside."
And how did I respond to this???
Well Stacy .. I think I would have told her in a calm manner ..
" Yes you "normal" people arent as disgusting on the outside ... BUT your really gross on the inside arnt you .. and us fat dirty people can shower .. but not even a vinager and water douch could clean the disgusting comments that just came from your mouth!!!"
Or
" Why dont you stick your head up my *** to find out just how normal I am!! That will take the guessing out of your comment!"
I would say "Why are you trying to hurt my feelings? " and then wait for her to answer. If she didn't respond I'd ask again, only in a much louder voice. (The more people around, the more effect this has, trust me, I know). You only have to lose it with a couple of well chosen people and then everybody else backs off out of fear or embarassment. And it ain't me.
Well I like Goomba's best but Nora's is probable the most effective.
I love you guys - and didn't have to censor anything!
McMom now has lots of ammunition for the next time.
Rudest Fat person comment of the week..
Awwwwwwww Stacey!
